Yes, well we were all taught to start with the glasses, then do the cutlery, plates, and the saucepans last, and never, never to wash or rinse anything under a running tap, weren't we?
Yes, WE WERE, but our visitors weren't!
So either point out that water, and heating it is too expensive to waste by rinsing things under the tap, or say firmly, but pleasantly, "I shall do the dishes later on my own, I have my own system and I would really rather sit and talk to you, than stand at the kitchen sink."
Any well-mannered guest will take the hint. Sisters and other female relations are more difficult, but we tend to be blunter to them, don't we?
Perhaps something along the lines of "If you are helping here, you do things my b. way!"
Or as a school friend of mine said, (when we were 16 or so) to my mother, "Why don't you go and emulate the lilies of the field? They toil not, neither do they spin. And leave the washing up to us."
Mother was not amused.
Any Rain Anywhere, Or Are We In A 1976 Timewarp?



