Soop's kitchen for kindly folk...

Thoughts and prayers are with SueDonim and Corner, not forgetting Baggs. A sad cloud overhangs the kitchen today. Keep safe everyone

Thank you for all your lovely posts. I hadn’t cried (am not really a crier) but tears rolled down my face at your messages. I am also very sad that there are so many other GNetters in the same boat. It’s just wrong, isn’t it, that younger people should get these illnesses?

From what they know right now, keyhole surgery should deal with the issue once and for all for ds and then life can go back to normal - but I don’t suppose it ever does truly go back to normality once you’ve been through this upheaval?

Pondering the why’s and what you could have done differently and fear of the future figures large at the moment. I guess once surgery is done and the facts are out there it might be easier to come to terms with.

I am sorry that you’ve been struggling Cornergran although glad some problems have resolved in the last day or so. It surely is a warning to get our affairs in order. Thankfully we have done ours - it’s not fun to think about but once it’s done you can forget about it.

Thank you for your support, everyone. Love to you all. Xxx

Chrissielou and Sar53 You are both warmly welcomed to the kitchen.

I would love to gather us lot together in one actual for-real room. An hour spent with you in person would lift my spirits enormously.

The wee painting that I beavered away with has managed to get lost in the post. It was posted, first class seven days ago. Hey ho!

I shall ride my exercise bike to no place in particular. Just for the hell of it.

I value your company more than words can express. Thank you, one and all for putting up with me.

A glass of delicious red wine will be raised this evening. With the raising of my glass will come my very best and warmest wishes. I so wish that I could do more. I would enjoy making myself useful during your times of anxiety.

Another here who doesn't post much on this thread but I just wanted to send my best wishes to SueD and her son.

I remember the feelings I had when DD2 was diagnosed with Malignant Melanoma nearly two years ago now. It came out of the blue and in the middle of Covid so I couldn't be with her.

Hopefully his early diagnosis and treatment will be a complete success. xxx

Thank you for your kindness everyone. I feel a lot more settled and embarrassment at sinking yesterday. My friend across country is the sister I never had, we grew up together and remain very close. Partially lost to dementia it felt as if the rest of her had been kidnapped by SSD. I understand very well what she would want and it isn't what is happening. Yes, a lesson to us all to get LPA's in place.

I've had some informed advice from a specialist Age UK adviser, can quote chapter and verse to ensure as much as is possible that her daughter and indeed I can be involved in care decisions unless there is proven good reason for it not to happen. The next step is for our goddaughter to persuade the SSD to listen. If she can't I'll have a go next week.

I'm sorry you are managing similar emotional pressure soop, we bounce back don't we, just not instantly.

The other friends situation has moved on. Yesterday evening the husband fell, a fractured femur and he's in hospital for a while. It solves their current problem if not in the way they would have chosen. Their feisty daughter is meeting with a social worker this afternoon incensed at the suggestion she stop work and care for them both - would that have been suggested to a single man with a highly responsible role in their chosen profession?

Legal issues are stalled, time is ticking, I can do no more than I have and they are firmly parked on a shelf for the weekend and Monday when we will spend time with family. Nothing gets in the way of that.

On to attend to our own things now, a recalcitrant credit card, amending a delivery from John Lewis, sorting a plumber - easy peasy

Thank you again everyone. Look after yourselves, hope your weekends have some smiles in them.

Good afternoon dear Kitcheners. I’ve just popped on while I’m waiting to pick up grandson to send my love to SueDonim for your DS diagnosis. I can’t imagine how you are feeling. You have lovely people on here to help you through. ?
Love to you cornergran for all your worries today you seen very weighed down. Hope you can get some restful sleep?

I’m just going to pick up my little man. He’s only with us an hour then his mum his picking him up to go to Chessington.
Have a peaceful weekend all. Lots of love. ? TOYA

I hope Im welcome in the kitchen, i read every day but dont usually post.

SueDonim I read your post and felt compelled to reach out and say how sorry I am. That diagnosis is so frightening initially I know, and Im sure you're reeling with shock. My DD1 was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in December last year, it came as a total shock to us all. Although there were some difficult months, she's now in remission. Feel free to pm me, I'm very happy to listen, there were a few of us with poorly DDs on GN this year, and their support was so welcome during some dark days.

Love to Baggs and hellogirl1.

Dear SueDonim, I am also feeling so sad for you after your son's unexpected diagnosis. What a terrible shock for all the family. Talk to us whenever you feel that it may be of some little comfort to you. A virtual gentle arm around your shoulder.

You, too, cornergran. October, thus far, has been an extremely unsettling month.

I am feeling low in spirits as a direct result of learning that, yet another friend has had a heart attack. If I seem "distant", I am simply trying to keep a low profile. No way do I want to add to the many sorrows within our Kitchen.

Should read equally quick treatment.

Suedomin what a shock to simply read your news let alone be the family receiving it. I hope your son’s quick diagnosis leads to equally treatment and recovery for him.

Cornergran I’m sorry to read of the problems you’re having. I hope that it’s quickly resolved and that you can manage a few more breaks away from it.

Sending hugs to both of you.

Goid morning, Soop and lovely Kitchen people. Such a lot of sadness, thank goodness for this special place of comfort and friendship.

SueD, I'm so sorry to read about your dear son's diagnosis but thankful that it's been caught early. Treatments have improved greatly, hoping and praying for a positive outcome. Thinking of you and your family.

I was at morning Mass, I drive an elderly/frail lady there most mornings, and I was thinking of all on here, so I lit candles and prayed for all the lovely Mums who are worrying about the health and wellbeing of their precious A.C.???

I'm looking forward to our Book Group dinner this evening, meeting up with my sisters and some friends at a local hotel. Before the pandemic we used to host the meet up in our homes on a rota basis. What started off as a simple supper, maybe pasta, salad and garlic bread, morphed into Come Dine with Me, cocktails on arrival, three courses, cheeseboard, tea and coffee and tablet...a lot of work!! So when we restarted our meet ups we decided to have a venue, choosing a different restaurant or hotel each time. Much easier!

TOYA?

Sending hugs to Suedomin,*Cornergran*and everybody else that needs them it's a sad time for a lot of people at the moment,we have.just got back from supermarket shop ,I don't know about others I hate putting it all away it's the same with ironing don't mind it but hate putting it away !we are picking gc up from school then I am going to see a amateur show of Calender girls with my daughter.

Goodness so much sadness in the kitchen ?. cornergran & sueD ???. I just wanted to pop in and say hello before getting things ready to Wear it Pink. Mr BA is doing loads- bless him ?. Giving my poorly ankle time to rest and heal. TOYA

SueD, I`m so sorry to hear about your son`s diagnosis, it hits like a sledgehammer, doesn`t it? Hopefully it has been found early enough to make treatment effective.
Corner, you`re certainly weighed down by worries, let`s hope a solution can soon be found.
Baggs, my thoughts are still with you and your daughter.
To everyone else with troubles, TOYA!

So very, very sorry to read your news SueDonim. I hope there is a pathway in place for your son. As it has been caught early there must be a prospect of a good recovery.

Cornergran what a lot you have on your plate, I hope the business stuff can be sorted quickly.

Gosh indeed a sad day in the kitchen.

Corner you do seem overwhelmed at the moment I do hope everything sorts itself out. It is a lesson that we must all put LPA's in place.

Sue what awful news. When we realise that 1 in 2 of us will be diagnosed with cancer it helps to know that most cancers are treatable. I know you would rather it was you than your son but it sounds as if it has been caught early.

Sending hugs to you and Baggs.

Another sad morning in our kitchen. SueD he's on my prayer list...I am bending him upstairs's ears very very regularly for the kitcheners who are struggling with either there own or children's health.
Corner... That is a lot on your plate just now and it's hard to feel helpless when friends need it. I hope help becomes available for your friends soon. There used to be a charity called Crossroads that offered respite care... I'm not sure if it's still going but there maybe something similar that could help your friends in Wales maybe.

Oh boy, corner! You do sound snowed in with worry. I hope some of these issues get sorted happily .

suedonim, hoping with all my heart that it’s a treatable cancer you son has. I know that shock you’re feeling. Hugs and hope x

DD had the stitches in her temple taken out yesterday and then some retail therapy and a nice lunch out with lovely OG.

So sorry to hear your news SueDomin what a shock for you all.
Not a lot to say I’m struggling myself at the moment with a bad PA flare,difficult to move.
Thoughts and best wishes to all who need them.

Suedonim I am so sorry. You must be terribly shocked and upset. I do hope it’s a treatable type. DH had prostate cancer over 25 years ago and is fine now he also has blood cancer but that is under control too. There are good treatments about.
Saying a prayer for him and your family.
Corner so sorry you have such concerns for your friends. Hope better help is available for them.

So sorry to hear your news SueDonim.Such a shock.Our thoughts are with you, your son and family?

Corner, what a difficult time you are having.You must be exhausted?

We have finally made the decision that my mum will move to live nearer us in an assisted living facility.The decision was made with mum’s input but it has been a really difficult decision to make and does make me worry about the future.

I haven’t posted much but do think about you all.

What a shock SueDonim I hope he’s treated swiftly and successfully, a lot to process.
If you can cornergran more pleasant jaunts out are required, such frustrating situations for you, but only so much you can do.
I hope today brings you both the odd moment of respite from worrying.

I’m so sorry sued, .

Suedonim I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Cornergran what a lot to have to deal with! ? And a big hug to both of you