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How Old (or Young) are you in your Head? šŸ¤”

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FannyCornforth Thu 26-Jan-23 11:35:03

Hello smile

Inspired by the ā€˜64’ thread.

How old do you really feel?

Do you believe in ā€˜arrested development’ or similar?
In the H***y threads it’s suggested that he ā€˜got stuck’ at the age he was when Diana died.

For me, 11 seems very significant, and also 25 (when my mom died).
I never feel older than 30 in my head.

Physically, it’s a totally different kettle of fish..

Susieq62 Sun 29-Jan-23 12:07:51

Always25 in my head!! Am really 72 and today I feel it!!

Applegran Sun 29-Jan-23 12:02:38

I was 37 for many years and am now about 43. I am chronologically old but do not feel it in my mind.

henetha Sun 29-Jan-23 11:59:51

I'm stuck at 14. A significant age for me.
I can't pretend I'm young at 85, but I do honestly feel much younger in my head. In my thirties, I think.

sweetpea Sun 29-Jan-23 11:59:36

I’m 76, but feel 50 in my head! As others have commented - the face and body tell a different story!

bevisp1 Sun 29-Jan-23 11:56:11

I feel about 30 in my head, my body sometimes feels old 🤣 I would like to be about 21+ again, feel I dress modern for my age. I am actually 61. I remember my mum at 40 when I was 10, thought my mum dressed old for her age. But was probably about right though for the style 1970+

silverlining48 Sun 29-Jan-23 11:54:49

My mum was forever 29 until I reached 29 when she moved to 39.
I think we all feel younger inside, it’s just the outside which lets us down.

Juicylucy Sun 29-Jan-23 11:50:16

Feel in my 30s act like in my 40s and I’m mid 60s luckily I’m fairly fit & healthy so I’m able to.

clareken Sun 29-Jan-23 11:47:47

My DM, when asked, always said she was 21. Then, when my oldest sister had her 21st birthday, mum allowed that she might be 29. She is 86 now and still going strong.

Nellietheelephant Sun 29-Jan-23 11:47:12

I'm 40ish. 82? You must be joking! Oh, woops, there's a mirror.

SillyNanny321 Sun 29-Jan-23 11:44:35

My Nan told me to grow old disgracefully so I tried. At least in my head I am still 30ish with my young son & going to gigs every other week as my OH liked his darts so we worked that out ok! Cant do gigs anymore but still love music like I did when I was 30. I still play Quo AC/DC etc very loud. Through my son I also like some of his music. Disturbed has to be played loud too! Good job I live in a detached property! Then I walk by the mirror & think good job no one can see me! That was when I was happiest I think around 30!

GrammarGrandma Sun 29-Jan-23 11:37:51

I don't think I'm any particular age in my mind but I know what age I am not and that is 78 in April. Time thinks differently.

lizzypopbottle Sun 29-Jan-23 11:37:08

We have a fifteen year old boy in our karate group. I'm 70 and I am determined to jump as high as he does when we're performing kata. I already jump a good bit higher than most other students, regardless of their age. This, to my mind, isn't because I'm better than they are. It's because they have no ambition! Challenge yourself! It makes a difference.

HannahLoisLuke Sun 29-Jan-23 11:36:59

33.

madeleine45 Sun 29-Jan-23 11:30:08

I am 26, with copper coloured hair , very active, always being told to slow down by my husband. Unfortunately the mirrors and windows in the town are very badly lit as they show a white haired rather bent old lady . Dont know who she is but she is always around when I am. Seriously of course I have to accept my physical self and deal with it, but I obviously dont really accept it mentally as I find myself still working out the timings for things as my younger self and am always amazed it has taken so long. When things are good I just do not think of age at all for anyone, and whilst I could describe someones hair colour and clothes if I was asked their age I am hopeless at judging once the person is an adult.

MeowWow Sun 29-Jan-23 11:29:41

I’ve never really thought about how old I feel. I’m 66 but don’t think of myself as a 66 year old but then how does one know? I don’t feel any different now to when I was 56, 46, etc.

Keffie12 Sun 29-Jan-23 11:17:55

I always say "I got my head together and my body fell apart" I know I don't act or feel my age.

I have C - PTSD and had an unhappy life before I fled the ex 22 years ago. Childhood was also unhappy.

Ofcourse I knew happiness in moments of time externally. I didn't know peace/happiness within.

That has come over the past 23 years as I finally embraced 12-step program recovery and other therapies.

The only way I can describe it is: I got my head together and my body fell apart.

I don't act my age or feel it. I don't look it either. Age is a number

HeavenLeigh Sun 29-Jan-23 11:17:26

Oh dear, oh dear Baggs! Well I will answer the question Fanny I feel 30 until I look in the mirror and reality hits home 🤪

Cossy Sun 29-Jan-23 11:13:46

I’m 64 in ā€œrealityā€ 24 in my head and about 164 in my body ….. currently overweight, with fibromyalgia and arthritis and poorly spine !!

Peartree Sat 28-Jan-23 18:16:36

Im 68 on monday but feel 30. My knees are ok because they are both replacments.

veejay Fri 27-Jan-23 09:16:47

Whatever age I have been I always felt younger than it.
I remember saying to my mother (jokingly) are you sure I was born in 1943.because I never felt whatever age I was
I still feel more like I did in my 20s.

Minerva Fri 27-Jan-23 08:57:49

Baggs

I’m probably just too literal about age, FC. Nothing else was meant. And I only read the thread title, not noticing who wrote it. šŸ™‚

What an interesting reply. Do others post with regard to who the OP is?

I am in my 80s and physically all of that. But my head takes me back more than ever now to anywhere from age 4 upwards. I often think that when I am grown up I would like this time round to study, say, geology or another language then feel sad to remember that it’s too late. I know people older than I am achieve scholarly degrees and their brains are clear and their recall amazing but mine are not and I am taking myself back to 19 when I think I would like to learn how to fly a plane or study at Berkeley.

FannyCornforth Fri 27-Jan-23 08:39:25

Bette Davies also said that being old ā€˜wasn’t for cissies’

Baggs Fri 27-Jan-23 08:14:31

hollysteers

Bette Davies said ageing should stop at 36. That sounds about right and will do me, not too old, not too young.

I have an inner 9 year old who collects pop up books, toy theatres and trains.

I have an inner (and outer) 67 year old who collects abandoned sandbags.

They stop flooding near our back door.

Grammaretto Fri 27-Jan-23 07:40:51

Just as well we don't know what's round the corner crazyH!
But lovely that you can look back to happy days and that you have weathered the storms
Sea voyages are useful analogies for a life well lived, though I don't think I would enjoy a cruise.

FannyCornforth Fri 27-Jan-23 07:08:54

Not ā€˜someone’, I meant ā€˜sometimes’