Children having haircuts

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

What would you suggest? Tying them down to the chair and putting their head in a vice? it's not children running the house it's letting children know you are in control and they can feel safe.

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

What an odd thing to say!

The mother of my childhood friend couldn’t bear having her scalp touched. It was very sensitive and actually hurt. There’s a hairdresser locally that specialises in children with this fear. Might be worth asking on local social media or for a home hairdresser and pay for extra time if they are willing to attempt it. Quite a few boys now have long hair so might be best to leave it for now rather than create more stress for you all.

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

You mean let them have body autonomy?

Disgraceful, isn’t it?

Never having had sons I have no experience to offer but I do understand how distressing it can be to boys, especially if a barber is rather impatient with them or worse still, nicks an ear during the hair cut.

Maybe it is one of those things that parents need to prepare children for eventually, like going to the dentist - my girls were taken along to the dentists with me from a very young age and when the time came for their first check-up they were both comfortable with the procedure.

It's not just boys who are like that. My DD aged not quite 2 came out of the hairdressers with the screaming habjabs. With half her hair cut into a bob it was when the scissors went near her ears or eyes that set her off. My mum solved it by putting on one of those shields that children wore for getting their hair washed and suggested they played hairdressers. They played with rollers and scissors then pulled her own hair back and caught the bottom in an elastic and asked dd to cut it off. She then said should she do the same to dd put an elastic on the really long side and was allowed to cut it. DD did end up with a very short bob .
just let him be and buy one of those play dough hair saloons where he can cut hair or let him go with his dad a few times and just sit on his knee before suggesting he might like it.
I also had a friend who cut her sons fringe while was asleep.

Don't force him it will have lasting consequences. My pa cut my hair from a toddler and I was swaddle wrapped I. A towel so I couldn't wriggle held by ma then he used a Wilkinson sword razor blade he held in some newspaper to save his fingers.i screamed and screamed thinking he was cutting my neck and ears off , sometimes he did nick me. It was traumatic to say least. 64years later? I'm obsessed by my hair mess with it constantly and cut/styled it myself for all but 5 years of my life! DH says he thinks my trauma created my fixation so please please DON'T persist, he'll decide when he wants it cutting!

We just did one of our sons hair at home it was just too stressful. He now goes regularly and loves it mind you he’s 41!?

Well, I think so,*blondiescot*.

Well said, NotSpaghetti - allowing a child, even a young child, to have a say in something like their hair, is a far cry from letting them rule the roost.

What does that even mean in this situation happycatholicwife1?

Haircuts are nothing to do with running the household (or even the family) - but they are to do with how we feel about ourselves, a sense of identity, and learning to make decisions.
Why can't a little person make decisions about harmless (and frankly not very important) things?

Parenting is not about power and control - it's about nurturing growing and teaching the respect of others.

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

Another vote for finding a super patient hairdresser. My DDIL is one such and I can't praise her highly enough. If you're in the Herts/Bucks ping me a message and I'll forward her details.

My DS2, as a toddler, used to strip off at the hairdresser's because of the itchy little bits of hair that used to fall down his collar. When he was 10, I decided to give him a haircut. Unfortunately, every time I thought I had got it right, I needed to take of a little more. The poor child ended up almost a skinhead though I thought he looked quite cute . 40 years later he hasn't quite forgiven me.]grin]

On our eldest son's first visit to my hairdresser he made so much fuss, kicking, wriggling and screaming that she cut herself! He was three. After that I cut his hair, he was fine with that. I cut all our boys hair until they started secondary school, and my husbands which I still cut.

I would say if he really hates the process, don't cut it! Lots of boys have long hair these days, and if it gets a little bit untidy perhaps you or his mum could do a very light trim to keep it in shape - avoiding his ears of course. It's something he'll grow out of I'm sure.

My sons (and my daughter's sons) all had long hair till they chose to cut it at between 7 and 13.
Long hair is lovely.

I would be another who asks why it needs to be done.

My youngest grandson has just had his long hair cut this summer as he said he was too hot. He is 8. His hair was only trimmed until then. He was very excited recently to send his ponytail off to a charity that makes wigs for children who are undergoing chemotherapy... it was SUCH lovely hair and quite a lot of it. I hope he gets a thank-you eventually.
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My grandson had long hair for 8 years …from 7 to 15 …. now it’s short …his hair …his choice!

Why not just let him wear his hair long for a year or two…. you might have a different child on your hands by then.Schools aren’t bothered about hairstyles these days…. so leave him be!

Some people are really sensitive when it comes to having their heads even touched .

I recall dressing my grandna's hair for her.
I'd comb it very gently and eventually learnt to trim it .She never went to a hairdressers .

I've also winced as combs are sometimes dragged through my very curly hair and one of my granddaughters is the exactly the same .

If this little boy experienced any discomfort he'll panic when it's hair cut time .

Let him him have long hair and when he's ready and feeling brave he'll ask to have it cut .

Don't worry about it .

My younger son was terrified of the barber we first took him to. The second one was a female and she laughed and joked with him called the electric hairtrimmer Bigfoot and let him hold it and switch it on. Her approach was totally different to the abrupt and grumpy barber. Son was fine about getting his hair cut and as a 23 year old loves getting his hair cut.

Children's hairdressers are popping up all over the place now. They are geared to putting children at ease. Seats are usually vehicles with a tv screen child friendly environments and patient hairdressers.

I have 3 grandsons. Two have pretty normal cuts. Number 3 has beautiful long hair. I adore it. I. Imagine that one day he'll want it cutting but for now he's happy. Just started senior school and he's getting lots of compliments. Leave the hair. Schools can't force short cuts any more so just go with it!

I used to cut my chiliens’ hair while they were watching tv. True the cuts weren’t that good but they did. I didn’t have the money to pay the cost of mine let alone theirs.

I have seen screens showing cartoons in the children’s section of the hairdresser’s.

This is definitely not something to force on him. My GS (3 has lovely long blonde curls and a top knot. He looks gorgeous.

Jaxjacky

If it’s causing that amount of distress I’d just leave it, children have all sorts of hair length now.

I agree. Let him grow it till it's his decision about whether to get it cut shorter or not. My friend's son has just started secondary school and has hair well past shoulder length. It's fine.