Staying put or moving house?

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You head knows the answer

We are lucky enough to have two homes. Our main one is a 10 minute walk into town, near the station and bus stops. Doctors and shops on our doorstep, family nearby. Lots of friends and clubs I belong to. Two hospitals 20 minutes away.

Dh has always wanted to move to our seaside cottage permanently. We love it so much BUT at least an hours journey to nearest hospital, 2 miles from the nearest small town, no buses and no friends or family close by. It’s a lovely bolt hole but a very old property that needs quite a lot of maintaining.

I would advise ‘Stay where you are’ - holiday by the sea when you can.
Be careful what you wish for.
Good luck x

I'd heave a sigh and stay, family and facilities matter so much, and take as many away breaks by the coast as long as you are both able.

I'm moving within my city next year, to be closer to the things I want and more suitable, near shops, GP, et al.. I've never had space to put family up anyway.

The biggest one has been my family suggested I move up to be near them, as they won't be moving. 3 hour drive. that's the hardest decision, but to leave all that is familiar - it seems to hard to do, tho when i was younger would have done it without thought.

Way too many old people for the facilities available

At the risk of sounding harsh, the OP would be adding to the problem if she were to move there.

I always wanted to live in a village in the countryside but now I appreciate that where we live is near to all the facilities that we need as we age. A move would be stressful now for us I’m sure so trips out to fields and woods and perhaps renting a cottage now and then has to be enough for us now.
I’m envious of you living near your children. My two emigrated to Sydney years ago.

I can understand how your husband feels, I long to get back to the coast where I grew up, but family health problems have kept us here and we will probably be here forever now.
We don’t have such long distances to travel as you do in Australia, but as you age even a 5 hour round trip to satisfy (my) longing to see the sea is too much. MrOops is quite happy here.
So we compensate by going away for long weekends, every 3 months or so.
I sympathise, but sometimes you have to listen to your head. Maybe you can get some holidays there instead?

My house is probably too large for me but the location is fine and it has space for the family when they visit. I've toyed with downsizing but too much hassle. Every winter I think I should have moved and every summer I'm so glad I didn't because of my lovely garden. I'm a victim of my own indecision!