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BlueSky

Now it’s ‘Car friend (with benefits)’.

I would like one of those. Does it mean he would he/she would help with the driving, the shopping and take rubbish to the tip. That sort of thing? ?

Now it’s ‘Car friend (with benefits)’.

Hithere

Gentleman caller was the nickname of a serial killer in "along came a spider"

Oh no!!
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AGAA4

I don't think it matters how people want to refer to the person they live with. It's their choice. An 88 year old lady I used to know had a man friend. He was 89 so a bit old to be her boyfriend.

In the old days he would be known as "her gentleman caller".

These m/f relationships without the blessing of the church are more common in France Or were.
I once went to see our insurance agent there and he looked miserable, talking to someone on the phone- "Ma concubine m'a quitte".
I didn't blame her. He wasn't a nice person.

Why on Earth would it be odd to hear same sex couples referring to their husband or wife?

And as for ‘gay’ marriage - well, mine definitely ain’t straight! And the other MrsAmberSpyglass is very definitely my wife.

I don’t mind any of the names but I’m not a fan of my old man or my old woman

Partner always relates to business for me. Bidie in sounds fun and cosy. Think other half is my favourite but not very helpful in gender recognition I suppose.

I sometimes refer to my husband as Him Indoors. He called me The Old Nag. My friend tells me about her "hubby". I can't stand that term.

I thought a paramour was a married woman’s illicit lover? May well be wrong.

Gentleman caller was the nickname of a serial killer in "along came a spider"

Presumably a man can be a bidie in too?

I don't have 'issues' with any of the terms mentioned. People can use whatever words they like.

It did seem strange at first to hear ‘his husband’ or ‘her wife’ because we’d never heard it before, but now it’s normal. I’ve no issues at all, never had, even before it became ‘acceptable’. ‘Partner’ for all unmarried couples.

Someone once asked me where my partner was. I said “I didn’t do dancing.”

‘A gentleman caller’.
I like that Lucca !
I dislike the term ‘babe’ which is common amongst young people of both sexes.

He's 'Arfur' because he has a tendency to leave jobs 'arf done'
I'm known as 'Anwen' as in 'Anwen' you've finished mowing the lawn you can start on the weeding, 'Anwen' that's done, the fence needs painting, 'Anwen' etc

And in my case he’s ‘inactionman’ !

I think paramour is a good word for a man or a woman.

paddyann54

no issues with husband or wife in a "gay marriage" I do have an issue with the term GAY MARRIAGE.Marriage is marriage whoever the couple are so when my neice talks about her wife I can only be delighted they finally managed to get married after 30 years together .
Talk of tiers of marriage is horrible,their union is as valid as everyone elses .We wont move forward to a normal life for the people who struggled to get that certificate if we try to make theirs second class .It certainly doesn't change the "status" of my marriage or of yoursSeptimia
Surely we're past the "gay" label ?They are just two people who want to spend their lives together

I do agree. People are people, marriage is marriage. Let's put this 'gay' labelling away for good.

We’ve been walking out for about 25 years but I’ve never been his bidie in.

Personally I have a gentleman caller

Companion?
I don't mind a man referring to his husband or a woman referring to her wife because it clarifies the situation, much better than partner which can be confused with a professional relationship.

Interesting Paddyanne, I don’t think of “bidie in” as being derogatory at all, I quite like it. I’m in Scotland too.

I don't think it matters how people want to refer to the person they live with. It's their choice. An 88 year old lady I used to know had a man friend. He was 89 so a bit old to be her boyfriend.

Diane Abbot was once described on Gransnet as Corbyn's bidie in - I thought this was a derogatory term and said so.

Sounds derogatory to me but I'm not a Scot and stand to be corrected.

Juggernaut
I love that.
I find it difficult to find the right term. Our thirty year old daughter is separated from her childrens father, and is now with someone in his forties.
Boyfriend sounds ridiculous, partner sounds too permanent, I mean he may be permanent, but he may not.
With no better ideas we refer to him as R…. s Fancy man.