I know,I said I need to be nicer...

Good luck with the work in progress. Hope you feel better soon.

Fingers crossed for you. Good luck.

Ah, thank you.
That's lovely of you.

Phew MissA, I was starting to get quite concerned whrn we hadn’t heard from you. Hope you are feeling better today and will continue to grow in strength.

A 'friend of a friend' in a similar situation has been able to bring it to a close thanks to Covid. She announced to the persistent neighbour that she HAD to self isolate indefinitely, as she had a rare, highly infectious variety of the virus and must not have the slightest contact with anyone else. She was able to spin this out for long enough to break the pattern - the intrusive neighbour found other victims people to help.

I don't suppose you have a leg going spare, do you?

I probably have.

???? Here's some more MissA, you must have worn the others out!

Neighbour

Neigjbour.

Hi all.
I've been a bit under the weather, so not online.

The neigjvour situation is a work in progress. no, I'm too cowardly to sort it out by insisting

I'm hoping you are ok MissA. And that the problem has been sorted out.

blutz

She sounds like she's very lonely. I don't blame you for feeling a little batty about her constant interruptions. Does she have relatives who live nearby? Do you think she's cognitively declining? I know this can be a very touchy subject, but if you know any of her relatives, perhaps you can mention her behaviour to them.

Again. MissA has already said talking to the neighbours family is not an option.

She sounds like she's very lonely. I don't blame you for feeling a little batty about her constant interruptions. Does she have relatives who live nearby? Do you think she's cognitively declining? I know this can be a very touchy subject, but if you know any of her relatives, perhaps you can mention her behaviour to them.

I hope MissA isn't feeling bad, whatever happened. ?

I hope MissA isn't feeling bad after having to put her foot firmly down.

You've got to have boundaries. No one should make your life this miserable.

I'm afraid you will have to be firmer with her, or just ignore her. If she continues to harass you and ignore your pleas, I would tell her you will have to call the police because you need your privacy and it's unacceptable.

It's up to her to control herself.

Hi MissAdventure I hope we ( ie I ) haven't worn you out with sometimes less than helpful suggestions and attempts at mirth.

Hope everything went well for you and that you are now on a better pathway with your neighbour.

Hi ?
How did you get on yesterday Mads?
Hope it’s all okay

MissAdventure

This evening the routine will start.
She will be doing a dinner today, so, once washed up (in a nice sink full of hot water, starting with the glasses, and only when she has washed down the work surfaces first...) she will be down.

I'm ready.
Going to say something.

(I can't go to hers first - can't get up the stairs)

Did you do it ?

I think you, or someone else, needs to tell her quite firmly that her behaviour isn’t really acceptable and needs to stop. You don’t want to loose her friendship but her behaviour is ruining your life.

Good luck indeed!

I love Farnorth's turn of phrase - kind and crystal clear. I still think you'll need a 'do not disturb' on the door to remind her though as she is forgetful.

Good luck.

FarNorth

Phrase it as "I need you to help me by remembering I have to have a lot of rest."

That seems best.

Would it help to phrase it as a question?

I wonder if you could help me with something please? The thing is, ... well, I do appreciate the way that you help me when I've got a problem, like going and getting my prescription for me, but, well, I need to rest, so could I ask you not to keep popping down please? It's just that I do need to rest quietly.

This lady's behaviour is not normal. I think you should buy one of those front door bells that videos and record evrerything. As you both live in some flats it isliekly you have a land lord. Your neighbour is likely to be in breach of good behaviour. There maybe somone employed by your landlord ie. in social housing whose job it is to sort this kind of stuff out. If there is you would ask for an appointment and show them what you have recorded and get their advice. they would then ask you neighbour to behavioue in a less intensive way.