Are you nearly there yet?

We are doing Christmas lite this year. Only about half the decorations, no baking and far less fuss. Why stress, just enjoy.

Sending hugs Iam. I can't imagine how you cope.

I am so slow this year. We have no decorations up and the dining room still looks like Santa's grotto - I'm fairly sure it should be fairly clear by now.

Allsorts, thankyou. I was blessed to have over 40 years with my lovely husband. I do believe that whilst I’ll always miss him, I will find ways to live well.

Sago - I’m sorry that my response may have taken your thread in a sad direction.

On a positive note, I’m meeting ex work friends today, family gathering tomorrow, party at dog training Saturday (help my young dog will be over excited) and I’ve finished my Christmas cards. Gifts largely done but five important ones to finalise will hopefully be done today

Iam4, the first of everything adds to the loss I’m afraid. You go through the motions a lot, family and friends help get you though somehow. We think we will never adjust as our loss is so great, but we do.💐

Thank you Sago. I’ve been to three nativities and have the fourth tomorrow. I had tears of joy and thought how much my husband would have enjoyed seeing our grandchildren happy and confident.
I bought a tree, couldn’t go to the usual place we’ve used for 40 years but, got a tree and decorated it slowly. I’m finding I weep easily but that’s expected. I’m blessed with family and friends. Plus the dogs 🐕🐶
Thanks sago

I’m sorry Iam64 I hope there are some happy moments for you.

Nope. In the the just about managing group (thank you Theresa May for that useful description)
Bereavement adds a dimension to the busy, emotional time of year. I’m doing a day at a time, more slowly and with a mixture of emotions.