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Please tell me I am not being selfish!

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dragonfly46 Mon 28-Feb-22 12:06:29

Don't even consider it.
She will be a constant drain on your time, emotions and possibly your finances.
Explain that you would find it impossible to live with some else at your age and although you feel sorry for her if her daughter won't have her why should you?

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grandMattie Mon 28-Feb-22 12:06:02

Absolutely not! You didn’t invite her, she assumed you would be happy with her suggestion. Make sure you don’t allow yourself to be trodden over. STAND YOUR GROUND! Good luck.

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WadesNan Mon 28-Feb-22 12:00:52

A long time friend (we have known each other for over 60 years) has been financing her daughters divorce (4 years and counting as they can't agree terms!). She is now talking about selling her house in order to continue to pay the solicitor/barrister bills and has suggested moving in with me.

Whilst it is true I do have room I am a very private person and although I enjoy meeting up with people I also enjoy closing my door and having my "alone" time. I am in my late 70s and my friend is in her 80s and not in the best of health and I am worried I could end up becoming her carer - something I don't want to do.

As she is currently paying a large part of her daughter's mortgage I suggested if she does sell up (which I have advised her against) she could move in with her daughter but her daughter has vetoed that idea!

Today I have received a phone call from a mutual friend who has tried to convince me to take her in - I am holding out but am beginning to feel like I am being selfish and letting my friend down.

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