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Pj wearers taking children to school,

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HeavenLeigh Fri 23-Sept-22 09:28:13

I live in a town, and was walking out at 8am to pick up some shopping, and while I have heard that some mums do this I’ve never actually seen it, but there in front of me three mums in full pjs walking along with their children quite happy, no coats, I felt overdressed I must admit!

Bignanny2 Tue 27-Sept-22 11:19:18

It’s lazy. Even if they claim to have showered and changed their pjs (which I doubt) why not put some decent clothes on and have some self respect.

Silvertwigs Tue 27-Sept-22 11:29:44

Me too Kalu, I hate it!

frankie74 Tue 27-Sept-22 11:31:46

Not nice if they then go to bed that night in same pjs. Lack of hygiene. I wouldn't do it, but live and let live!

grandtanteJE65 Tue 27-Sept-22 11:34:56

Reading this proves to me that we are fast returning to at least some of the values of the Victorian age!

I do realise that a pendulum can only swing so far, before returning to its starting point, but I frankly feel sad that the broader outlook of the 1970s is fast being overtaken by prudery and increasing social control. And this kind of censorious behaviour has never appealed to me.

I would not personally go anywhere in a dressing-gown, except to the nearest bathroom from the room I had slept in, but that is just me.

I could quite well go out to the bin in my night wear without startling anyone, as the hedges round our garden are quite high enough to conceal me completely, but I don't, having been brought up to dress before appearing for breakfast, but quite honestly if anyone has the face to be seen in public in their night wear, that is their business.

I would not, as head teacher, have had the nerve to dictate to parents what they should or should not wear when bringing or collecting their children from school, as long as their genitals were decently covered.

I would just have been glad they bothered to bring and fetch their young children.

sandelf Tue 27-Sept-22 11:37:08

Horrible example to set the children. Unless ill, it does you good to wash and dress properly. I do wonder what we are becoming.

jane1956 Tue 27-Sept-22 11:37:26

bet they don't get washed before they go out if still in pjs they then go into shops touching stuff!!!

JdotJ Tue 27-Sept-22 11:48:03

Chestnut

I'll be happy to judge them It's slovenly and lazy, sets a bad example to their children and is an eyesore for everyone else. Why on earth can't they just put some clothes on, after all trousers and tops only takes 2 minutes to get into. Heaven forbid we would expect them to wash their faces or brush their hair and actually make an effort to meet the world. If they can't manage to get dressed in the morning how on earth will they manage to run a household, cook meals, supervise their children's homework, and do all the hundreds of other things a parent has to do.

Totally agree.
It's lower class common

Fernhillnana Tue 27-Sept-22 11:50:30

It’s attention seeking. And it’s worked!

StoneofDestiny Tue 27-Sept-22 11:52:52

Crass slovenly behaviour and a poor example to children. What next - taking the children to school dressed in a bikini or turning up to a funeral dressed in shorts and T shirt - ?‍♂️ . What’s wrong with appropriate clothing for the occasion?

Margiknot Tue 27-Sept-22 11:55:23

I suspect the people that wear PJs out do not wear PJs to sleep!
A mum of another child in my sons reception class used to beep me over to collect her child (she had a debilitating illness) if she was in PJs. At the time it was unusual attire for the school run - but I applauded her for getting her young child to school.

biglouis Tue 27-Sept-22 12:08:06

I have really no interest in what my neighbours or shoppers wear or do, so long as it doesnt impact my life. I have better things to do with my time and cant understand why some people are so judgemental about pjs.

bevisp1 Tue 27-Sept-22 12:14:14

Lazy, and no class…

bevisp1 Tue 27-Sept-22 12:16:08

I’m sure that soon these PJ wearers taking children to school, their children will be toddling along in their PJ’s ?

GrauntyHelen Tue 27-Sept-22 12:16:46

I live in PJ's I don't sleep in them though You are unlikely to see me out in them apart from dog walk at 7am but you wouldn't know they were ok bottoms under my coat NB I am washed and my hair is combed

SiobhanSharpe Tue 27-Sept-22 12:23:14

Many years ago when I was pregnant and on maternity leave it had been snowing heavily and my DH needed a lift to the station, (normally used a moped but it was too dangerous.)
I threw a dressing gown over my nightie and got in the car while he drove down , I was going to drive it back.
Unfortunately he skidded on the ice to avoid an oncoming car and into a snowbank, damaging our car so it was undriveable. So I was on the side of a snowy, icy road in my dressing gown and slippers, waiting for the tow truck. On a snowy January morning. Bloody cold. Luckily a neighbour went past and stopped to give me a lift, tow truck arrived at the same time.
Lesson learned.

Missingmoominmama Tue 27-Sept-22 12:35:00

In the winter, I put my waterproofs on over my pyjamas to walk the dogs. I get sweaty, so I don’t want to put fresh clothes on. I just chuck them in the wash when I get home, and have a shower.

undines Tue 27-Sept-22 13:07:50

I don't like to see it. They've presumably slept sweated slobbered and who knows what else in those PJs. Other people may be equally or more unwashed but it's not evident. Of course they have a perfect right to wear what they like - and I have perfect right not to like it!

Lilyflower Tue 27-Sept-22 13:12:35

Well, it's a signal isn't it? 'I don't care about my children or whether they are failures.'

knspol Tue 27-Sept-22 13:21:58

Only seen it.a couple of times and think it's dreadful, what sort of example does it set to their children and also What Next???

Helenlouise3 Tue 27-Sept-22 13:27:45

Why would you want to go out in your nightclothes. If you don't have time to look for clothes in the morning put them ready the night before. It's just bone idle and sets a bad example for their children.

MissAdventure Tue 27-Sept-22 13:27:59

What next?

I'm sure some of you can think up something.

frue Tue 27-Sept-22 13:28:28

On the day of my first communion, we overslept so my father drove me to the church in his pyjamas. As local vet, he was recognised and hailed cheerfully

dizzygran Tue 27-Sept-22 13:31:44

Not done it, but my PJs look like lounge wear and and my GD said of a new pair of check M&S trousers = nan why are you wearing your PJs. you can't win. I remember struggling to get myself and the children ready and dhressed for school years ago - would have been tempted to have just dashed out in pjs

Sarah74 Tue 27-Sept-22 13:32:46

It's lower class common

Good grief, what a snobbish thread / what appalling value judgements!

As a teacher working in a deprived area, I saw young parents / single mothers wearing all sorts of garb to bring their children to school. But the fact that they got their children to school was the main thing, and to be applauded, given the circumstances of some of their lives. Wearing PJs outside is clearly not appropriate, but not everyone lives the lives some of you obviously do.

wetflannel Tue 27-Sept-22 13:35:54

I don't think it's at all appropriate to be wearing night wear outside. Sorry call me judgemental if you wish, but what happened to taking pride in one's appearance and what is it telling their children.