Paying towards Xmas stay

Since DD has taken over hosting Christmas for us, I have transferred cash into her bank account, labelled as Turkey and Tinsel.
She and SIL are very organised, so seem to have everything needed, so cash is a help towards the cost of our stay.

Ask if you can contribute and, if the answer is 'no', quietly give what you would have contributed to a food bank.

I simply transfer £100 into their bank account if we are eating at theirs for Christmas lunch. The Turkey will cost that alone.

I also take Christmas pudding and “mums” trifle, plus chocolates, perhaps crackers etc. oh and fizz! Of course.

I generally ask if there's anything specific they would like us to contribute beforehand, and always take extra treats in the form of wine, fresh fruit juice for drivers and young children, maybe a bottle of spirits and some posh chocolates for after dinner. Don't think it's possible to actually put a monetary value on it and actually, my DD's and SIL's don't expect anything at all.

Poppyred

Easier to give cash so they can buy what they need. Anything you particularly want, take it yourselves.

By the way, everyone comes to us and we wouldn’t dream of taking any monies. We haven’t been invited anywhere else. 😂

We take homemade chutneys, pickled onions, a gammon ham, mince pies, Christmas pudding along with champagne and wine.

Wouldn’t dream of giving family money for our dinner nor would I ever request it from guests.

Easier to give cash so they can buy what they need. Anything you particularly want, take it yourselves.

I usually give wine and meat vouchers for local shops. That way they can buy what they like, and support local businesses at the same time. Also bring flowers with me.

We always ask what they'd like us to bring - and we take extra Christmas goodies, too, like chocolates, wine etc. I'm sure that they wouldn't take cash. If they're really on a very tight budget, though, I'd offer. When I was broke, my brother would send me an M & S voucher before Christmas to 'buy something nice' with - and I could spend it in the food hall - wonderful.

No cash as such other than as Christmas gifts. But like other GNs here, we'd go laden with gifts, be helpful, and do shopping (which we pay for) as well as taking them out for coffees, meals, etc.

I would do the same as Ro60, or perhaps ask before hand what you might contribute & take regarding food & drink in case they have worked out menus for those 4 days. I would be uncomfortable having to breakdown & put a price on Christmas.

I don't think they'd take it if we offered. We would take plenty of stuff with us though.

At least £200.

Nothing. I always go laden with food & gifts & take them out for meals, coffee & cakes, baby sit etc.