Not allowed to go to birthday parties because….

Junk food !!

Shelflife

Junk food !!

Yes - party food!!

The sugar rush is a modern myth. www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/does-sugar-make-children-hyperactive/

Thanks M0nica

I'm sure they burn off the sugar with all the party games.

In DD's case, it would have been the caffeine in the Coca Cola, I think, which made her over-stimulated.
Less caffeine than in a coffee, I know, but I wouldn't have given my 6 year old a coffee.

Last week 2 of my GC had a joint party at a trampoline centre. The food consisted of hot dogs, pizza and chips. Slices of birthday cake were put in their party bags to take home. The parents aren’t especially anti sugar but this shows that sweet foods can be avoided at parties if wished.

Junk food does no one any harm if consumed in moderation. The last thing I would start thinking of for any party is the nutritional value and health benefits of the food.

I think the problem can sometimes be too many parties!! When they get loads of invitations and are expected to invite back it becomes an endless cycle of parties and therefore junk food too often.

Type 2 diabetes is not always caused by obesity and inactivity. I am borderline for it at 7 and a half stone. In my case it's hereditary as confirmed by GP.

We're Grandparents to a four year old girl, we have been left out of every birthday party!
What can we do?

Esspee

Having seen the sort of food some mums provide for parties I can understand some of the parents preferring to shield their children. I was at that stage 40 years ago and fortunately lived on an island where sweets were unavailable.

Say what??? What island of hell was that?

Diabetes 2 is not always a result of laziness. I had c*v*d and it wiped out my natural insulin - I am now Type 2 insulin reliant.

My wife & I have been excluded by our Daughter in law from the day of the wedding, over 15 years ago.!
We're never invited to our grand daughter's birthday parties.
What can we do?

My 10yr gs has been diabetic for6 years now. He still goes to parties ( he lives like everyone else) but right from diagnosis he has learned to ask if its sugar free pop . Andcarb counts every thing else. Most parents went to parties as children and they didn't come to any harm . Let the little one enjoy their childhood it does last gorgeous long .

I always say when grandkids with me it’s my rules when with parents then it’s there rules after all going to grandparents house is different. I don’t put them on sugar rush lol. But if go to a party both daughter inlaws let them enjoy party but following few days after they get nothing that’s junk and always brushing teeth. My grandson likes coming to mine because he can stop up late well half an hour after his bedtime but his parents know even if he thinks it’s a secret lol. Definitely don’t want them growing up saying didn’t go to a party because my parents were boring lol

My DGC dont like fizzy drinks so that negates any concerns about cola etc at least, they do mostly like sweets but middle DGS doesn't like chocolate or cake much (not true of the youngest!)
I work to my late mothers maxim of everything in moderation and I did with my 3 too! All have excellent teeth and no major health issues so I am sticking to it!

What a shame for those kids that didn't get to go to the party. Rather extreme in my opinion.

I restricted my daughters sweet intake when she was little and she still brings it up as a joke. It was the trend in my group of friends then to eat lots of whole foods so its wasn't so bad as we all followed the same ideal and parties were a mix of healthy and not so healthy.

I have a sweetie tin here for my GD and she is allowed to choose somethings to eat from it...she usually manages to sneak a couple of extra small sweets from it too! (I tried putting some more healthy things in it but of course they were ignored)
Here mother is here and accepts this as ok and it is always after we have had our meal. I do notice that with lots of sugar GD gets very active and a bit hyper and boisterous and she works that off by doing cartwheels on the lawn and generally running around. She is 9.

By having the sweets in a tin she doesn't get a whole packet of something that she wants to consume. And she does brush her teeth well at the end of the day. Juice is restricted to one cup and then its water.

I never take sweets when I go over to my daughters but find other things as treats... bits of fabric to sew, little ornaments I find in charity shops etc. She loves these.

I saw a YouTube video 'Sugar, the Bitter Truth' and vowed never to eat refined sugar again. Did I succeed? No! It's an addictive substance. I do try to limit the amount I eat though.

GrandP

My wife & I have been excluded by our Daughter in law from the day of the wedding, over 15 years ago.!
We're never invited to our grand daughter's birthday parties.
What can we do?

It is very difficult. My OH fell out with his mother and refused to have anything to do with her and when our daughter invited her grandmother to her wedding OH refused to go. Stubbornness takes years to wear away.

If only people remembered how short life is and that people can regret their choices and change.

All this about sugars …… I’m 72 …weigh 9st 9 lb ….walk 20- 23 miles per week…. don’t drive…. swim , and I eat what I flipping like .
Leave the poor kids alone … a life of boredom versus losing couple years at end of it!! No thanks!

When my granddaughter visited at Easter I asked my son if she was allowed an Easter egg or two. He replied that it was a grandparent’s right to spoil!

I would of been gutted if I wasn't allowed to go to a birthday party when I was a child because of the food. How times have changed and not for the best.

I do remember when my children were children, some 30 odd years ago, there was a mum who wouldn't let her children go to parties in case they consumed sugar. They were not diabetic.
Following another comment, I recall also a mother who handed out 'anti Halloween' party invites to the children at school. My children did not attend!
My now just 8 DGD is given sweet things in moderation both by us and her mum, moderation being the key. My DH is/was a dental surgeon so we are very keen on good oral hygiene and that influences our choice of sweet foods and drinks.
Many studies have shown that there is no evidence that sugar makes children 'hyper'

Be careful not to play one granny off against another. Messages soon get to those affected.

My opinion is…respect the parents who are attempting to give their children a healthy start.
Many older people hark back to “my day” or “what we used to think and do”
Times change, medical knowledge changes, health advice changes.
Many older people are affected by type 2 diabetes now; far more than ever before. Many more children and adults are obese. Heart disease and cancers are at an all time high.
Bad eating habits, lack of exercise, addictions to unhealthy foods, all contribute. Many of these problems started in childhood.
The “I did that and came to no harm” statements are very ego centric and simply don’t reflect general health today.
Try talking to medical professionals who see the results of bad lifestyle habits daily.
So….let the parents/grandparents who are trying to give these children a healthy start a round of applause for the attempt. Rather than mocking and castigating?

I do give my GC sweets on occasion as treats which might well be frowned on by others. As regards drinks, I give the sugar fee squashes (although I think the sweetener in them is by no means good!) and flavoured mineral waters which they love. Don’t buy fruit juices as they’re full of sugar too, best to have the fruit I think! Never buy coke as I don’t like it myself and someone else can worry about their clamour for it. GS’s favourite? Cucumber! Eats it by the ton and I flavour spring water with it which makes him very happy!

Bad Grannys and GrandDads have the right to think and act (brought you up ok, what the eye doesn’t see) when acting the the ‘in loco parentis’ function.