Just for a laugh

You have to laugh sometimes when chatting to those with out a 'filter' don't you.
Sometimes though some comments can be incredibly hurtful and stay with you forever. I was once told by my gran that I wasn't having pocket money or any treats off her like my cousin did because my cousin was her daughters child and it was natural to love her more than me because I was only her sons. . Never forgot that in her eyes I was valued less. It hurt.

Oh hilz - that’s so hurtful. I can’t imagine how you felt. Did you ever tell your Dad? It would have hurt him too. I hope you are having a happy life now. I have 6 GC - 20, 18, 7, 7, 4, 4 . Yes, I practically brought up the older two, because daughter and husband were working. There is a bond, but the love I feel for all, is the same. I do give them more pocket money because they are older. And besides, their parents are divorced and my daughter is now a single parent. Circumstances dictate the distribution of gifts etc, I guess.

crazyH .Thank you so much for your kind words and lovely flowers! ..Sadly my Mum and Dad were made to always feel second best by her and even by my aunty. I know they weren't of course and grew up in a loving environment by extremely hard working parents who never showed any of their own grandchildren any hint of favoritism despite their very different personalities. There was never any obvious reason for my Grans attitude other than her obvious love of her daughter being valued as more than for my kind, generous natured and very hardworking Dad. You are right of course about circumstances sometimes dictating gifts and obviously thats fine. It wasn't the pocket money that was so much of an issue in my case it was the comments of loving my cousin more than me. Strange how sommeones simple question on this forum can evoke such strong memories. I thought I was over it now at my age. Clearly not 😂🤣😂

My Mil called me a Jezebel when courting her son as I was a few years older. They never came to our engagement party. When my DH died suddenly she came to the house and scrubbed the floor telling me she’d done the dirty floor. She didn’t like the cat paw marks. On rare occasions I visited alone she would go upstairs leaving me alone but if DH and add we’re waiting th me she was perfect host. So many horrid memories stirred up by this post

Sorry not very lighthearted but reading some other posts I see I was not alone

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My inlaws were lovely. I was very lucky. We got on well and shared a similar sense of humour. My sister in law is very forthright - and a bit bossy - but we got around that and enjoy our phone calls and visits. Again I'm very lucky

My MIL terrified me when I first met her, she was a SAHM and had am immaculate house, baked, sewed, played hostess. She kept recipes and had loads of cookbooks. She was actually quite nice once I got to know her, but she did always buy me cookbooks or things like Le Crueset casseroles for presents. I tried but I'm not a cook!
Most inappropriate thing she said to me was when I took the children to see her after the divorce when my ex had cleared off with someone else "But how will he manage?" she asked!!!

My M-I-L was a difficult women (had to be the centre of attention all the time and much more!!) BUT her saving grace was that my S-I-L and I could grumble about our husbands and she would say "Oh they are just as bad as their dad!"

There are many rude, unkind things my MiL has said to me over the years. It started with her inviting my H's ex girlfriend over at the same time as me! I cannot think of one nice thing she has said to me. I gave up making an effort and being nice and polite and just have minimal contact with her now. It's made me very mindful as a MiL myself now, I may still annoy but they won't go through what I have.