Children having haircuts

I see no reason why a boy has to have short hair. If he is worried about having it cut or if he just likes it longer, why not leave him be? My grandson who is 7 has lovely long blonde hair. On the - rare - occasions someone says he looks like a girl, he says 'I'm not a girl, I'm a rock star!'

I used to cut my son's hair. It was in the eighties. It was in a sort of bob... Everyone loved it. When he was about 6 he decided to have it cut short at the hairdressers. I had mothers at his school asking me why I had my son's gorgeous hair cut. Was his choice though. Then when he was ten he decided to grow his hair. He then decided at 18 to have his waist length hair cut off. He always had it in a pony tail. I have two grandson's with long ponytails. Their choice. I am not sure why people think little boys should have short hair. Short hair for men is fairly recent in our history...I think late 18th/early 19th century when it became the norm. Boys should be given the choice...it should not be enforced on them...

My husband took our son to the barber's when he had his hair trimmed (he didn't use the word 'cut') and let him watch. The day eventually came when son asked to 'have a go' at sitting on the 'up and down' chair. He was allowed to examine the scissors with the funny extra bits on the handle, and try turning the 'buzzer' on and off.
It took several hair cuts (DH was never so well groomed again) but worked in the end.
Very patient barber.

My son (who also used to scream and squirm) mostly got over his violent aversion to trims after watching a small school friend ( with similar curls) have a trim at the barbers. Before that I had to give his tangles the odd snip myself whilst he was distracted. He got mistaken for a girl many times due to the mop of curls!
I think he thought touching his hair would hurt. A little girl had once accidently pulled his hair hard at soft play.

My grandson doesn't like women cutting his hair, he also doesn't like the word barber. He goes to a Turkish barber and we just say hairdressers.
He wasn't keen but does like having a nice haircut.

My mother simply told the barber 'short back and sides and a bit off the top' and that was it. No concessions.

Just leave it. He’ll decide for himself later on when his hair is getting longer if he wants to keep it long. It may get so long that it becomes inconvenient and then he may think that he wants it chopped off and will put up with the pain.
It should be his decision.

??*Well beck*

no BlueBelle. it was the previous story.

When my brothers had their hair cut they used to go with dad, we were in married quarters at an RAF base then, everyone had the same - short back and sides

My middle grandson has beautiful shoulder length blonde hair and looks just like his mother. He has some of it plaited out of the way when he's playin football. I suppose he will want it cut one day but you can recognise him a mile off among all the boys with their short hair.

One of my aunts had one of my cousins to stay when he was quite small. She tried to wash his hair one night but he told her he wasn't allowed to have it washed because it would bleed! She was sure she would have been warned about this but she said he seemed so certain about it that she gave up. Of course when she told his mother about it she nearly fell off her chair laughing.

Was that to me Wellbeck what was the problem ?

Obviously with hair it would need to be ear pods not big old headphones

i found that hard to read.

We have a childrens hair dresser here who has them in an actual playroom with tv games on the wall and a very sensory room might be worth seeing if there’s anything in the area

Another idea when my grandson was small (and not so small) he couldn’t tolerate the check ups at the dentist he just couldn’t bear it, once he even told the dentist she was hurting him and she replied but xxxxxx I haven’t started yet I ve got no further than you opening your mouth His mum had an idea of him wearing headphones and listening to ‘his’ music He was absolutely fine with that and there was never a problem
Is that an idea ?

DGS2 is the same. He was not too bad until he was almost 3 then a barber nicked his ear so is now so distraught and has had to be restrained that DD2 has let him grow it. He likes his long hair even if it goes in his eyes. It is so distressing when he is distraught. He doesn't like it being brushed now so I expect he will soon ask for it to be cut a bit. He is 4 now.

Bribery, works for us ?

He doesn’t want his hair cut. It doesn’t matter the reason - it’s not doing him any harm, his parents should just let it be for now.

Thanks for all the suggestions! Nothing has worked so far. Better luck next time - he enjoyed his first couple of days at school anyway!

DGS was just the same but the hairdresser we eventually found had little cars for the child to sit in and tvs to watch and for the bigger ones computer games. No problem after that. I say no problem, but although he will now go to the local hairdresser, he is autistic and his hair now has to be just so so he has to have it cut every two weeks!

At the barber’s where Gds gets his hair cut they have an iPad set up for them to watch. Funnily enough his haircuts have never been a problem - except for Mummy and Granny, who could have cried when his lovely blond curls were first cut off!

So many fun ideas! I have taken both my grandsons (2 and 7) along to my own hairdresser here in the village and never had any problems. The first time I took the little one I let him watch his brother having his hair cut first. They both just sat there meekly while the hairdresser chatted and shipped away.. The elder one recently had a haircut at a hairdresser local to him (his Dad took him) and I will admit that it was a much better cut. He looks like my cousin now! (Cousin sadly long dead)

My DGS was like this. Hysterical about having it cut and angry because it kept growing. It didn’t hang down nicely so he could keep it long, just looked like an overgrown toilet brush. My hairdresser at the time took a chair outside and let him watch the children playing in the playground whilst she cut it. They would come to the fence and wave to him and he’d calm down. It had stopped by the time he was four.
It worked wonderfully, though I’m not sure whether it was also so the other clients were not disturbed by his noise.
Several boys throughout both key stages where I teach, have longer hair. Some get it cut when the swimming teacher won’t let them in without a cap, some quite happily wear a cap and keep it long.

DS hated having his hair cut until I lighted on a proper barber who called him (aged 3!) sir and discussed the cut with him. Problem solved, large tip earned every half term or so until he came under the less than artistic hands of the school barber.

welbeck, I do agree with you. I had that bond of trust with my kids (although haircuts weren't an issue)
I also told them that as ear piercings and tattoos were unnecessary procedures that carried risks, I would never consent on their behalf. I didn't tell them that I hated them or any of the arguments any of my friends used, simply that until they could consent, I would not do it for them.
None of them has either!