Just to say

Thankyou Bluebelle.and* cornergran
Bluebelle,I always notice your comments about wild swimming,I would think on day like today you would be literally a blue belle

I certainly saw your first post downtoearth and I m sending a second hug this time of joy that you are finding yourself again
giddygran may I send you one too what a horrible thing to happen, many of us have been there but not after 53 years that’s, a shit thing, I truly hope you can rise above it and I m sure we will all be here for you too if you need a bit of help xx

Love to everyone on this cold grey November day (ps I m always feeling invisible took me a long time to realise it’s not personal but the way of forums)

Welcome back downtoearth. and a hug for you and another for giddygran Life can be hard, we don’t all share when we need the warmth of a hug so there’s one from me for anyone struggling.

giddygran I understand what you are experiencing,and how it affects your self esteem,and you wonder if your whole life was built on a lie.
I wish I could add words of wisdom how to cope,and keep your pride and dignity in tact,I cant.
I dont how recent this is for you,but there are like a bereavement many stages to go through,sometimes one at a time some days all together.
I hope you have support,and caring friends,GN is maybe a place to explore anonymously,because you dont want anyone in your home town to know how humiliated you feel and want to hide away.
It does get easier but meanwhile a hug and .

That is kind. I missed the original post, so passing along a ((hug)) from me as well, and happy you are back on line!

Just read your post downtoearth and am going through something similar. H of 47 years met OP online and after many years of deceit and lies, is now living with her in happiness and love. 53 years of life gone like that!

Thankyou to all of you,*catwoman*, yes your post is read and appreciated.
Like a lot of you I have had some dark moments,and it can make you very sensitive and vulnerable,and overlooked and ignored,I realise now that in lurking and reading and not commenting,not knowing what to say,could be construed as overlooking others posts,when someone has posted about loss or trauma, my heart has been with you but havent known how to respond in my frozen state,something the warmth I have received has melted that,and as the written word can be used to inflict powerful hurt,more than the spoken word ,it can also have the power to help heal and soothe,I have read the hugs relues and this thread many times over the few days it really is a warm feeling,and lovely to know that I have been remembered from several years ago for you all

Sending hugs from me too!

From me

Love this ♡

Last again…but so pleased you feel uplifted.GN can certainly put a spring in our steps.Big,big hugs again.x

Lovely to hear from you again, hope life is starting to get better for you. GN is at it's finest when any of us are going through difficult times, as many can testify. For you

Don't often post on here myself but do understand what you mean about posts that are important to you and seem to be ignored/dismissed. Welcome back and keep on posting!

I’m glad you have found your fun and cheery self again, downtoearth.

When life drags us down it’s a huge relief when we find ourselves bobbing back up to the surface.

Thankyou all so much your hugs and kindness are really appreciated,and returned to you all.
For anyone one today who is feeling low I send an extra warm hug,you really are a lot of lovely grans

Good to have you back - consider yourself well and truly hugged!

Welcome back downtoearth. I hope that you are feeling better, and continue to enjoy life in Grandsnetland.

Sending big hugs. I don't know if my comments are seen, but hopefully you see this. 💐🥰

So pleased to hear you're getting your confidence back and responses in GN have helped. ❤️

I'm another who missed your post downtoearth so, ((((BIG HUG)))) ❤️

So glad you’re feeling better downtoearth.
Hugs and 🌻🌻🌻 from me. 🤗

I missed that one, so here are some new hugs from across the sea. <3

Gransnet is much more inclusive and comfortable than Mumsnet which feels rather competitive and one-up-womanship orientated! I also question whether some posts are genuine on there.

For a lovely lady.

Keep going x