One thing I agree with in your long post Doodledog is that nothing is fair. Often I am lumped in here on GN as one of the lefties, which I would be glad to be. Elder care, social care should all be equally available to all. But its not. That is the real world. So there are two things I want to say.
I will never be dissuaded from the belief that if a person has "money in the bank" or reasonable assets they they should expect to use it to help them have a comfortable old age, and the ACs will just have to do without. If those assets include a high value house, it gets counted in. Tough luck for the kids. (And I am such a "kid"). Some people have nothing at all on which to live in their old age, and the idea that someone with assets gets to keep them because they want to pass something on to the next generation is not acceptable, IMO.
Secondly. There have been several posts complaining that there are people who have squandered their money but are still getting looked after. Well, to me, that sounds like blaming the poor folks. I certainly don't have any knowledge of how care homes are financed, but I do know enough about pricing and costs in general to know that just because person A pays x, and person B pays x+10%, that doesn't mean Person B is being exploited. For instance. Perhaps the care home can only be viable if the annual income is £z per patient. But the LA can only pay £z-10%, that's all they have. So the shortfall has to be found somewhere or no-one gets to stay in the accommodation. Because the accommodation goes bust. Sometimes things aren't as straightforward as we think.
What decade were your grandparents born?


. I just think that we should all spend what we earn and have been taxed on as we see fit. Gin and sausages, or hair-shirts and bibles - each to their own and no argument from me.
