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Did you ever 'dump' someone in your youth?

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DaisyAlice Fri 30-Dec-22 16:11:08

I met my future husband when I was eighteen. I only had two previous boyfriends and I finished with both of them. On and off for fifty years I've thought that I could have been kinder. I finished with one because College 'friends' teased me that he was fat. I stood up a boy that I really liked because my best friend said she missed us going out together and talked me into finishing with him. I've felt the guilt ever since because he took two buses to my home (no telephone then) as he was worried that I was ill. They've probably both forgotten me though!

Kim19 Fri 30-Dec-22 16:20:20

Yes, funny old world of past relationships. I've often wondered about a lovely chap I severed relationship with in our mid twenties. He was the most delightful and upstanding fellow but perhaps lacked the element of excitement for me. Not at all his fault and I carry a degree of guilt with me to this day even though I found the 'right' man. Mmmmm.......

Skydancer Fri 30-Dec-22 16:26:41

In my early 20s I dumped someone I'd been seeing for a few years without a backward glance as I'd found someone more exciting. To this day I am ashamed at my behaviour. I've learned to treat people better now. I regret the way I handled the situation as he deserved better.

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 16:30:13

I've dumped people left, right, and centre.
I don't regret it, I'm sure they all went on with life without me.

HowVeryDareYou Fri 30-Dec-22 16:42:20

MissAdventure

I've dumped people left, right, and centre.
I don't regret it, I'm sure they all went on with life without me.

Me too. I had been dumped a couple of times, too

CornflowerBlue Fri 30-Dec-22 17:13:20

I dumped my boyfriend after 2 and a half years of dating in our teens. But I never forgot him. In our early 40s not having seen him since I was 16 and both in unhappy marriages, we reconnected through Friends Reunited totally unexpectedly! We have now been married for over 20 years and never been happier! (He still reminds me of how I dumped him though!!!)

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 17:17:53

smile

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Dec-22 17:18:05

Oh, gosh, yes.
You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince.

I was dumped a couple of times too. One was very unkind in the way he did it. I wasn't that keen on him anyway!

I always tried to be kind but sometimes that is worse than being blunt.

CornflowerBlue, that's lovely, he obviously forgave you 🙂

Lathyrus Fri 30-Dec-22 17:29:09

Nope. Somehow I managed to remain friends with all of them. Two or three came to my wedding. One of them gave me a cookbook as a present😬🙄

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 17:31:43

One of mine is currently getting me some shopping. smile

Lathyrus Fri 30-Dec-22 17:32:48

Old boyfriends are the best😀

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Dec-22 17:34:54

Lathyrus

Old boyfriends are the best😀

Yes, whatever did we ditch them?
🤩

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Dec-22 17:35:20

Whyever, not whatever.

I should ditch autocorrect.

MissAdventure Fri 30-Dec-22 17:35:29

A dribbly mouth.

Callistemon21 Fri 30-Dec-22 17:39:03

Lathyrus

Nope. Somehow I managed to remain friends with all of them. Two or three came to my wedding. One of them gave me a cookbook as a present😬🙄

I've never seen any of them since, perhaps because we all moved away.

However, I did meet a girl I knew at school who'd married one of my ex-boyfriends and I hoped she was happier with him than I would have been.

Lathyrus Fri 30-Dec-22 17:39:29

1. A nice mouth but for some reason it just didn’t fit mine. We clashed teeth.

2. 20 years older than me

3. Gay (as we both found out later)

4. Went back into prison

I don’t think I’ll go on………..

I didn’t dump them though.

Calendargirl Fri 30-Dec-22 17:41:06

I went out with a lad in the Upper V1 at school, I was in the 5th form. We went out for a year.

We both left school same time, him after A levels, me after O levels.

I started work in a local bank, he went to other end of the country to work. We swore undying love, was going to write regularly.

After a few weeks, I found myself wishing I could go out with my girlfriends, and just be single again. So when he came home for Christmas, I finished with him.

He was devastated, I felt awful but knew I was doing the right thing.

Over 50 years later, and happily married to another, I do sometimes wonder where he is, and what happened to him.

But no regrets.

Calendargirl Fri 30-Dec-22 17:44:48

Should have said, I bet his mother hated me. He would have gone to university, but got a job to save up for us getting married instead.

I think she must have blamed me, quite rightly really.

blush

Blondiescot Fri 30-Dec-22 17:55:52

Oh, I didn't kiss any frogs before I met my prince, so I have never dumped nor been dumped. Started going out with him the week after my 16th birthday, married at 21 and still going strong after all those years!

Grandma70s Fri 30-Dec-22 19:21:02

Yes, particularly an American who was very keen on me. I went out with him because I had nothing better to do - I was lonely, in a new place and a new job - but I never at any point found him attractive. I should never have gone out with him really. He was very upset when I dumped him.

Alioop Fri 30-Dec-22 19:27:40

I was an awful dumper and for the silliest reasons at times. I broke off an engagement when I was 21 because I wanted to go on holidays with my friends, enjoy the single life. I ended up marrying another guy that I met on one of those girls holidays, but he was a hateful control freak and I left him after 14 years.
The funny thing is my ex that I dumped when I was 21 and his wife have split up and he gave my friend his number to pass on to me if I fancied meeting up. I'm not interested, I've been on my own now for nearly the length of time I was married and happy enough staying that way.

Abitbarmy Fri 30-Dec-22 19:31:16

Oh yes. Leaving the cinema by the back door at half time if they didn’t come up to scratch or had wandering hand trouble.

ExperiencedNotOld Fri 30-Dec-22 19:37:37

I didn’t meet my husband and get married until I was 32. There was a long trail beforehand… oh, I blench when I think about some of the circumstances, dumping and being dumped.

Whitewavemark2 Fri 30-Dec-22 19:43:06

Yes, to someone I was engaged to for what turned out to be my husband of 54 years.

Very uncomfortably though, I received a letter from him a couple of years ago. He had tracked me down, and wanted to become friends on line.

I ignored the letter, as I thought DH would not be best pleased.

I sort of half wished I’d replied though, just to see what had happened over the 57 years or so.

Oreo Fri 30-Dec-22 20:35:06

I remember dumping four boyfriends when I was between the ages 14-18.They were all upset and I did feel guilty later about it.
There’s never a nice way to dump someone though is there?
Just drop off the key Lee and set yourself free!