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Vintagejazz Fri 15-Apr-22 08:48:53

I'm always happy to hear of a young couple getting married and wish them well but..... I really don't enjoy weddings. They seem to be such dragged out affairs nowadays with hours and hours between the ceremony and the meal, then another age while the room is prepared for the band, then another few hours of music so loud you can't hear a word anyone says to you.

Nowadays, if it's someone not too close to me such as a friend's son or daughter I just make an excuse and send a present.

Vintagejazz Fri 15-Apr-22 16:43:01

Callistemon21

^The one where the bride left the reception alone when the groom was discovered in a side room with a bridesmaid^

shock

I thought things like that only happened on tellyshock

Vintagejazz Fri 15-Apr-22 13:41:57

Exactly MissAdventure. If someone disagrees with my view on weddings fair enough. But telling me I shouldn't have one that differs from their's is a bit much.

MissAdventure Fri 15-Apr-22 13:07:58

A bit pointless having a thread which asks a question, really, if we are only allowed to answer as others see fit.

aonk Fri 15-Apr-22 12:52:33

I love weddings. Our 4 AC all had beautiful weddings and I’ll treasure those memories forever. I’ve also enjoyed the weddings of more distant family or friends. I especially love the church services although not ever has one. I love the music, the bells, flowers, everything. I know music can be noisy and food sometimes indifferent but that’s really not the point of going. Don’t go if you don’t want to but don’t be so critical of how others wish to organise their day. I consider myself very lucky to be invited!

nanna8 Fri 15-Apr-22 11:49:12

I like dressing up,too. There should be more of it. I so miss the formal nights we used to go to on cruises and I just love it on the rare occasions my husband wears a bow tie and formal jacket. Phwaw.

Humbertbear Fri 15-Apr-22 11:32:56

I love a wedding. I like getting dressed up and I love dancing. Weddings are the only chance I have to hit the dance floor these days.

Dylis Fri 15-Apr-22 11:32:00

My niece married in Disneyworld Orlando. I thought it would be OTT with Mickey Mouse performing the ceremony! It was a wonderful wedding, only 18 guests, the sun shone and the wedding venue was beautiful and tasteful. We all voted it the best wedding we had ever attended.

Serendipity22 Fri 15-Apr-22 11:28:41

Well, yes, I enjoy the day, but I cant help but think and how long will it last.

Pounds ten are spent on a lavish wedding and before you know it they're in the divorce courts. I know I shouldn't view allll weddings as such, but thats the way I do.....

smile

MissAdventure Fri 15-Apr-22 11:25:28

That'll be a laugh a minute, I bet.

H1954 Fri 15-Apr-22 11:23:54

I don't like weddings either and apparently my OH nephew is getting married next year and we will be invited. I have only met him once, that was Christmas Day before the pandemic hit, he had been to the pub on the way to family for Christmas dinner and he was totally wasted. It wasn't a pleasant experience but apparently it is the norm with him for any event..........the wedding looks like fun.

Vintagejazz Fri 15-Apr-22 11:22:47

Shelflife

If people don't want the fuss of a large wedding - buying an outfit , possibly booking a hotel, travel , hanging about waiting to eat not to mention the cost ! The solution is quite simple , wish the happy couple well , buy an appropriate gift if you want to and politely refuse the invitation. No necessity to give a reason , the couple will understand and appreciate your speedy reply. Can't see what all the fuss us about - Go or don't go . Easy!!

That's what I do when possible. But there are times when not going will cause offence.

Redhead56 Fri 15-Apr-22 11:15:51

That sounds like the perfect wedding Marydoll!

VioletSky Fri 15-Apr-22 11:11:53

My wedding cost under a 1000, it was a lovely evening wedding followed by a meal where everyone contributed to that instead of a present

I've got no problems with big weddings but personally I couldn't spend a fortune on one day when I could have things that make a difference to our lives for years

Marydoll Fri 15-Apr-22 11:06:04

The best wedding I have ever been to was my daughter's held in our garden, after her original wedding was cancelled two days before the first lockdown.

I was shielding, so I watched the very intimate ceremony from my conservatory. She was the happiest I have ever seen her!

Blossoming Fri 15-Apr-22 11:00:10

I love weddings and the ones I’ve enjoyed most have been the less formal ones.

timetogo2016 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:58:38

Can`t stand partys of any sort,i don`t mind funerals though.

JaneJudge Fri 15-Apr-22 10:53:26

yes they are big money

Callistemon21 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:52:52

I meant shock

Callistemon21 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:52:30

The one where the bride left the reception alone when the groom was discovered in a side room with a bridesmaid

shock

Callistemon21 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:51:07

I love weddings ,just as well as we photographed @ 4000
Yes, just think of all the people who'd be put out of work if weddings were no longer fashionable!

paddyann54 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:49:14

I love weddings ,just as well as we photographed @ 4000 ..Castles or village halls Daughters of Dukes or the window cleaner down the road.I can only remember a couple that were all about show and not about people .
The young couple who got married the day after they left school at 16 ,I still see them in the town ,still married 40 years on .The couple who get married in hospital because she was dying...still makes me tear up.
The one where the bride left the reception alone when the groom was discovered in a side room with a bridesmaid.They didn't get back together .Most marry with every intention of it being for life ,most have family and friends who wish them nothing but well .Whats not to like ?

henetha Fri 15-Apr-22 10:47:32

I enjoy weddings, although I haven't been to many. The last one was 2019 in Ireland and it was lovely. Not extravagant, just lovely. There is always a happy atmosphere at weddings.
But I no longer enjoy the evening party afterwards, too much noise for me.
I do feel that some weddings are ridiculously over the top these days and cost the earth. It seems such a waste of money. Up to them I suppose, but it seems bonkers to me.

Granmarderby10 Fri 15-Apr-22 10:43:25

I enjoy the dressing up bit, approve of children being there, can cope with frankly often mediocre food but am quite hurt at not being on any photos. It’ s all about “them” and what they can get these days.

MissAdventure Fri 15-Apr-22 10:38:17

It wouldn't have happened if I'd been wearing a skirt with an elasticated waist. smile

Shelflife Fri 15-Apr-22 10:38:10

If people don't want the fuss of a large wedding - buying an outfit , possibly booking a hotel, travel , hanging about waiting to eat not to mention the cost ! The solution is quite simple , wish the happy couple well , buy an appropriate gift if you want to and politely refuse the invitation. No necessity to give a reason , the couple will understand and appreciate your speedy reply. Can't see what all the fuss us about - Go or don't go . Easy!!