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The best age to start a family?

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sodapop Sat 29-Oct-22 07:15:01

It's the same for me Calendargirl I am pleased to have had children and grandchildren whilst I was relatively young. My grandchildren are in their twenties and thirties now whilst many of my friends still have a lot of child care responsibilities for their grandchildren.
I don't think there is any right or wrong time just how life pans out often.

Calendargirl Sat 29-Oct-22 07:05:41

Had my first child at 21. Quite young for nowadays, but this was nearly 50 years ago. My own parents married late and were an ‘old’ mum and dad, but not by today’s standards. I always wanted to have my family when young.

So glad that was what happened. Am pleased to have older GC now, unlike some of my contemporaries who are just starting on that route. My DH and I have time for ourselves and our interests, we did the babysitting and school runs years ago. Enjoyed it, but wouldn’t want to go back.

ElaineI Sat 29-Oct-22 00:38:10

I don't think there is a best age. Some mothers are very young, some mothers forward their career first then start a family and some mothers for whatever reason are older and more established in their career, housing etc. All are mostly wonderful mothers and might have different views on child raising but there is no right or wrong age to begin and as long as children are loved and nurtured then it is right for them.

Hithere Sat 29-Oct-22 00:10:35

Sadly, I dont think we can choose that

It depends on having the right partner, for example

nanna8 Fri 28-Oct-22 23:56:00

Nowadays ,with rising costs, some couples are waiting much longer before they have children. It wasn’t unusual to have children very young when we married. I can see advantages both ways. - energy being the obvious one when you are young yourself and the ability to get down and really play ( and the desire to ). On the other hand you have more stability and a higher living standard when you are a bit older. One of my grandchildren had a baby at a very young age and she said she couldn’t find anything in common with many of the other mums she met, they were too ‘old’. Another daughter waited until she was almost 40 and she is a different sort of mum, a lot wiser but perhaps a bit more fussy .