Gender Reveal Parties What the Hell???

their Christmas decorations in October

No, that is an absolute No No!

Dreadful American idea - along with baby showers. Will we be having any Trying for a baby tonight! Showers I wonder?

When she arrived, she was most definitely a he! ?‍?‍? ?‍?‍?They had a shed-load of pink clothing and equipment, none of which could be returned as it had all been removed from packaging and washed.

And all of that would be perfectly serviceable for a boy.

I remember buying vests for my 3 month old boy. The assistant was apologetic that they only had girls' vests. The difference? Slightly fancy straps instead of plain straight ones.
My baby never noticed - imagine!

Dickens

^... so no baby showers, Penis Party etc. for me.^

I thought this was satire - but Penis Parties are actually a 'thing'.

With cakes and other party-food constructed accordingly.

Still, Truss wants to grow the economy...

Someone please enlighten me - what is a Penis Party? Do strap-on dildos count, or is it bona fide willies only? And are they Out and Proud, or is the dress code strictly Budgie Smugglers?

My AC and spouses chose not to know in advance and it was just lovely to receive that phone call after all 4 births with the happy news. The midwife who delivered one of my granddaughters was really excited during the labour. She couldn’t remember the last time she’d delivered a baby and the parents didn’t know in advance.

One of my daughter’s friends decided to have a 3D scan and send copies to both sets of grandparents who delighted in seeing their grandson wriggling around. Then 2 months later the baby was born and it was a girl !

Call me an old cynic but I don’t think these lavish reveal parties would exist if there was no social media. It’s yet another instagram event.

Witzend

Dickens

... so no baby showers, Penis Party etc. for me.

I thought this was satire - but Penis Parties are actually a 'thing'.

With cakes and other party-food constructed accordingly.

Still, Truss wants to grow the economy...

Someone please enlighten me - what is a Penis Party? Do strap-on dildos count, or is it bona fide willies only? And are they Out and Proud, or is the dress code strictly Budgie Smugglers?

And are there any knitting patterns for these items?

I guess if some find happiness and joy in commenting negatively about what makes others happy...

I'm going to have to accept that as a valid choice

And then run far away

They’re rather an old-fashioned couple, FarNorth and I think they’d be shocked at that idea! I must admit, when I met them after the baby was born and he was swathed in blue, I thought it was my memory failing me because I was sure they’d said they were expecting a girl. I was quite glad I hadn’t misremembered!

Callistemon if you look for naughty knits on twitter,you will find plenty of knitted penises. It's very funny. I bought one of their knitting pattern books for a relative.

Just more American claptrap

Violetsky
That’s a lovely sentiment, but I can’t help thinking there’s more than enough plastic rubbish around without adding to it.
And can someone please explain what a penis party is, and what happens at one?
Sounds a bit more interesting than a gender reveal party.

VioletSky

I think we need to let people have their happiness.

Let them have their gender reveal parties, their Christmas decorations in October, their hobbies we don't understand.

Let people find all the happiness and joy they can in life

This!

I think people can do what they like. I think it's fine to challenge some of the sterotypes that are associated with gender reveal parties in the same way we challenge stereotypes about other groups.

That doesnt mean nobody must say it's a money spinning waste of time, though.

When I was expecting our first baby, my Mum bought the pram but wouldn't pick it up until baby was born. She said it was bad luck.
Has anybody else experienced this?

Oh yes!
My mum was most emphatic that the pram wasn't to be bought in the house, so it was stored elsewhere.

Crazy world yes I knew what this was as I work in childcare and parents often tell me there having one of these.?

Callistemon21

Witzend

Dickens

... so no baby showers, Penis Party etc. for me.

I thought this was satire - but Penis Parties are actually a 'thing'.

With cakes and other party-food constructed accordingly.

Still, Truss wants to grow the economy...

Someone please enlighten me - what is a Penis Party? Do strap-on dildos count, or is it bona fide willies only? And are they Out and Proud, or is the dress code strictly Budgie Smugglers?

And are there any knitting patterns for these items?

I had to improvise patterns for my Cheeky Bagpiper’s bits - if anyone remembers him - made to raise money for Prostate Cancer research.
One bit was easy enough and funnily enough I found that the sporran pattern adapted very easily for the other! I do hope Jean Greenhowe wouldn’t have a fit - the whole cheeky chap was taken - with very minor modifications - from her McScarecrow pattern book.

CraftyGranny

When I was expecting our first baby, my Mum bought the pram but wouldn't pick it up until baby was born. She said it was bad luck.
Has anybody else experienced this?

yup

I remember your cheeky piper, witzend

I remember the cheeky piper too ?

Grandmabatty

Callistemon if you look for naughty knits on twitter,you will find plenty of knitted penises. It's very funny. I bought one of their knitting pattern books for a relative.

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There was no such thing as knowing the sex/gender (cross out the unacceptable) in advance, when my daughter was on the way, and I did not want to know what my grand and great children were before they arrived.

Galaxy

I think people can do what they like. I think it's fine to challenge some of the sterotypes that are associated with gender reveal parties in the same way we challenge stereotypes about other groups.

This is my take on it.

I don't care what people do about parties - it's absolutely harmless, although I do wish the 'gender' nonsense would stop, and think it would be less awkward if there were no expectation of presents. I've seen 'reveals' on Facebook, and that is just sharing the joy, I think.

It's a new person coming into the world and an addition to a family though - not a 'surprise' treat. Babies are babies - and as someone said upthread, they are very uncomplaining about the odd bit of lace or a print with yachts or something instead of pink roses.

My mum had two girls and then a boy, and told me that people thought she should get rid of little cardigans as they 'buttoned up the wrong way'. I remember that continuing through to school ones, too. Perfectly serviceable grey cardigans couldn't be passed down as the buttons were on the 'wrong' side - madness. That has died out now (I don't even know which is 'the girls' way' and which the boys') and AFAIK nobody even noticed. I was perfectly happy for my daughter to wear my son's clothes if they fitted her and were in good condition, whichever way they buttoned up.

VioletSky

I think we need to let people have their happiness.

Let them have their gender reveal parties, their Christmas decorations in October, their hobbies we don't understand.

Let people find all the happiness and joy they can in life

I'm all for people doing what makes them happy, I just hate the exploitation and the plastic tatt (which ends up in landfill) that commercialises these events.