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Are you a packer or an overviewer? (Lighthearted)

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Lexisgranny Fri 25-Feb-22 10:43:00

Some of us are now thinking of holidays and/or long overdue visits to family, this will involve packing. Are you in total charge of packing after minimal discussion, an overseer, or do you leave it until you get there to give your other half the benefit of your observations.

The entire procedure could be fraught with issues. If you do it all, you will doubtless have ‘forgotten’ to pack the disreputable, but ‘essential’ folding straw hat for example. If you oversee, there is a good chance the atmosphere could get decidedly cool before you even lock the front door. The final possibility is that something vital will have been left behind, or indeed packed, that the other party considered essential/dislikes intensely. It can lead to heated exchanges such as “did you really expect to spend the entirely holiday in flip flops./ your suit case wouldn’t weigh a ton had you not put three pairs of formal leather shoes in it for a beach holiday “.

Doubtless there are thousands of couples who sail through these dilemmas, but equally I know several who don’t!

Is there a perfect formula, or should the suitcases go straight back In the loft?.

B9exchange Fri 25-Feb-22 10:48:07

We each pack for ourselves, with a suitcase each, no arguments, if someone forgets something we either buy it or do without?

Sarahmob Fri 25-Feb-22 10:57:55

My DH is instructed to put his requirements on the bed, and then I pack the cases. We tend to do half and half as flying to Australia one of our suitcases once went astray and he had no clean underwear until it turned up. Now the loss of one suitcase still ensures that we both have at least one change of clothes.

Blossoming Fri 25-Feb-22 11:00:59

I am the sole packer.

Aveline Fri 25-Feb-22 11:01:57

We each pack our own cases.

rosie1959 Fri 25-Feb-22 11:02:07

I am in total charge but I have much more time than my husband who still runs his own company and has to sort that out
But as long as we have his medication, phone chargers, money and cards as well as any documents needed then any thing else can be brought if necessary.
But I can guarantee that after I have packed the car and we have set off he will say have you got x

Greenfinch Fri 25-Feb-22 11:15:18

My DH does his own though he hates it. He manages to survive with very little and a very small case. I stuff mine full with “just in case” things that I really don’t need.

JaneJudge Fri 25-Feb-22 11:20:45

we pack for ourselves but this hasn't been without the occasional drama

M0nica Fri 25-Feb-22 11:30:09

Each of us pack for ourselves and what he wears is entirely up to him, but I am not into Holiday Packing, I do not buy holiday clothes or have a holiday wardrobe.

Obviously I would pack a swim suit for a seaside holiday or extra warm clothes for a winter holiday in Norway, but beyond that it is no different to packing to vsit children or, in the past, business travel.

Sago Fri 25-Feb-22 11:31:45

We each do our own.
The children used to have to do theirs from 10/11 ish.
My husband takes more than me on holiday…if in doubt pack it is his motto.

BlueSky Fri 25-Feb-22 11:43:01

Rosie1959
“But as long as we have his medication, phone chargers, money and cards as well as any documents needed then any thing else can be brought if necessary.”
Exactly Rosie I too am the sole packer and like you he always says “Have you put the .... in?” as we are on our way to the airport!

Blondiescot Fri 25-Feb-22 11:50:58

We only travel with hand luggage so there's very little to pack. Five minutes and we're done.

notgran Fri 25-Feb-22 12:21:49

We do exactly like sarahmob. Case goes in a spare room on the bed, week before OH is told to put his stuff by the case. I pack it all. Then we go through the generic holiday list I have had at the back of my diary (it gets updated and carried forward to each new diary) and off we go. Came back from North Wales last week, on the journey home, about 120 miles into the journey, I said to my OH, "You did take the hot water bottle out of the bed, didn't you?". Valid question as he was last to get up. Of course he hadn't. The housekeeping staff will have had a giggle.

Oldnproud Fri 25-Feb-22 12:29:21

We each do our own, but DH is much better at it than I am. His clothes will be neatly folded, and mine badly folded.
When we pack to come home, his will again be folded neatly, while my case will resemble a laundry basket.

Mollygo Fri 25-Feb-22 13:30:52

I used to do all the packing. Now we pack for ourselves but put some sets of our clothes in each case -you only have to lose a suitcase or find it’s been sent on somewhere else once, to make that a necessity.

Lexisgranny Fri 25-Feb-22 14:59:48

Agree entirely about splitting clothes, we also take a spare set of underclothes in hand luggage, since losing a suitcase twice in the USA. Unfortunately we once took a holiday in a remote village where it was not possible to buy the items forgotten. My husband sorts out his own medication and we are each responsible for our own in hand luggage, plus copies of prescriptions. Actually, though it would appear that Gransnetters are a fairly organised bunch!

Judy54 Fri 25-Feb-22 15:12:41

We each pack our own. Unusually I am the minimalist and Mr J always takes far to may clothes. I tend to take separates and look at what tops go with which trousers/skirts and what colours go together. We have a list of basic essentials like soap, toiletries, towels etc and I check and double check ticking things of my list as I go. Sounds sad but I am an organised person who makes to do lists for everything!

Witzend Fri 25-Feb-22 16:36:39

We each pack our own. After so many business trips before retirement, dh has his down to a fine art, and he only ever takes hand luggage, however long he’s going for.

I’ve only ever forgotten anything vital once, and that was knickers ? when we were off for a wedding in the Czech Republic. We stayed for the first night or two in Prague, where I have never been so pleased to see an M&S in my life!

GrannyGravy13 Fri 25-Feb-22 16:45:15

DH gets his clothes out, I then pack two suitcases with a selection of both our clothes (beachwear, daywear, evening wear, shoes, toiletries etc) just in case an item of luggage goes missing.

Medications and spare set of clothes in our carry on luggage.

DH packs for our return journey.

Kim19 Fri 25-Feb-22 20:25:50

We always each packed our own but we did it from a regular spreadsheet which we adjusted after each trip and removed any items we hadn't needed and added anything we wish we had taken. No problems ever experienced.

nexus63 Fri 25-Feb-22 20:45:24

at the moment i have 2 small suitcases packed, one for hospital and one if i need to leave in a hurry, i found my dad 5 years ago and first visit i packed too much, i buy most of my clothes from charity shops and the area he stays has 8/9 charity shops within a 2 min walk, so last time i just packed underwear and nighties and a few tops, got a great selection to bring home. i am always in the uk so it is easy to buy toiletries. when my husband was with me i did all the packing for the three of us and never had any problems, i am very practical and organised, family used to laugh when i packed our one bedroomed house in the morning and moved that night...lol

Cherrytree59 Fri 25-Feb-22 21:01:50

I do the holiday packing list
I pack the clothes, toiletries, hair paraphernalia and make up etc?

DH sorts his camera stuff, paperwork, passport if required and currency plus his holiday itinery dry and rain excursions (all researched for several weeks prior to hols)

If self-catering in UK then I bow to DH's car packing skills for what he calls my 'everything but the kitchen sink' ??

aonk Fri 25-Feb-22 22:18:37

We each do our own packing on the bed in our spare room. I have a “master list” of clothing etc and make a list from it for the trip we’re packing for. I cross each item off as I put it in the case. It’s not infallible but very nearly. My DH laughs at the list but did have to go and buy swim shorts and flip flops on our last holiday abroad!

LOUISA1523 Sat 26-Feb-22 08:45:22

Aveline

We each pack our own cases.

This
I have never packed or ironed for my partner in 37 years

Marmight Sat 26-Feb-22 09:23:56

The late Mr M always packed his own case although I did refold some of his stuff! We had matching cases but one was bigger than the other - mine grin. I start to think about what to take well in advance and lay it all out on the spare (kingsize) bed with a pile of ‘maybes’. It gets whittled down & packed the day before travel. I always roll clothes into ‘sausages’ which works so much better than flat packing. However hard I try, despite keeping an updated list on my iPad, I always forget something and take too much of another.
Ive started preparing well in advance for my forthcoming trip to Oz ?