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Going back to where you were raised

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nanna8 Tue 16-Aug-22 07:05:26

For those who don't live near where they were born and brought up, do you ever go for a look at that area? What were your impressions? I last went back in 2002 when my mother died and although a lot had changed, many things remained the same. A blast from the past. I could still remember the names of many of the small side roads ( we lived on a main road) but my school had disappeared and we knew no one in the road. It is about 17,000 kms or 10,560 miles away from where we live now.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 18-Aug-22 13:18:20

I went back to the street where our childhood home was. When we were young the street seemed awfully long but now it really doesn't at all. The house has a garage but not much else has changed.

Almost every house has a car parked outside but there were hardly any then, perhaps three at most on the entire street.

The 'rec' now has proper railings around the swings, etc and there's soft landing material whereas we had to take our chances on hard tarmac with many a bruised knee or smacked elbow, etc.

Helen657 Thu 18-Aug-22 13:15:07

I drove down the street I lived in until the early 70’s when I was 10 years old after a family funeral a few years ago, I remember it from my childhood as being lined with lots of trees with small but green well tended front gardens on both sides (small mid war semis 3 or 4 miles from a city centre), but Dutch elm disease meant all the trees were removed many years ago, and many of the gardens are now tarmaced over, the narrow road seemed packed with cars, so it’s no longer the kids playground I remember. It’s still a nice neighbourhood but the lack of greenery and space made me sad! As a previous poster said, I was surprised that the houses and street seemed a lot smaller than I remembered!

missdeke Thu 18-Aug-22 13:14:00

I've not been back to the area where I was brought up sine my parents moved from there in the 70s. I did,however, go back to where I went to high school about 5 years ago to the funeral of an old friend. My daughter took me and i was telling her how the area was where the 'posh kids' at the school came from, I could not believe the difference, it looked a real slum. Whereas the area that I actually lived is now a sort after, very expensive part of East London.

Llamedos13 Thu 18-Aug-22 13:07:37

My sisters and I grew up in a house in Belfast.We all moved away,me to Canada,one to New York and the other moved to Edinburgh. We three all got together in N.Ireland five years ago.By chance I discovered the daughter of the family who bought our house in 1962 was still living in our old house. I wrote to her to say we three sisters were meeting up and we would love to visit the old house. She kindly agreed and we met her and she gave us a tour inside and out. It was till very much as we remembered though much improved.It brought back so many memories of our childhood.My two sisters and I all agreed it was the highlight of our get together.

Coconut Thu 18-Aug-22 12:41:44

I have to go every Monday and pick my 92 year old mum up ! I drive home every week feeling so grateful that I don’t live there anymore !

Granny14 Thu 18-Aug-22 12:41:03

I went back a few years ago and the large Victorian house I used to live in had been converted into flats. The whole street was originally all terraced houses leading straight out on to the street where we used to play as children. Only backyards at the rear, like Coronation Street. The houses on the street below where I lived have all been demolished and new houses built with gardens and trees! So in that respect it has improved. However, the city has declined. I now live in the rural south west and would never return to the midlands.

leeds22 Thu 18-Aug-22 12:21:12

I grew up in a relatively rural area on the edge of an old mill town. I went back a few years ago and little had changed in my old area but the town's mills have all gone, lots of new houses and its now, basically, a suburb of Leeds. Didn't like it back then and wouldn't like to live there now.

pat9 Thu 18-Aug-22 12:18:28

I think you need to go back periodically to where you were brought up but maybe its not the same if you do not have happy memories of the place

Alioop Thu 18-Aug-22 12:17:33

Our family into a new estate in the 1966 and when my mum died 10 years ago I moved into it after my divorce. I couldn't wait to get out of it. The place had gone to pot with a lot of antisocial behaviour, etc going on.
We had lovely times there when we were kids, everyone cared about their properties and each other. It's sad to see the way it's turned out.

BRAVEBETH Thu 18-Aug-22 12:14:55

I moved back to the city of my childhood. It is still so awful.
I met with some childhood friends, mainly men, who has all moved back and now living in their parents home. I am still my mother's carer and it is awful. The city has no vision and no plans. I would love to move again and live and by the sea.
My childhood home is the same. It is now in an area taken over by the university. I has a good childhood and a good education.

Theoddbird Thu 18-Aug-22 12:14:52

I did look it up on Google maps. Not a lot has changed...

Kate1949 Thu 18-Aug-22 12:09:12

What lovely childhood memories some of you have. smile

Brownowl564 Thu 18-Aug-22 12:07:10

I went back last year for my dads funeral, stayed in his house where I grew up from age 10, my brothers and sister all live quite near in Surrey but I live on the Moray Coast in Scotland 615 miles away, I moved when I got married 25 years ago, it has changed a lot, so busy and built up I would not move back now

Candelle Thu 18-Aug-22 11:54:57

Have just remembered, our daughter saw a small group of people standing outside and looking up at her house. She observed them for some minutes before going out and asking if she could be of help.

The people were elderly Australians and had been brought up in the house long long ago. My daughter invited them to look round the house and they had much interesting information regarding it, mainly that it had been a diary!

The front of the house (her sitting room) had windows which opened out to the street and produce was sold over a counter in front of the window.

My daughter's kitchen stabled the delivery horse!

Candelle Thu 18-Aug-22 11:45:53

I only moved six or so miles from my childhood home and do sometimes pop back and remember all the other children who lived nearby - I think I can remember them all.

My grandparents lived in Glasgow and I remembered their enormous bungalow with large, gravelled long front drive and garden. Mr C and I visited some years ago and found a really average size bungalow with a smallish front garden....

Mr C's first childhood home has been pulled down and its replacement has now also bitten the dust. The house he lived in afterwards now holds four flats. Four!

Susieq62 Thu 18-Aug-22 11:44:42

I am from Brighton but live in Baildon West Yorks! Pre CoVID I did an annual pilgrimage to the city and my haunts! Not the place I grew up in !!

Rosina Thu 18-Aug-22 11:40:00

Everything of my childhood is gone - the lovely Edwardian house where I grew up was demolished to build private flats, the road no longer exists, and the whole area of London where I lived until I married is like another country, and sadly not for the better.

Amalegra Thu 18-Aug-22 11:37:28

I was born in Cheshire and lived there until I was seven, when we moved to Cornwall. I have lived here in Dorset for 38 years now and regularly visit my Cornish hometown to see my sister and her children. I haven’t visited my ‘real’ hometown since I was about twelve. I would love to go back to Cheshire to revisit my real roots (my parents and wider family, mostly dead or moved away now, are all Northerners) as I feel it is a part of my childhood I have never fully explored. I dare say it has changed beyond recognition since I last saw it but would hope to find some reminders of my early years that were so happy there.

HazelGreen Thu 18-Aug-22 11:27:17

I always yearned to revisit Gran's house where I spend all childhood holidays but streetview spoiled that really. I lived 6 mths in Brussels in 1970's and revisited in 30 yrs later and sadly found city a bit run down, the brand new offices etc of way back then looking tired. And house I lived is now an office block with all one side of street redeveloped and opposite side conserved.

pinkprincess Tue 16-Aug-22 20:04:45

My first childhood home, which was also my grandparents house is still standing, but could ever bare to go and even look at it it now, memories are too painful. Besides having a very happy early childhood in there, it was also the house where my grandmother and great grandmother died in.
The other two houses I lived in as child have both been demolished. I went back to see where the house I lived in age 5 to 13 years once stood and burst into tears as all the memories came flooding back. The site of the house I lived in from 13 to when I got married is only a few steps away from where my sister is living now.When I visit her I can see it in my mind and get tearful again.My sister was only a few months old when we moved there.

Allsorts Tue 16-Aug-22 16:39:22

I went back and wished I hadn’t. If it’s a lovely village like Shinamae yes, but so sad the locals can’t live there and people have second homes, then it becomes a beautiful ghost village. I wish they would ban them and made it affordable for locals to bring them back to life. So no don’t go back.

Chestnut Tue 16-Aug-22 16:29:21

Lucca

Chestnut

Just to show what I mean, a picture from 1958 and another from 2001 (21 years ago!) There are cars both sides in the old picture and yet the street still looks wider. What is going on? The street is shrinking!

Cars are bigger now ?

Naaa! I much prefer the idea that all the houses we lived in as children are actually shrinking, which explains why everyone thinks they look smaller now. We are all living in a science fiction movie.

MargotLedbetter Tue 16-Aug-22 15:15:26

I went back to visit the family home where I felt happiest and most settled. Happy at school, friends, nice town, half an acre of garden leading to a stream where we used to play with local children. After that period things went a bit pear-shaped for the family — we moved for my father's work and I never felt so settled anywhere again.

I was in the area of that happy house about 15 years ago and took a detour to go and visit. The house and those on each side of it had been demolished and a block of luxury flats had been built. All evidence of my happy childhood gone.

I've always said never go back, move forward. I wish I'd stuck to my own guideline.

bluebird243 Tue 16-Aug-22 15:08:02

I have been back to my childhood home an Edwardian double bay semi which was next to a lovely chapel where I got married. At the side of our garden was the large chapel garden where the caretaker and his son grew lots of veg.

Now the chapel's been pulled down and there sits a long terrace of boring, characterless small houses. The garden has completely gone.

Grandmother tended green hedges at the front and all up the side of the house, wallflowers at the front, beautiful rambling roses along the side of the back garden...all gone.

Just a tarmac drive all up the side to serve the houses. And railings, starting to rust at the front and side of the house. Dreadful.

But when my family lived there we had the best of the place. I was so happy there, the garden was lovely, full of flowers and fruit trees. Thank God my Grandmother and Mother can't see it now. I have lovely memories despite how it looks now.

Lucca Tue 16-Aug-22 14:57:27

Chestnut

Just to show what I mean, a picture from 1958 and another from 2001 (21 years ago!) There are cars both sides in the old picture and yet the street still looks wider. What is going on? The street is shrinking!

Cars are bigger now ?