Not allowed to go to birthday parties because….

I would have done the same.

And it may not have been accurately reported either ?. Perhaps that is her interpretation of events. Maybe they had other events on etc. This bad grandma tries hard to stick to mum's rules but occasionally gives cake and ice lollies.

DD’s birthday party (many years ago in multicultural Liverpool) was exciting when one child, having eaten his way through everything on offer, was then sick. He said he liked parties because he wasn’t allowed that food at home!

I don’t think she’d have made that up, Grandmabatty - she’s well aware of dietary preferences/differences- there are lots of those at school.

Glad to say dd doesn’t have much at all in the way of rules, but even if she did, when I’m moving in for 6 nights plus while she’s away, I do things my way, and if she doesn’t like it she’s welcome to pay for someone else to do it!

Having seen the sort of food some mums provide for parties I can understand some of the parents preferring to shield their children. I was at that stage 40 years ago and fortunately lived on an island where sweets were unavailable.

Witzend

Picked up elder Gdcs from school the other day, went straight to a party in the nearby park. I asked Gdd (7) whether the whole class was going and she replied that they’d all been invited, but some weren’t allowed to go to parties ‘because they’ll have too much sugar.’

I found this so sad. There did seem to be masses of children anyway, so I dare say it applies only to a few.

Might add that when Gdcs asked Bad Granny whether they were allowed a no-sugar Coke at the party (not allowed at home even though dd drinks it) Very Bad Granny said Yes, since it’s a special occasion.
They later told dd on the phone (she’s away in Ukraine) and as expected, she wasn’t bovvered.

I don't know about that particular product, but with the sole exception of Alpro no sugars soya drink, every item I have seen that says no sugars has sweeteners. I won't knowingly consume anything with sweetener in it, though I do have some items with sugars in them, but I am in my 70s.

Alas, the no sugars message is prominent, the inclusion of sweetener is often in small type.

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The asterisk is because it sometimes appears on a pack next to the name of a sweetener with an asterisked message about something!

Maybe the children concerned have diabetes.

I have a different but sort of similar issue. i am scheduled to dog sit DD2's beautiful Golden Retriever while she has a much needed holiday in September. we used to have one ourselves but care for him and trained him very differently. ours was not given food from the table or ad hoc treats and was not allowed on the furniture or upstairs - although I would say a he got older this last one di relax a bit. we also trained ours to walk to heel and to come back when called. DH was very strict about this. I'm beginning to dread it not because of the dog but because of DHs continual complaints about how this dog ha been 'ruined' in his view.

I never remember all this about sugar when my kids were small 50 years ago.

This bad Granny really dislikes aspartame and only buys full-fat lemonade!
But rarely Coca cola as I loathe the stuff. I have bought it on occasion and usually the remainder gets used to clean the loos.

I always told DD not to drink Coke if she went to a party and always knew when she had as she'd be 'wired' when she came home.

I won't knowingly consume anything with sweetener in it

Me neither, StarDreamer but unwittingly bought yogurts with artificial sweetener in them the other week and could immediately taste that nasty tang.

When my son was only three a flight attendant asked him if he’d like a coco-cola. He’d never heard of it, and thought she was talking about cocoa. I had never bought it, and certainly would never have allowed a 3-year-old to drink it. He didn’t get any until he could buy it for himself. Vile stuff imo, with or without sugar.

Callistemon21

^I won't knowingly consume anything with sweetener in it^

Me neither, StarDreamer but unwittingly bought yogurts with artificial sweetener in them the other week and could immediately taste that nasty tang.

Now I did not know about a nasty tang because as far as I know none has entered my body.

I think the term years ago, perhaps obsolete now, was "a label reader" when people who read the ingredients lists were regarded as paramoid.

Now, most people think like us!

At my granddaughters party last weekend my daughter had made a huge dispenser of cucumber and mint infused water for the adults, the children all helped themselves having ignored the squash.

I've heard that cola cola does a good job of cleaning the toilet. I don't like sweet fizzy drinks.
I have been a bad grandma and taken chocolate for my GCs. My GS at 19 doesn't eat much sweet food any more so the chocolate didn't do too much harm.

Some years ago, I was helping a friend with her 3 year old’s birthday party. She served an amazing chocolate cake with sparklers and candles. All the other children had a slice, but the birthday boy wasn’t allowed to have any because they were raising him on a diet without any refined sugars. Moral high ground appeared to trump parental kindness and common sense.

It is a party, not normal food. When my daughter was young her friend was diagnosed as diabetic; I panicked about what sort of food should I provide.; her mother said, absolutely no fizzy drink or cake icing, but otherwise let her daughter eat what every one else was eating. The consultant said the worst thing to do was to prohibit food at parties as the child would build up a huge resentment and drop out of diabetic diets once a teenager; she had a sensible diabetic diet which the whole family tried to follow and the occasional 'wrong' food would not harm her.

Exdancer we never had such overweight kids around when you grew up not do I ever remember knowing any child with diabetes when I was growing up or when my children were growing up so may that’s why we didn’t have a ‘sugar thing’

I knew a diabetic girl at school in the 1950s. She appeared to lead a normal life.

I'm the first to agree that all of us need to be careful about sugar , but banning your kids from a party or not allowing them to eat at a birthday party - seems too much .

If a child has an allergy it's a whole different ball game .

But this intolerance
reminds me of the time that my kids had a Hallowe'en party and not only were two sisters banned from coming, but their mother lobbied the other mothers at the school gates about the dangers of the occult .
She passed out leaflets .
My kids were upset .
Her girls felt like freaks .
She is a missionary and actually we got on very well together and were great friends .
I came from a religious family from the same faith .
It's moderation in all things , isn't it ?

Absolutely agree Esmay helicopter parenting.

Bluebell Diabetes 1 in children is caused by the immune system destroying the insulin producing cells in the pancreas, nothing at all to do with sugar or diet. Diabetes 2 in adults, however, is mainly caused by obesity, inactivity and diet. As I keep reminding myself!

Nanababs Yes I m aware of that My best friend is Type1 but someone further up had mentioned children and diabetes which was what I was answering

Type 1 diabetes is not caused by eating too much sugar or by being given junk good. It is an autoimmune condition and there is no cure. My GC was diognosed at 3 years of age and is now 12. It is a condition that needs 24/ 7 monitoring. My GC is not deprived of any foods or sugar treats. She is now learning to count carbohydrates and learn how much insulin to inject. Hypos and hypers do happen but she is now aware of how to treat them . So all is well , not the end of the world but is a life threatening condition she could do without!