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Where are you from? Is it an insult?

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Sago Fri 02-Dec-22 08:07:40

I often ask people “where are you from” it’s always interesting to know, particularly as there are so many accents I cannot always pick up.
A cab driver recently told us about his old life in Afghanistan and how he was loving his time in the UK, he told us he had really enjoyed his chat.
Our SIL is mixed race and often gets asked, he is always happy to talk about his heritage.

It’s so easy to offend.

Bunty24 Tue 06-Dec-22 11:30:55

I agree with you. To me it didn’t smack of racism. If someone had persisted in asking me questions like that I think I could cope and perhaps say to my nearest and dearest “what a nosy old bat”. I wouldn’t have dreamed of putting it out there for the press to get their teeth into.

tickingbird Tue 06-Dec-22 11:01:34

Which woman, the old one or the young one ? Both were abused.

The difference is the old one hasn’t said a word on social media.

nanna8 Tue 06-Dec-22 10:56:48

Which woman, the old one or the young one ? Both were abused.

icanhandthemback Tue 06-Dec-22 09:35:17

Summerlove, exactly.

vegansrock Tue 06-Dec-22 05:58:21

Racism is well and truly alive in the U.K., if the amount of online abuse this woman has received is anything to go by.

Summerlove Tue 06-Dec-22 02:27:59

Why do people who are hurt by racism need to compromise?

It’s really not hard to not do or say racist things. To apologise if you screw up. To be anti racist.

By saying both sides need to compromise and to essentially say there are hood and bad people on both sides, completely undermines any anti racist steps people take.

This is so disheartening how many people refuse to listen. To see how some actions might be wrong. Instead they get defensive and dig in.

VioletSky Mon 05-Dec-22 22:12:16

Idk

I was very aware of casual racism when I was young

But now I see more of it again and it's so much more covert and sinister

volver Mon 05-Dec-22 22:10:35

Ok. I'll steer clear. confused

DaisyAnne Mon 05-Dec-22 22:07:27

Go and pick your fight somewhere else volver. I am not interested.

volver Mon 05-Dec-22 21:54:31

I asked you a question DaisyAnne, I didn't put words in your mouth.

DaisyAnne Mon 05-Dec-22 21:46:21

volver

So do you not think it was racism either DaisyAnne?

The hair bit was quite incidental IMO, but definitely culturally inappropriate.

The she got going on the really racist bit. Probably didn't mean to be racist, but racist she was.

Please do not put words into my mouth or my posts volver.

DaisyAnne Mon 05-Dec-22 21:44:41

VioletSky

I'm just so disappointed

Why? We have come such a long way. We have done a great deal. We were never going to go to sleep and wake up in the morning and find it all sorted.

We have to work towards a consensus that is generally accepted. Neither the racist nor the single-issue race protester will or should hold sway. They are minorities. Eventually, the extremists will have to understand the majority want the best we can do and stop beating people up because they are not perfect. I don't remember a time in history when everyone obeyed the then-current "this is the rule" view of how we should behave. If we did reach a time when we become forced to do so, we would be no better than Iraq or Afghanistan.

We accept the best we can do in exchange for not being like those countries. Meanwhile, we work towards the generally accepted "better".

MissAdventure Mon 05-Dec-22 20:43:48

I think I got my wires crossed.
Apologies. blush

tickingbird Mon 05-Dec-22 20:38:02

Icanhandthemback

She's a presenter/reporter on GN News; the channel for the politically correct. confused

Thanks. I’m not aware of her but do watch GBNews in the mornings.

VioletSky Mon 05-Dec-22 20:35:01

I'm just so disappointed

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Dec-22 20:10:55

DaisyAnne

volver

Through this whole thread. Through the whole other thread.

People saying it's not racism.

Moving someone's hair is not racism. It is wrong for anyone and everyone.

Yes, it is.

volver Mon 05-Dec-22 20:10:53

So do you not think it was racism either DaisyAnne?

The hair bit was quite incidental IMO, but definitely culturally inappropriate.

The she got going on the really racist bit. Probably didn't mean to be racist, but racist she was.

MissAdventure Mon 05-Dec-22 20:10:10

Classism, then? Is there such an ism?

DaisyAnne Mon 05-Dec-22 20:08:30

volver

Through this whole thread. Through the whole other thread.

People saying it's not racism.

Moving someone's hair is not racism. It is wrong for anyone and everyone.

Callistemon21 Mon 05-Dec-22 20:08:21

icanhandthemback

tickingbird

Why is she horrible?
She is expressing her opinion.

Who is she though?

She's a presenter/reporter on GN News; the channel for the politically correct. confused

I've never heard of her.

Iam64 Mon 05-Dec-22 19:58:29

That will do for me DaisyAnne — there is racism in the uk and we are in a process of change.
Straight forward, summarises where we are. Change can be a real challenge, it’s most effective if those involved welcome change and can reach some consensus about the way forward

Imagine, trying to organise the posters here 😇

volver Mon 05-Dec-22 19:53:46

Through this whole thread. Through the whole other thread.

People saying it's not racism.

DaisyAnne Mon 05-Dec-22 19:50:45

VioletSky

I absolutely applaud women who stand up and draw attention to racism.

It's distinctly odd to me how many people just don't agree it is happening.

Of course even having access to the media and having a following still doesn't always mean that victims are believed...

I wonder why people wouldn't believe them and would accuse them of a publicity stunt for drawing attention to an issue many face?

It makes no sense to me

Who hasn't agreed it is happening. I can only repeat two things that are of equal importance.

1) There is racism in the UK
2) We are in a process of change

Madgran77 Mon 05-Dec-22 19:36:18

growstuff

grannygranby

Ngozi Fulani was born Marlene Headley to parents Meredith and Gladstone. Her sister is called Sharon.
She was brought up in Kilburn not Hackney.
She runs a one person charity and paid herself £65k with £150k of expenses undetailed in the accounts which have not been filed for 3 years.
She is “from” Barbados but dresses in full African clothing with an adopted Nigerian name.
You can see why she doesn’t want to answer the question where she is from because to do so would expose her hypocrisy and cultural appropriation.

No, she's not "from" Barbados.

Why did you have to pile one smear on top of another?

The accounts were filed every year. And a Charity Commission audit which identified no issues

She is not from Barbados.

Dear Me!!

volver Mon 05-Dec-22 19:28:22

icanhandthemback

tickingbird

Why is she horrible?
She is expressing her opinion.

Who is she though?

She's a presenter/reporter on GN News; the channel for the politically correct. confused

Oh Nana!

Yes, she is horrible.