Ukrainian refugee and host running off together

I agree with you too Kate
I could only do it if I had a very large house, and we could live very independently.

Re the op: I wonder whose idea it was to house Ms Karkadym?

The press love it when these stories come out. No mention of situations working out well with hosting refugees.

I love that Katherine Whitehorn story ixion

Stanley Johnson required his children’s French nannies to work naked.
He told them that it was so save on the washing.
(From Tom Bowers’ biography of Boris Johnson)

Au pairs! Now that’s asking for trouble!

I also noticed that the man in question, said this girl who just happened to be a 22 year old beauty) was the first person from Ukraine who he made contact with.
Yes I bet she was! He probably wasn’t so keen to reach out to the 65 year old refugee granny wanting room and board !

Poor wife and children.

I bet the relationship with the woman won't last long. What a way to return a kindness.

Blimey, it’s like the plot of a novel!

I remember the late, much lamented Katherine Whitehorn advising never to select a plain au-pair, in the belief that one's husband would not be led astray.
Choose, she advised, the most gorgeous one you could, safe in the knowledge that she wouldn't give your OH a second look!

They think they are ‘in love’ after two weeks! What could possibly go wrong? !
I guess there always was a risk of this happening. A variation of the husband running off with the young au-pair!

Agree with you on this Kate.

No anyone really BlueSky. I would maybe take children. I am very wary. I know it sounds unkind but I wouldn't feel comfortable at all.

Especially beautiful young women Kate!

I feel desperately sorry for them but I would never take anyone into my home that I didn't know. I admire those who do.

I wonder if, sadly, this may lead to the potential loss of people willing to take in anyone needing a home. It may cause them to rethink. ?

Sorry it should read partner.

Not all men, she is as bad, she is old enough to know right from wrong.
You cannot judge all men badly because of this. I dont know the details, maybe the marriage had problems before, maybe there was a connection, or maybe he is just a cheating fool. Whatever the reason it is hurtful for his wife. No I would not take him back if it goes wrong with this young woman.

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