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Father’s Day and adult children

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DanniRae Sat 18-Jun-22 18:33:10

My eldest daughter always remembers and is really good at reminding her sister and brother about Father's Day, Birthdays etc
If she wasn't I would make sure that they remembered!

JaneJudge Sat 18-Jun-22 18:29:56

seriously buying a card and a present isn't important
I want to be loved by my children as I love them and have a relationship with them. If they buy me stuff or do not is not important
there is a very old saying 'knowing the cost of everything and the value of nothing'
it springs to mind now. If you are there for your children (or step children/adopted children) it is a relationship that requires effort not gifts or statements
try to put things in perspective

M0nica Sat 18-Jun-22 18:27:31

Doesn't worry us whether they do or not. DD alslways remembers, with DS it is a bit hit and miss, but we know why.

HowVeryDareYou Sat 18-Jun-22 18:26:49

Our sons (40 and 38) always remember Father's Day, Mother's Day, and birthdays. They always buy a card and present. We're very lucky.

Calendargirl Sat 18-Jun-22 18:26:13

Should add that both DH and I have no parents ourselves now, and so it just doesn’t seem as relevant for us if we aren’t remembered.

Calendargirl Sat 18-Jun-22 18:23:36

No, I wouldn’t remind them.

With both Fathers and Mothers Day.

I suppose we feel a bit sad if they don’t remember, they mostly do, but they are adults, not children.

JaneJudge Sat 18-Jun-22 18:22:45

I'm going to be completely honest.
I had actually forgotten and I think it may have been to do with the bank holiday/jubilee weekend etc and so many 'things' after covid lockdowns etc
Have sent my Dad a very nice gift but it wont arrive tomorrow.

Bear in mind we have
been through a pandemic
we are going through a cost of living crisis (why have they called it that)
we are facing a recession

be grateful we are all alive and well and really don't worry about cards and gifts, it is important we all have each other - not stuff

Dizza25 Sat 18-Jun-22 18:17:16

Just wondering if people remind their adult DC about Father’s Day? I have 2 sons and a daughter, daughter always remembers, sons do usually but have missed on occasion. I have taken to reminding sons ( they live away from us now) with a text or in conversation on the phone. Our daughter doesn’t think I should as they are adults, however, I feel it’s more important that DH gets at least a card as it’s important to him and I don’t want him to be disappointed. What do others do, leave it to chance?