How do (or do you) advise your ACs?

My two children and I mainly only advise each other on practical things, rarely on anything else.

Redhead56

"I say you will make a rod for your own back. My mum used to say it to me it annoyed me as much as it annoys my two!"

So why repeat the same mistake?

No, and my daughter does not give me advice. We are different people, live different lives, and are of a different generation.

I offer advice but know that most of the time they will do their own thing anyway. Often though it just helps to listen so they can get things straight in their heads.

No way. I keep my own counsel. My son doesn’t ask and I don’t offer. It works for us.

DC does sometimes ask me for advice in certain matters, and I answer as honestly as I can. I'm pleased that my knowledge and opinion still has worth in seeking!

No, both my sons have their own ideas and are also guided by their wives. My daughter cracks up at any suggestion I make and does the opposite of what I say. This has led to many rows about how to use my cooker, shower, washing machine etc. She even put 2 white items in the machine for 2 hours because she wouldn't listen. Any mention of her husband or children and she reverts to momma bear mode even if criticism is not intended.

I offer advice if asked but I try my very best to be objective. But nine times out of ten I am told mum times have changed!
I watch my little grandchildren very cleverly get their own way. Our son and daughters children rarely get told off. I say you will make a rod for your own back. My mum used to say it to me it annoyed me as much as it annoys my two!

If asked, yes, if I feel I have a suggestion that might help. One son asks quite a lot, and dil too will sometimes ask for my input .
It's extremely rare for me to offer them advice if they havent asked, and then only if I 'sense' that it would be welcome.

My other son and dil are unlikely to ask, so I don't offer any suggestions. They have a wide circle of friends, all with children of a similar age, and I am sure that they turn to them when unsure of how best to deal with something. I think I would do the same in their shoes.

They, on the other hand, all feel perfectly entitled to give us, or rather, more specifically, their (not-very-tactful) father's, unsolicited advice.

Eldest daughter may discuss some things after they are done and youngest daughter asks for advice all the time but rarely takes it.

We offer advice if it is asked for, which they generally respect.

Occasionally we might give advice unprompted, but then so do they!

My DS says ‘I will always listen to your advice- and then go ahead and do what I think anyway!”

Depends on the situation...

What I definitely don't do is judge, not my life, not my choices.

Non judgemental advice seems to work out fine so far

If asked yes, otherwise and especially with bringing up children, a big No.

If asked I would say, ‘I found this worked for us’.

My son and I have a great deal of respect for each other regarding advice. He dishes out advice on technical issues and I on life and experience. Works ok for us

I try hard not to offer advice. It can be frustrating at times but I know I didn't like unasked for advice when I was young.
We always know better than our parents anyway!

Never without being asked, anymore than I would with any other adult.