Many thanks for all your messages and views. Just to clarify, my daughter in law works from home and we have my grandson one day a week so she can get on with her work. The weekends are not a regular thing, only 2 or 3 occasions in total, the recent times where we had my grandson longer were to help out after daughter in law had surgery. My husband has had our grandson help in the garden and the workshop occasionally, and does play with him when he comes indoors.As a couple we do lots together, walks, outings, boating, none of this had been stopped by caring for our grandson. Hubby does have some health problems as do I, but I do try and occupy grandson in another room if hubby wants to watch TV. I also take him out a lot. I have considered looking after him at his own home, but then he and his grandad will miss out on spending time together. I can fully appreciate some people do not want to undertake care if their grandchild, it is up to individual choice. Having spoken with my husband again, he has said he doesn't want us to stop having our grandson. Just gets grumpy now and again. Is a bit like it when family and friends visit, Huff's and puffs before they arrive and after they have gone, but pleasant and sociable once they are here.