Not allowed to go to birthday parties because….

I would of been gutted if I wasn't allowed to go to a birthday party when I was a child because of the food. How times have changed and not for the best.

When my granddaughter visited at Easter I asked my son if she was allowed an Easter egg or two. He replied that it was a grandparent’s right to spoil!

All this about sugars …… I’m 72 …weigh 9st 9 lb ….walk 20- 23 miles per week…. don’t drive…. swim , and I eat what I flipping like .
Leave the poor kids alone … a life of boredom versus losing couple years at end of it!! No thanks!

GrandP

My wife & I have been excluded by our Daughter in law from the day of the wedding, over 15 years ago.!
We're never invited to our grand daughter's birthday parties.
What can we do?

It is very difficult. My OH fell out with his mother and refused to have anything to do with her and when our daughter invited her grandmother to her wedding OH refused to go. Stubbornness takes years to wear away.

If only people remembered how short life is and that people can regret their choices and change.

What a shame for those kids that didn't get to go to the party. Rather extreme in my opinion.

I restricted my daughters sweet intake when she was little and she still brings it up as a joke. It was the trend in my group of friends then to eat lots of whole foods so its wasn't so bad as we all followed the same ideal and parties were a mix of healthy and not so healthy.

I have a sweetie tin here for my GD and she is allowed to choose somethings to eat from it...she usually manages to sneak a couple of extra small sweets from it too! (I tried putting some more healthy things in it but of course they were ignored)
Here mother is here and accepts this as ok and it is always after we have had our meal. I do notice that with lots of sugar GD gets very active and a bit hyper and boisterous and she works that off by doing cartwheels on the lawn and generally running around. She is 9.

By having the sweets in a tin she doesn't get a whole packet of something that she wants to consume. And she does brush her teeth well at the end of the day. Juice is restricted to one cup and then its water.

I never take sweets when I go over to my daughters but find other things as treats... bits of fabric to sew, little ornaments I find in charity shops etc. She loves these.

I saw a YouTube video 'Sugar, the Bitter Truth' and vowed never to eat refined sugar again. Did I succeed? No! It's an addictive substance. I do try to limit the amount I eat though.

My DGC dont like fizzy drinks so that negates any concerns about cola etc at least, they do mostly like sweets but middle DGS doesn't like chocolate or cake much (not true of the youngest!)
I work to my late mothers maxim of everything in moderation and I did with my 3 too! All have excellent teeth and no major health issues so I am sticking to it!

I always say when grandkids with me it’s my rules when with parents then it’s there rules after all going to grandparents house is different. I don’t put them on sugar rush lol. But if go to a party both daughter inlaws let them enjoy party but following few days after they get nothing that’s junk and always brushing teeth. My grandson likes coming to mine because he can stop up late well half an hour after his bedtime but his parents know even if he thinks it’s a secret lol. Definitely don’t want them growing up saying didn’t go to a party because my parents were boring lol

My 10yr gs has been diabetic for6 years now. He still goes to parties ( he lives like everyone else) but right from diagnosis he has learned to ask if its sugar free pop . Andcarb counts every thing else. Most parents went to parties as children and they didn't come to any harm . Let the little one enjoy their childhood it does last gorgeous long .

My wife & I have been excluded by our Daughter in law from the day of the wedding, over 15 years ago.!
We're never invited to our grand daughter's birthday parties.
What can we do?

Diabetes 2 is not always a result of laziness. I had c*v*d and it wiped out my natural insulin - I am now Type 2 insulin reliant.

Esspee

Having seen the sort of food some mums provide for parties I can understand some of the parents preferring to shield their children. I was at that stage 40 years ago and fortunately lived on an island where sweets were unavailable.

Say what??? What island of hell was that?

We're Grandparents to a four year old girl, we have been left out of every birthday party!
What can we do?

Type 2 diabetes is not always caused by obesity and inactivity. I am borderline for it at 7 and a half stone. In my case it's hereditary as confirmed by GP.

I think the problem can sometimes be too many parties!! When they get loads of invitations and are expected to invite back it becomes an endless cycle of parties and therefore junk food too often.

Junk food does no one any harm if consumed in moderation. The last thing I would start thinking of for any party is the nutritional value and health benefits of the food.

Last week 2 of my GC had a joint party at a trampoline centre. The food consisted of hot dogs, pizza and chips. Slices of birthday cake were put in their party bags to take home. The parents aren’t especially anti sugar but this shows that sweet foods can be avoided at parties if wished.

Thanks M0nica

I'm sure they burn off the sugar with all the party games.

In DD's case, it would have been the caffeine in the Coca Cola, I think, which made her over-stimulated.
Less caffeine than in a coffee, I know, but I wouldn't have given my 6 year old a coffee.

The sugar rush is a modern myth. www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/does-sugar-make-children-hyperactive/

Shelflife

Junk food !!

Yes - party food!!

Junk food !!

Type 1 diabetes is not caused by eating too much sugar or by being given junk good. It is an autoimmune condition and there is no cure. My GC was diognosed at 3 years of age and is now 12. It is a condition that needs 24/ 7 monitoring. My GC is not deprived of any foods or sugar treats. She is now learning to count carbohydrates and learn how much insulin to inject. Hypos and hypers do happen but she is now aware of how to treat them . So all is well , not the end of the world but is a life threatening condition she could do without!

Nanababs Yes I m aware of that My best friend is Type1 but someone further up had mentioned children and diabetes which was what I was answering

Bluebell Diabetes 1 in children is caused by the immune system destroying the insulin producing cells in the pancreas, nothing at all to do with sugar or diet. Diabetes 2 in adults, however, is mainly caused by obesity, inactivity and diet. As I keep reminding myself!

Absolutely agree Esmay helicopter parenting.

I'm the first to agree that all of us need to be careful about sugar , but banning your kids from a party or not allowing them to eat at a birthday party - seems too much .

If a child has an allergy it's a whole different ball game .

But this intolerance
reminds me of the time that my kids had a Hallowe'en party and not only were two sisters banned from coming, but their mother lobbied the other mothers at the school gates about the dangers of the occult .
She passed out leaflets .
My kids were upset .
Her girls felt like freaks .
She is a missionary and actually we got on very well together and were great friends .
I came from a religious family from the same faith .
It's moderation in all things , isn't it ?