Mothers going to Hen parties!

They’re a party generation. I was invited along with her future mum in law and two of my closest friends who’d been like aunties to my daughters. We had a really good time, cocktails, great food - I came home and the youngsters went clubbing. Then, they had a weekend in Barcelona - they enjoyed life, now they’re working, bringing up children, worrying about fuel costs and the unstable world .

I’ve been to both my granddaughters hen parties. They said it wouldn’t be the same if I didn’t go. Other grandma went too and my daughter ,?we had a great time !

I went to my daughter's hen party. The first part consisted of a group of men something like the Chippendales, but not THE Chippendales.

Because I was the oldest there, I was 'picked on'. One made me the butt of his ageist jokes; another came up writhing his body all around me, and then pulled his pants down so my face was about 12cm away from his willy. Ugh!

And then, in the loos, some women commented how envious they were of me for getting so much attention!! It was awful. The rest of the evening was all right, but I didn't go on to the nightclub later on.

My DD had two hen celebrations. One was organised by her bridesmaids and was a spa day then drinks and club evening in Disney fancy dress for her friends. Neither I nor future MIL were invited and I would not have wanted to go. The other which I organised was a dinner at a restaurant with a private room. This was for female family, future family and dear friends who had known DD all her life. We had a gallery (pre approved by DD) of photographs of her from her childhood onwards and there were (tasteful) hen party favours. DD said afterwards that she actually enjoyed her 'grown up' hen do more.

I went on my daughter's hen weekend. Riotous fun, in the main. I went out with them for one night of drinks and clubbing and stayed in the cottage and watched a film the second night!!!! It was lovely to have been invited.

I went to my DiLs hen do, along with her mum and stepmum. We had a lovely 'beforenoon tea' followed by a cocktail making session, including mocktails for those of us who didn't drink alcohol, and it was a small, civilised and very lovely occasion all round.

The day of DDs hen party there was a big rugby match on and the city was full of drunken fans. While travelling across town in the stretch, metallic pink Hummer (appalling) my sister and I sat, unamused in the back seat. From time to time, if stuck in traffic, these fans would stick their heads through the window (open for fresh air as some of the others were unsurprisingly nauseous) to see only the stony face of my teetotal sister and me! They retreated fast.

My DD’s friend for hers, hired a cottage in the Lake District where they had yoga, massages, walks etc., all ages were invited.

None of my children had hen dos thank goodness

I was asked to organise my daughter’s hen ‘do’ - and a very jolly time it was too. We hired a coach to take us on a winery tour with lunch and wine tasting included. It was all very civilised and we were mixed ages.

Elder DD preferred not to have one, but I and future MIL were invited to younger DDs hen weekend in Edinburgh in 2007. A lovely apartment, walking distance of Princes Street. Mixture of her friends, sister, cousins and us 2 Mums. We all had a good time, not raucous or rowdy. Afternoon tea at the Balmoral Hotel was an experience and shopping in Jenners (which I believe has now closed). A lovely weekend. Hen parties were unknown in 1971 when I was married!

Our DiL and our daughter do not drink alcohol. They both reluctantly went to friends hen nights and didn't enjoy them. They didn't like pub crawling and being hit on by drunken lads in town.
Not every hen night ends up drunken but the ones they went too did. They didn't have hen nights themselves it didn't appeal to them. They are very alike really just quiet girls who love family and a few friends. I didn't have hen nights and it's not something that appealed to me young or now in mid 60s

Kate1949

In fact I can't think of anyone I know who didn't go to their daughter's hen night.

Same here.. The group included my sister her Aunt,her Godmother, my friend who was her Childminder, my friend.
Her Future MoL with her sister as well as all her old school friends and work chums.
Why not we had a ball all in a big house over a long weekend.

My DD had her hen do at a spa where they had lodges. Myself and the mother in law went to everything in the day and meal on the night. The young girls all then went off into the city to party and we stayed in the lodge and chatted.

Didn’t want to join in with either of my daughters hen weekends. Mils didn’t go either, no oldies in attendance! Just their friends.
Was asked- just said no thanks!

My sister and I were invited to my daughter’s hen do, some years ago. We went out to a night club in the centre of Manchester. There were lots of hen parties going on, of all sorts. Some of her friends were amazingly dressed, but she just told us to wear something pink or sparkly and gave us a tiara each. I think my sister and I were meant to be company for one another, but all the girls were friendly and didn’t seem at all bothered by our presence.

I went to my DD’s hen weekend a few years ago. I must admit I was very wary at first and of having to “let myself go” a bit as I’m extremely shy, but we all (20 of us) had a wonderful time with a variety of activities planned throughout the weekend by the matron of honour. The oldest of the hen party guests was 80. No nightclubbing involved - I’d have had an early night if that was one of the activities!

I went to DIL's hen party too.
That was a civilised meal but with some very funny anecdotes afterwards!

I went to my daughters hen party weekend so did her MIL, plus a couple of older relatives.
We went to Manchester, first night we went to a cocktail bar then a Japanese Teppanyaki restaurant. The next day in the morning we went to a dance studio and learnt a routine to a Grease song, then afternoon tea in a posh hotel. In the evening the younger ones went clubbing and older ones to an Indian restaurant. It was a lovely weekend and daughter really enjoyed it. She would have been upset if I hadn’t gone.

Jaxjacky

Not for me, let the younger ones enjoy themselves without restraint, no worrying about the MOB or future MIL.

It was actually my DIL who invited me. I never dreamt, nor expected that I would be invited and felt touched when she said how fond of me she was and that she wanted me there.

My DIL is the youngest of five sisters and apparently all the hens have included MOB and MIL. The sisters kept telling me I was part of the family now and it was only fitting that I was there, especially as MOB developed Covid, two days before the hen and was stuck at home.
I moved up a notch in the pecking order. # Mil/Surrogate MOB.
What a lovely bunch of women they were.

Aveline
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I do like Dirty Dancing (the film)

I went to the first part of my daughter's hen party : a private viewing of her favourite film (Dirty Dancing), a drive in a pink stretch hummer (gawd!) a cocktail making class then, at last, a meal. It was awful. I left asap and glad to get home. I'm sure the girls were glad that I'd gone too.

I went to DD1's as did her MiL to be but it was a spa weekend and not very wild as she didn't drink alcohol and her friends were not into loud nights out.

Not for me, let the younger ones enjoy themselves without restraint, no worrying about the MOB or future MIL.

I didn't have one as they weren't invented then.

However, I managed to cause chaos at one for my friend!!