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farview Thu 15-Dec-22 09:43:12

..in sods law...my H has an appointment at the memory clinic tomorrow, weve waited quite a few months for it...on Tues he was shivering and coughing...yesterday was really poorly, today hes seeing the doctor..suspected pneumonia....I've been so desperate for a diagnosis for him....

farview Thu 15-Dec-22 18:45:43

To watch someone's short term memory fade...personality change...is just unbelievably sad...A very clever man who has worked all over the world in the oil industry ...who can still,albeit takes longer..do sudoku...read the paper,watches and comments on the news...remembers the past...but cannot now remember something from minutes ago,sense of humour altered,..cant follow instructions....its very hard to watch and to live with in all honesty, constant repetitiveness is tiring...I've never really encountered this before...no memory problems in my family...Hs mother (estranged) had dementia....I'm now seeing the true cruelty of this disease...

farview Fri 16-Dec-22 08:19:30

Setting off shortly to the memory clinic and am a bag of nerves....

Ginny42 Fri 16-Dec-22 08:31:29

Farview, I can only imagine how you're feeling this morning. I hope you have lots of support from family and friends. Sending kind wishes from afar. xx

anna7 Fri 16-Dec-22 08:34:11

Best of luck Farview x

crazyH Fri 16-Dec-22 08:49:05

Be strong farview x

DanniRae Fri 16-Dec-22 09:13:40

Thinking of you and your husband farview and hoping it all goes well x

JenniferEccles Fri 16-Dec-22 10:35:19

I’ve only just seen your thread farview
So sorry to hear about how your husband’s memory has deteriorated.
I hope you get the advice and support you need today.
Easy to say I know but keep strong.

Blossoming Fri 16-Dec-22 10:59:50

Thinking of you today Farview flowers

Kalu Fri 16-Dec-22 11:09:00

You are in my thoughts today farview. 💐

HousePlantQueen Fri 16-Dec-22 12:45:17

You are in my thoughts too, Farview, and don't forget there is always a GN around to offload or chat, or have a good moan. Many of us have been on the journey you are on.

farview Fri 16-Dec-22 14:06:04

Thank you ..all of you...H has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's....obviously I knew there was a problem...but it is a shock even so....Nurse coming next week with information etc and to sort lasting power of attorney out.
A lot to take in..
💐💐for you all x

Grannybags Fri 16-Dec-22 14:12:15

Sorry you have had your fears confirmed fairview I hope you get all the help and support you need flowers

FarNorth Fri 16-Dec-22 14:16:29

Oh farview I'm so sorry that's happening for you both.
Get all the help you can.

Yammy Fri 16-Dec-22 14:17:40

Best wishes fairview to you and your H. I hope you get all the support you will both need.flowers

Ginny42 Fri 16-Dec-22 14:20:44

Very sorry to hear this fairview. Although you knew there was a problem, you must be in shock right now. Lean on family and friends and GNs of course. flowers

Ginny42 Fri 16-Dec-22 14:24:37

Farview Apologies for getting your name wrong. blush flowers

Jaxjacky Fri 16-Dec-22 14:46:47

I can understand the shock, there is help, take it and take care of you x

Marydoll Fri 16-Dec-22 14:54:22

I'm so sorry, farview. What a terrible shock.

LauraNorderr Fri 16-Dec-22 14:56:17

Farview, big hug.

Wyllow3 Fri 16-Dec-22 15:00:01

Very best wishes, farview for this very difficult road you are treading.

Oldbat1 Fri 16-Dec-22 15:12:15

I’m so sorry. M-in-L had Alzheimer’s and was lucky to be giving medication which slowed down its progression. The Alzheimer’s Society have a really good site when you feel ready to read more info.

Blossoming Fri 16-Dec-22 15:17:31

So very sorry Farview, what’s shock. I hope the nurse can provide practical advice and help

JenniferEccles Fri 16-Dec-22 16:14:24

So sorry you’ve had your fears confirmed farview.
It must have been a shock nevertheless and I’m sure your mind is whirring with all the implications.
I do hope the nurse will be able to offer practical help and support when you see her next week.

Ali23 Fri 16-Dec-22 22:26:00

Thinking of you and your DH Farview. I have two brothers in law with Alzheimers. They’ve both benefitted from medication and i so hope that your DH will too.
💐

farview Sat 17-Dec-22 07:57:50

Thank you all for your lovely,caring posts....reality kicking in this morning...