Do you like weddings?

Strangely, since Covid happened I'm not sure. It's nice to be asked to a wedding. What I don't like are engagement parties and can never understand why people spend all that money on a party, when the money could go on the wedding, honeymoon or more importantly your home. We never bothered with an engagement party as quite frankly we didn't have the money. Every penny went on our wedding and our home.

I dislike formal weddings, the best wedding I went to was a friends, she held it at the local village hall, we all had homemade pie and peas, there was a bar and dancing. No formal wear, I still remember it with such fondness 20 years later.

MissAdventure I m with you all the way
I m afraid I don’t like (enjoy) weddings, funerals or any big dos which always seem so OTT Haven’t been to a wedding since my youngest got married 22 years ago Missed my granddaughters in NZ in lockdown but it was big and very expensive

Grannygravy I m such a realist it’s uncomfortable if I cried it would be at the waste of money and the fact they may not be together in ten years ?

If I was young now I’d slip off to a quiet beach with half a dozen friends and family and my bare feet on the warm sand ahhhh

My son’s wedding was a bit bigger. My DIL wore a nice but non- bridal dress. There was dancing, which there wasn’t at mine, but I didn’t take part in that. Can’t bear that sort of ‘dancing’, or the noise. I went to bed! Nobody was offended.

harrigran

I dislike weddings and turn down invitations now. The last few invitations have been from people who have been living together for more than ten years, seems pointless to have a lavish ceremony, why not just go to the registrar and get the official document.

There's that too. It's always nice to see a couple decide to make the full commitment, but it's hard to feel misty eyed and sentimental when the couple already have three children and have been paying a joint mortgage for years.

I dislike conventional weddings very much. The idea of the bride wearing a white dress dates back to the days when she was a virgin until her wedding night, which has rarely been the case since the 1960s. The amount some people spend seems ridiculous.

There was just immediate family and a couple of friends at my register office wedding in 1968. Quite enough! We had a meal out at a grand hotel in the evening. My husband’s family lived in Australia so didn’t come. Their attitude was much like ours. I enjoyed it and wasn’t stressed - or broke.

GagaJo

I'm with you. Huge waste of money. I'm still glad mine was so low key.

Same here GagaJo. I know of a couple of people who couldn’t have the big wedding because of the pandemic so they are still waiting! Why not a quick and simple Registry Office wedding without all the pomp and circumstances? They were second weddings too, so not a young bride’s dream!

Love them! We are going to 3 weddings in the next few months - can't wait. Love the opportunity to get dressed up, catch up with friends and family and enjoying myself. ?

I dislike weddings and turn down invitations now. The last few invitations have been from people who have been living together for more than ten years, seems pointless to have a lavish ceremony, why not just go to the registrar and get the official document.

Nanna
That sounds like a perfect wedding

We just went to the best wedding last month. Our granddaughter got married on her father’s farm and it was a perfect afternoon and evening in the open with an open sided marquee, hay bales round the edge and a food truck where you went and ordered whatever food you wanted. There was a bar outside,free drinks for all, and we danced way into the night with a great band who could play anything you wanted. A far cry from the formal garbage we had to put up with.

I love a wedding, I usually cry. So much love for the newly weds with hope and expectations of many happy years ahead.

We have just had our save the date for a very large wedding in a swish London Hotel, something to look forward to in these grim times.

The last weddding I went to was my oldest daughters twenty years ago.
I’m not sure if people just aren’t getting married, or they’re just not inviting us.
Either way, I don’t think im missing anything.

MissAdventure

No, I don't really enjoy events where you have to dress up, and follow lots of formal "rules".
When my friend got married, I asked what she would be wearing, and she said "Oh, I don't know. Shorts and a tee shirt, probably".
I did enjoy that one.

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What a miserable attitude! How can anybody make thee sweeping statements?
Not all weddings are all bells and whistles with a meringue wedding dress and the MOB like an overstuffed sofa - but if they are, so what?
You may not like the over-the-top razzmatazz of some weddings, but each to his or her own. A happy day for the couple in question and their families and friends wishing them well - what’s not to like?

I'm with you on that, I'm thankful all my nieces and nephews are married now, any others I send a decent present and have a prior engagement. After you've paid for travel, quite often a hotel plus possibly a dress and a present, the cost is horrendous.
I rarely know many people, don't want to dance and can't hear myself think plus my feet always hurt.
I love the idea of the couple being happy but don't think they need my presence to achieve that.

I'm with you. Huge waste of money. I'm still glad mine was so low key.

No, I don't really enjoy events where you have to dress up, and follow lots of formal "rules".
When my friend got married, I asked what she would be wearing, and she said "Oh, I don't know. Shorts and a tee shirt, probably".
I did enjoy that one.