It seems to be reported more and more often that people try to play the good Samaritan and end up stabbed to death, so please think carefully and preferably call the police.
What do you find yourself avoiding more as you get older?
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The campaign encourages those who see someone being harassed in public to ask the victim if they are okay when they feel safe doing so. Those three little words let them know that they stand by them and that street harassment is never okay.
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This is the message put across in our local Neighbourhood Watch Newsletter recently.
How confident would you be, in this day and age, to do this?
It seems to be reported more and more often that people try to play the good Samaritan and end up stabbed to death, so please think carefully and preferably call the police.
I believe that, unless I was in an isolated place, or the abuser/harasser was armed, I would always intervene.
I'm only 4' 10" tall but when I was younger intervened a few times. However, my mobility is abysmal nowadays after aan accident in 2010 and arthritis in both knees. I couldn't consider a 'getaway' nowadays so I'd zip my lips now. ☹?
I would of course call the police. In the gun-happy US direct intervention is usually unwise unless you are quite sure you have a complete grasp of the situation.
I once saw a man take another chap by the throat. There were other people there but I didn't stop to think and stepped forward and said loudly "Stop it! Stop it now!" and the aggressor walked away. I also think we need to be ready to dial 999 if we see a crash or someone e.g. lying on the ground unattended and in distress. The risk is that we think someone else will have called and do not take action.
I saw a couple outside my house and across the road he was pushing and yelling at her, I went to my front door with my phone and shouted at the girl are you ok, he told me to f …off. I held up the phone and said you are on video and I will now call the police. He let her go and ran off, she came over and we called the police. It would seem he was an ex who wouldn’t leave her alone. I think I would only intervene from a distance at my age.
I was very grateful when someone asked me if I was OK on a train in Italy when a man had sat opposite me and was being very intrusive.
I always ask if I see someone possibly needing help, usually loudly from a distance so there is no hiding the fact that something isn't right.
I once turned up at a nightclub and saw a large crowd gathered as there was a fight. As I went towards the group I saw my daughter in the middle of the 2 men, remonstrating with one of them. I dashed forward, grabbed her and headed back to the car where she joined me with one of the men. She asked me to take him home on our way home. It turned out she didn't know him but had stepped in to rescue him as the other guy was bigger and stronger. I didn't know whether to praise her or crown her!
I once stopped in the car after pubs closed beside a couple where the man was crowding a woman and shouting at her whilst she sobbed. I asked if she was ok and the man answered that everything was ok. I told him I was asking the woman and I wouldn't be going anywhere until she said she was alright. She said she was, I asked her if she was sure and when she said she was, I left. I went back a few minutes later but they were gone.
We called the police when we heard our neighbours child shout to her Dad to stop hurting her Mummy. It was the best thing we did as the wife realised that she couldn't carry on in her abusive relationship. Her husband was escorted off the property by the police and never returned. Victim Support were wonderful and she went on to get her divorce.
I'd always step in I'm quite intimidating in full do not mess with me mode
I think I would have to get involved as that was how I was brought up, and I would hope that others would get involved if I was being attacked or abused or whatever. The more people stand by and do nothing the more people get away with things. I realise that you can be putting your own life on the line by speaking out, but what's the alternative? Just let the thugs get away? It is easier now that most people have mobile phones and can call the police.
The more people stand by and do nothing the more people get away with things
This.
I have intervened a couple of times and will continue to , I just think it is the right thing to do , as I hope someone would do the same if I needed help .
My grandson, (25) this year saw a teenage girl being ‘harassed’ by four youths about 9.00pm. When he intervened, the youths set on him. Kicked him unconscious and broke a rib. Market town in the West Country, little police present, and CCTVs not working. It is getting worse - another friend (55yo and very gentle) was attacked, a month later coming out of a pub - ended up on life support - which was turned off after a month - he left six children. The man who did it, let out on bail WHY, ? courts are full, and not enough police on duty in towns - we need to go back to police patrols in towns, and perhaps hard labour if convicted.
That's awful. Those poor good Samaritans. I hope your DGS is fully recovered.
way back in time I got off of a bus one night from work and heard a commotion over the road, a gang of young men were attacking one on his own,, I shouted out loud to them and signalled the lone one to come accross which he did, i said keep walking and we walked quickly off I chatted like I new him.... i saved him from a beating and I sometimes think of that occasion and him! I was a young 18yr old.
Dil asked a woman if she was ok, she was being held by throat by a man who was shouting abuse at her.
The man turned and knocked Dil out with one punch. Dil has heart issues and seizures.
Police arrived arrested man and Dil was in hosp for two days we had to look after baby for a week whilst she recovered.
Turns out man was husband and
police say because wife obviously doesn't want to give statement and if it went to court the man's solilitor would use Dil's illnesses against her CPS will probably not press charges. So, 'no'walk on by and just ring police don't ask if ok.
I think this is an ill thought out campaign.
This is something the Police should be dealing with not members of the public.
Agreed some young people may have the strength to deal with an aggressor but if there is a knife involved then there is never going to be a happy ending.
Sadly I know what it’s like to have a knife held at my throat.
You never know how a situation any play out.
you should do it from a distance! never get close enough to endanger yourself.
I was in a cafe with a friend once when one man assaulted another and a fight started. I couldn't just watch. I stuck my head out of the door and shouted '*the police are on the way'* I quickly sat down again before being seen and they ran off!
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