What is the best advice you have been given ?

AGAA4

My little son aged 18 months caught measles from some children he played with when he was on holiday. He was very ill with the doctor visiting every day for a while.

The best advice I have had is never compare yourself to anyone else. They may seem better off but you don't know what goes on in lives of others.

I’ve heard it worded ‘don’t compare your inside to anyone else’s outside’
It’s especially relevant these days, when so many people are putting on a facade; ‘living their best lives’ etc.

I also like, it’s better to be laughing on a bicycle than crying in a Rolls Royce.

Be kind. Everyone you meet is struggling with something.
Also, before you judge, walk a mile in someone else's shoes.

My grandfather - you will meet people who are richer than you, people who are more educated than you, people who have better jobs than you but you will never meet anyone better than you.

Driving instructor - drive as if every other driver is an idiot

Not verbatim as she died many years ago, my Nan used to tell us
“Don’t fear the big bold bear fear the wolf that sneaks behind you “

She was American Indian.Her tribal name was Wolf that walks softly!

Kate1949

Be kind. Everyone you meet is struggling with something.
Also, before you judge, walk a mile in someone else's shoes.

Both very true. You should never judge a book by the cover.

Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion!

Also.. Shown this excercise by a teacher, Get a cup/ mug that has different images around it. Show one side to another person and ask them, “What do you see?” They will respond with what they see on that one side of the cup.
However, your side will have different images.They are correct in what they are perceiving, but so are you..... two opposite opinions can both be true and right.

The coward dies a thousand deaths, the brave man dies but once… in other words, there’s no point in worrying.

My doctor told me not to be afraid to say NO it was the best thing ever. I took his advice and started to say no to family and friends when they kept asking me to do things I really didn’t want to or have time to do.
I was run ragged and very stressed trying to please everyone but myself but since then my life turned around.

Lovely, positive thread.
My input :- Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.

My father said "Never blame the past the only life you will ruin is your own"
and my Mother said " Do everything the only things you will regret is those you didn't do..

- make sure the name you give a child can be called down the garden without embarrassment (shame my parents didn’t follow that one!)
- che sera sera, there really are things you cannot affect so be more philosophical.

Diving tip when I passed my test, let the car in front of you go when at an island before you do, never presume they will !

Another one from my Mother when mithering about what to wear, who’ll be looking at you anyway. That is certainly true the older you get, it’s like developing an invisibility cloak !

everyone you meet is fighting some battle, be kind if you can,or walk away.

My father always told me, when I started going out with a new boyfriend (there were many, many boyfriends....), "Never give 100% of your heart to any man, always keep at least 10% back for yourself. Then, if it all goes wrong, at least you won't end up with an empty heart."

From Mum.. Actions speak louder than words.
From Dad.. Trust your first thoughts.

Never assume.

When I had my first small baby and was quite depressed, my Mum told me to care only about my daughter, the house didn't matter as long as it wasn't filthy...Sadly I've followed that all my life, and my house still looks like a bombs hit it most days ?

I had trust issues when I met my husband which were very difficult to overcome and made me very prickly. My husband sat me down after a particularly fretful moment and said, "Try to trust me and if I let you down, take it out on the next bloke." We had a longer conversation than that but in essence, it boiled down to that. I did (mostly) and it was the best advice anyone had ever given me because we were able to find a way forward without me killing the relationship dead. He has turned out to be very trustworthy.

A leopard doesn't change its spots. Took me 14 years to realise that....

A brilliant driving instructor I was lucky enough to have after a lot of frogs told me to ignore what other people were doing on the road (eg getting right up behind you to intimidate you into going faster). Just drive safely yourself and if you see problems ahead, slow down…also true in general life…

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything.

There are no problems only solutions waiting to be found.

Two things both said by a lady who had know me since I was about a year old and said to me when I was a teenager:

If you have nothing nice to say about a person, keep your tongue between your teeth.

It is easier to start doing people favours than to stop again, so think before you start.

A variant of the first was said to the whole class by a teacher when we were about 12: saying unkind things about another person will only make the person you are talking to thnk how unkind you are. It won't necessarily change their opinion of the person you are being unkind about.

If you expect the worst you're rarely right and mostly pleasantly surprised!

grandtanteJE65

Two things both said by a lady who had know me since I was about a year old and said to me when I was a teenager:

If you have nothing nice to say about a person, keep your tongue between your teeth.

It is easier to start doing people favours than to stop again, so think before you start.

A variant of the first was said to the whole class by a teacher when we were about 12: saying unkind things about another person will only make the person you are talking to thnk how unkind you are. It won't necessarily change their opinion of the person you are being unkind about.

Heartily agree with these pearls.
Also never assume! That little habit can be literally a killer! We simply don't know what's going on in others' heads and we shouldn't rely on someone else's idea of the right thing to do in any given situation.take note but don't give over totally to their control.