Loving the common thread so much thought we should go “POSH”

Callistemon21 She was the most dreadful woman, she defined everything as posh or common.
I married someone she would have put in the “posh” category and that made her hate me more!
Thankfully I couldn’t give a tinkers toss as long as people are well mannered and kind.
Life as a child was a minefield though, never knowing what was and wasn’t acceptable, I just wanted to wear C&A clothes, have ketchup on my food, watch crackerjack and play with Mary Jane Leary whose mother once wore slippers in the street.

Having an all white cat.
White sheepskin rug.
Detached house.
Just thought of another one.
White Christmas lights were posh
Coloured lights common as muck!

I wonder if having something light coloured was seen as difficult to keep clean and therefore not common??.

My mother brought me up to consider myself as good as anyone else. If I was ever daunted by "poshness" I was told to imagine them sitting on the lavatory. I can confirm that it works !!

On the subject of cars, when I was little, it was considered ‘posh’ if you had a four-door car as opposed to a two-door car.

The four doors were probably Rovers or similar, the two doors a little Morris or a baby Austin.

paddyann54

Me too Monica My dad always told us we were as good as anyone else and no one was better than us .I've worked with people from all "classes" they are just people, some nice some not so ,its not about what they have or who they think they are.

I think it's supposed to be an amusing thread?

Oops, Australian intonation there ? definitely not posh!!

M0nica

nanna8 Why are the things you describe 'posh'? Expensive, yes, but 'posh'?

Saying garage to rhyme with Farage
I'm posh!! ?

M0nica
Because Australians probably have a different definition of poshness than British people.
Having a house in Sydney with gardens down to the Harbour and your own beach is posh!

Sago I am laughing at your Mum's list!

Was she Hyacinth Bouquet by any chance?
Did you have an Aunt Violet, the one with a Mercedes, a swimming pool and room for a pony? ???

A lot of my relations are called Wedgwood so I must be posh.
We had a girl at school who brought photos of her shooting holidays with her foot on the deer we thought she was posh, poor thing didn't get an o level.
I was brought up to believe I was as good as everyone else and qualifications counted for all " Anything on paper can't be taken away" was my father's usual quote.
I did have an aunt who tried to be posh in her beaver lamb coat my father called them Lord and Lady Docker.

People who go out for dinner in the evening. We would go out for our tea. Dinner is at midday ish.
People who eat supper.

I had a posh neighbour who lived across the road who came wandering over when we had a skip on the drive full of old tat bits and pieces and commentated with a "may I say you have some very nice junk in there" wasn't sure whether he was being facetious but did say "well help yourself if you see anything you fancy". A couple of hours later he came over and did just that removing an item or two, for their house in France allegedly Then again he was an eccentric professor who was prone to coming out of his house with a cup of coffee, putting the cup on top of the car whilst he popped back in to get something and then driving off with the cup still balanced on top of the car....not for long though!

And linen napkins of course

Having observed people who have come from a variety of backgrounds, my idea of someone posh is someone who goes out of their way to make others feel comfortable without being in any way condescending or patronising. Now that’s class at any level.

Linen napkins as opposed to a sheet of kitchen roll (common)

There used to be a lot of inverted snobbery about. I found that if people made sarky comments about me for whatever reasons including my name I just said, 'Of course I am very posh.' There was usually a nervous giggle after that. ?

Love it Jazzhands.?

TillyTrotter I used to look after a girl (10y) who always referred to her parents' cars as "the Mercedes" and "the BMW" never as "mummy's car" or "daddy's car."
She was a very over-indulged only child and a crashing snob, which was a real shame as her parents were lovely down-to-earth people.

My mother’s insistence that I spoke “properly” meant that at my west London girls’ grammar school I was labelled as posh, despite being the scruffiest and probably the poorest girl in the year. Can’t say any of this got in my way!

I don't think anyone is condemning people because of their class, of course there are all types of people in all classes. We are just discussing what is 'posh'.

Had a posh neighbour once who bought a brand new VW car (all others in the row had old bangers) and she would announce she was “going to visit her mother/brother/whoever in the Passat”.
It was never called a car, always the “Passat”.

Me too Monica My dad always told us we were as good as anyone else and no one was better than us .I've worked with people from all "classes" they are just people, some nice some not so ,its not about what they have or who they think they are.

Poshness (the real sort, not the Hyacinth Bucket version) is largely defined in England by how you speak, and secondarily by where you went to school. It’s difficult to fake - see “My Fair Lady”.

“If you spoke as she does, sir, instead of the way you do,
Why, you might be selling flowers too!”

Quotation from memory, and approximate.

'fridge bottom pie'.

Brilliant!! I am going to steal this and use it forever.

I love 'A Cold Collation' .

We call it 'fridge bottom pie'.

Calendargirl Being posh is definitely all about breeding and social class. Yes, you can be living in poverty in a hovel and still be posh. Maybe your parents were upper (or upper middle) class and you were well educated, you will always be that person no matter how far you fall financially. Then there is 'new money', people who are from the lower or working classes but have acquired lots of money and are wealthy. Lots of examples in entertainment and sports. They have money but are not deemed posh or classy. Attempts to be posh by these people come across as totally fake like Hyacinth Bucket.

My aunt's 'posh' list included
Eau-de-nil
Tiny guest soaps
Little cakes in tiny paper cups
Voting Conservative
A cosy for the loo roll
A cosy for anything that didn't move
Marks and Spencer "Quality, not quantity, dear."
A supper of leftovers known as A Cold Collation
Saying garage to rhyme with Farage