How embarrassing!

Daftbag1. I really wouldn’t bother until your builders have finished. This time last year I broke my ankle in 3 places and had to have an operation putting a metal plate in my ankle. This means I had to keep my leg up for 10 weeks. I have a lovely friend who will do anything to help. One day she insisted that she would wash and change my bed sheets, to my horror when she came down she said I will also do your mattress cover because it is quiet stained. I nearly died with embarrassment.

Maybe a little but to be honest I wouldn't judge anyone who I was close to and hope they wouldn't judge me. We can all have bad days - had lots of those lately. due to having orthopaedic surgery - and in the great scheme of things a bit of dust or a few pots in the sink just don't rate in the important stuff to me. I know, if I asked my neighbour she would give us a hand but as long as we have food on the table, OH is an acceptable cook, and clean clothes, he also knows how to use the washing machine, the rest can wait.
No point stressing over the small stuff.

My dear old school friend Penny lived near me. We had our first children quite close together and she once told me that she would "step over the rotting hippo in my hallway and not mention it" I loved her for that.
She also had some wonderful terms to describe that awful time when colic sets in " The Arsenic hour" was one. We got through it and both went on to have second babies. She died far too young from breast cancer and never saw her grandchildren. She was a ray of sunshine at a very difficult time.

no i would not be embarrassed, i have been ill of and on over the last few years, cancer twice then sepsis, at the moment i have damaged my achilles so i am have problems walking, i am going away in 2 weeks to see my dad so i am sorting everything out, because i can't get out i have been ordering online, everything is all over the place, i have hoovered and managed to do a washing (first in 3 weeks)....only because i was running out of knickers. if anyone has come in i just say, sorry about the mess, most people will not bother and should understand, it is you they have come to see, don't waste your time worrying about it.

If your neighbour called in to check how you are surely dhe will not beconcerned about the state of your house. In my job I often visited houses I would consider to be in need of some tlc but this was ignored as the people were usually grateful for a visit and I knew the change in their circumstances had altered heir usual habits. Don't give it a second thought, your neighbour will know the real you. Good luck with your recovery and the builders!

Puh-leese don't worry. Another G was right about bones healing taking it out of you. I had a left knee replaced, 2 1/2 months later fell and (as my Ortho said) I broke my left ankle reeeel good (more metal, screws and fishing line). Here I am again in hospital having the damage (due to said fall) I did to my left Patella repaired. You haven't seen a dirty house! Because I keep having to hobble around and I have some pain, my painting tools are all over the dining room table and a few chair seats. Look at that texture I've put in the painting. Oh, wait! That's bread crumbs. Get in the tub and cool off and give your husband a kiss. Hope you are well soon.

That’s lovely PinkCosmos and so true.

I was on holiday with a friend when a journalist rang DH to make an appointment to come and interview him. DH was absolutely useless and having lived most of his working life in hotels, he treated being at home much the same. Thankfully, DD one made an unannounced visit on the morning the journalist was calling and having seen the loo, she was horrified to see the state of some of the other rooms. Not dirty, but just very dusty, untidy, with vases of dead flowers and drooping house plants. DD managed a quick clean and polish and said I’d have died from embarrassment although DH always maintained it just looked ‘lived in’.