Dog friendly? What would you do?

why would it have been rude of GrannyRose if she hadn't asked if it was OK to take her dog? They're supposed to be friends, some she knows very well so who know she has a dog. Who goes for a walk and leaves their dog at home?

Don’t you think it all hinges on whether the OP imposed her dog on the group or not?

How terribly unkind!

Did you ask in advance if it was ok to bring your dog?

If they did, they were very rude. I would have gone home.

If you didn’t, you were very rude, I’m afraid. No reason why they should have to choose seating just to accommodate an unexpected dog.

Which was it, I wonder.

They knew you would be taking your dog so they could have taken it into consideration. I would have just said well if we are not sitting together I shall go home.

Wow, how rude and unkind. TBH I would have been quietly furious and gone home. We frequently go walking with our dog and have lunch in dog friendly pubs and restaurants, our biggest problem is stopping him being spoiled by people without dogs. He is particularly lovely though (not that I'm biased). Get some new friends, they sound horrible!

NotSpaghetti

I do not like eating in restaurants/pubs with other people's dogs either.

If I'd gone with my dog on a walk and ended up at a restaurant/cafe I would have made my apologies and probably eaten outside assuming I was hungry and didn't want to go home. I'd most likely choose to go home though to be honest.
I wouldn't take my dog inside where people were eating in case they felt uncomfortable (as I would).

But the point the OP is making is that there were two areas which were 'dog friendly', so there's absolutely no reason why these so-called friends couldn't have sat in these areas and eaten with her. If a restaurant has areas which are specifically marked as 'dog friendly', there's no reason for anyone to feel uncomfortable.

I do not like eating in restaurants/pubs with other people's dogs either.

If I'd gone with my dog on a walk and ended up at a restaurant/cafe I would have made my apologies and probably eaten outside assuming I was hungry and didn't want to go home. I'd most likely choose to go home though to be honest.
I wouldn't take my dog inside where people were eating in case they felt uncomfortable (as I would).

Depending on how hungry I was 2 or probably 3.

I wouldn't have felt like walking home with them again after they'd been so rude so I think I'd have gone home.
Understandably they might not have wanted to eat outside unless it was an exceptionally nice day but what was wrong with the conservatory?

I would never leave a dog outside unattended and I am very surprised that none of your friends would sit with you.
I would have had eaten in another area, with my dog with me and then gone home. Just out of interest how do you feel about these friends now?

no 3 and I wouldn't be meeting with them again

How rude, and hurtful. Option 3 all day long!

How mean! It wouldn't have hurt them to sit in the dog friendly area with you. Hope they felt bad when you decided to go home.

Since lockdown I think a lot of people have become selfish as well as thoughtless. I am glad you went home, your dog will always be a better friend than any of them.

Yes indeed.

Whether any of the others were dog people or not, allergic, afraid of dogs, whatever - the fact remains that they knew the OP had her dog with her, so their actions were rude to say the very least and not very friendlike!

Did they give a reason? For instance 'I am allergic'. 'I don't feel comfortable eating with a dog around'. Or did they just go in without an explanation or apology?

I'd have done as you did and gone home.
What will you do next time, if you go for a walk with them again?

Did they all know that you would be bringing the dog? Was there someone there who is allergic to dogs, or who has a fear of them? Some people can get an asthma attack or other allergic reactions from being in an enclosed space with a dog, and others are scarred from experiences with dogs - you might be sure your dog is friendly and harmless, but they might not, particularly as you hardly know them..

I am very much a doggie person, but I'm not keen on the current trend for having them in eateries - for one thing if there are two of them they might fight, and because not all owners are sensitive to the needs of others, letting them sit on the chairs or even walk on the tables.

I sympathise, and I would have thought that someone would have agreed to sit in the dog zone with you, but if they all thought they were going out to eat in the restaurant and it was you who changed the game at the last minute then I have some sympathy with them, too.

I'm not a doggy person either and don't like to see dogs in places where people are eating. However, if your friends knew you were bringing your dog, they were thoughtless and selfish.

I’m not a dog person, and prefer to eat where there are none around.

However, in this case;

Were you the only one who took your dog? If so, did you ask if it was a dog friendly eating place, and did others mind your dog being with them? It sounds like there were no others, else surely they would have sat with you.
As I say, I’m not a dog lover, but would have felt bad seeing you sitting alone, so I think I would have said something, and suggested sitting elsewhere.

Good for you Rose!

How rude of them Granyrose15 . You did the right thing. Have they been back in touch with you?

I’m not a doggy person , but I would have sat with you and cast bad karma after the rest !

Oh, I do love gransnet! Thanks for your support.

I came home.