What do you think about this?

The FA has cancelled matches. Will the highly paid footballers be affected? No. But the people running local businesses such as hamburger stalls will lose a day's earnings which they can probably ill afford in these dire times. As others have said, respect could have been shown by a silence. And as for a gimcrack TV shopping channel going off air as a mark of respect??!!

I do understand respect etc but personally I do not believe the Queen would want anything stopping because she has died. It was a very different Britain when her father passed away over 70 years ago ! We can be both respectful and carry on with our day to day lives To be honest it’s bad enough hat the government is unable to do anything for 12 days given our current situation and a new PM

People are damned if they do, and damned if they don't in a situation like this...

I think its rediculous to cancel after all life does have to go on people are still going to work etc so why not go on a sponsord hike

Galaxy

I am not in mourning.

Nor me. I am not happy with this state forced mourning.

It's nonsense to cancel events simply because the Queen died, especially charitable ones. It smacks of some people thinking they know what's best for other (lesser) people. The media telling us we are 'united in grief' is another example. We have a right to have our unique responses to significant events in the world.

The phrase “it’s what she/he would have wanted” is frequently used following a death, but I have often thought that it’s said to justify what the person saying it wants to do !
In the case of charity event though the picture isn’t quite so clear.

However other events have been cancelled, as as someone else correctly pointed out, during this period of mourning, it’s not about you and me and what we wish to do.

Thankfully, after giving it some consideration, the organizers have decided that our annual village show is to go ahead as planned tomorrow.

A two minute silence will be held before prizes are awarded, and there will be a book of condolences available for anyone who wishes to sign it and it will to be taken to the Church afterwards, where there is to be a special service.

That sounds like a very sensible and respectful decision to me.

Sorry, by it

A lot of local sporting events have been cancelled.
I have total respect for the late Queen, and I feel really sad and shaken but it, but I don’t think this is what she would have wanted.

I do understand that many people will be very saddened by the Queen's death and want everything cancelled.

My husband was due to play at a European Heritage event today. Nothing noisy or disrespectful. Cancelled.
I am feeling very depressed by it all. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

I agree Esspee.

Thank you nadateturbe
Ah, I didn’t realise that it was a ‘special’ one. It’s a bit strange, as there has hardly been any publicity about it (as far as I have noticed)

I "googled" and it's a 50 year celebration of UK Pride, a huge event which will have taken a lot of organising and which many are looking forward to.

We had a big event arranged at work for yesterday and today
By the time we heard the news, it was really too late to back out, too many people would have been hugely inconvenienced, and out company would have lost a lot of money.

We are all really sad, we loved the Queen, we just weren’t comfortable carrying on, but felt like we had to

Then I thought, the last thing the Queen would have wanted, would be that peoples lives were disrupted, I felt she would probably have said, get on with it.

We did have a few nasty Facebook messages though.

I’ve just seen from our local newspaper that Derby Pride is going ahead today.
Not sure if I agree with that decision, but ?‍♀️

let the organisers make the decision. If you don't like the decision made people could offer to be an organiser in the future and actually have that responsibility as they clearly think they know what should be done.

Think. Yes. Expressing their opinion in other words. Isn’t that we do on here ?

Callistemon21

^This first short period was followed by a formal funeral, with all men removing their hats and everyone bowing their heads as the hearse passed^

I find the clapping as a hearse passes very strange and it makes me feel uncomfortable.

I think all changes make someone feel uncomfortable. Perhaps it's happened because men no longer wear hats so were unable to give the "obvious" display of respect?

Callistemon21

DaisyAnne my mother died many years ago but I upset an elderly relative (an in-law uncle) by saying how much my mother would have loved seeing all the family gathered together at the wake.

I do think the Forces have a special respect for the Monarchy and it was decided to go ahead with the meeting but with a silence and remembrance. I think they needed to be together too.

I think 'upset' is easily and often caused at funerals.

It sounds as if the veterans your DH met up with were doing what was right for them. Making decisions in these circumstances is difficult. However, some people telling others who are grieving how they should behave has never been a good idea. People have very different views of what is appropriate. I would guess the only thing you can do with fund-raisers etc., is let the organisers make the decision. If you don't like the decision made people could offer to be an organiser in the future and actually have that responsibility as they clearly think they know what should be done.

This first short period was followed by a formal funeral, with all men removing their hats and everyone bowing their heads as the hearse passed

I find the clapping as a hearse passes very strange and it makes me feel uncomfortable.

DaisyAnne my mother died many years ago but I upset an elderly relative (an in-law uncle) by saying how much my mother would have loved seeing all the family gathered together at the wake.

I do think the Forces have a special respect for the Monarchy and it was decided to go ahead with the meeting but with a silence and remembrance. I think they needed to be together too.

My elderly mum's monthly social / support group which she really looks forward too has been canceled 'out of respect for the Royal Family". Poor mum finding herself very lost after losing dad after a long marriage. These things matter and I'm sure the Queen would most definitely have understood the situation of a bunch of elderly widows.

Callistemon21

DH went to a meeting last night. They had a silence and also a toast to the new King.
All Forces veterans. If anyone knows the right procedures, they do.

The problem is there are no "right procedures". We moved from the days when you closed all the curtains, didn't have visitors and went into a sort of purdah, seeking seclusion or having it thrust upon you. This first short period was followed by a formal funeral, with all men removing their hats and everyone bowing their heads as the hearse passed. Later, you could return to wearing jewellery and transition into mauve or grey. Such rules once only applied to the aristocracy. In addition to bringing wealth to the country, the industrial revolution took 'rules' through the classes. All, including the working class, had expectations about how you showed respect in death.

Our lives have changed out of all recognition in all areas. However, in many, we retain the remnants of the past. We find it difficult to know what to let go of and when. We are being asked that some may show their respect in a way others don't use or haven't ever known. Why is it so hard to accept and let others do what feels important to them?

and no real useful role in society
?

Does that win the prize for daftest, crassest post of the day?

Hithere

There is a bunch of hypocrisy with this subject in general

The country and the world mourns the life of a privileged person who passed away at 96, who had opportunities that other mortals cannot think of and no real useful role in society
but
The loss and disruption of lives in wars, such like Ukraine, has 0 impact

Are you saying Hithere, that you don't think the family, friends and all those who know people killed in wars, such as Ukraine, don't mourn the death of that person?

Or is this just another hate fest. I think your description of our Queen, a woman who has gone on working until working until she is 96, as "privileged" and having "opportunities that other mortals cannot think of" and "no real useful role in society" tells us all about where your comments come from.