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Any ideas for a birthday present for 90 year old brother in law? My mind is a blank🤔

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hollysteers Sat 11-Feb-23 13:13:52

Finding this difficult, any bright ideas Gransnetters?

Lucca Sat 11-Feb-23 13:18:59

Consumable. Biscuits chocolate sweets fruit alcoholic or non alcoholic drinks eg (fentimans rose lemonade )fancy crisps.

NotSpaghetti Sat 11-Feb-23 13:54:05

Depends on the kind of 90yr old...
Might like a subscription to a streaming service or something that arrives regularly through the post such as a magazine.
Does he have an easy tablet?
Something for the garden?
Does he like theatre/sport/music?

Palmtree Mon 13-Feb-23 21:49:06

Maybe a short trip out somewhere for lunch would be nicer than an actual gift

Serendipity22 Mon 13-Feb-23 23:16:40

How active is he? The present all depends on the gentleman in question and how much you want to spend.

My first thought was a special occasion deserves a special treat, how about a steam train ride?

😃

Maggiemaybe Tue 14-Feb-23 00:06:49

A newspaper from the day he was born, if he doesn’t already have one? Or you can get a book with the newspaper headlines for every year of his life, if he’d be interested in that sort of thing?

Redhead56 Tue 14-Feb-23 00:24:43

It depends what interests him I treated my DH on his 70th to an event at a car rally he absolutely loved it.

My DH organised an afternoon on my 60th I handled birds of prey it was fantastic.

Concentrate on what he really likes and it will make his day I hope you organise a treat and he really enjoys it.

cornergran Tue 14-Feb-23 01:55:12

We’re heading for Mr C’s 80th and family gifts will be an event of some kind, a day out and a two night hotel stay so far - including me of course grin.

If it’s possible logistically why not consider a lunch or special afternoon tea with your Uncle? Good memories are always welcome.

Hetty58 Tue 14-Feb-23 02:54:50

His favourite meal (ask him, my uncle's was fish and chips) - either out or delivered - joined by family of course, might be the best treat (along with a cake).

Actual gifts are tricky - as some of us really aren't bothered, have everything anyway - and will be even less bothered at 90! We have that embarrassment of faking joy and appreciation for said gift, too. I've realised that presents are more about the giver - feeling compelled to do, buy or organise something. Spending time with the person is the best 'gift'.

growstuff Tue 14-Feb-23 03:45:27

My partner and I deliberated about his mother's 90th birthday for a long time. Her mobility isn't great and one day she was talking about missing going to a favourite garden centre. We're taking her there with a couple of relatives and are treating her to a traditional tea. We'll get a mobility scooter and she can wander around, looking at plants and we'll probably buy her some or anything else she fancies. She has other children and an army of grandchildren and I'm sure she'll be bombarded with presents.

growstuff Tue 14-Feb-23 03:49:14

PS. My mother never reached 90, but my sisters and I treated her to a pedicure, manicure and facial at home, which she loved. I appreciate that probably wouldn't be appropriate for a man, but maybe there's something he puts off having because it's tricky to organise or he can't afford it.

Wyllow3 Tue 14-Feb-23 03:50:55

If he is too far a way for an outing - I agree the treat time out/spend time with is the nicest - or expects a pressie too I agree with the food/drink consumables.

Depends on the man, but a nice warm jumper?

absent Tue 14-Feb-23 05:31:52

You could get in touch with his local newspaper and ask if they would be willing to make a facsimile of his birthday.

MrsKen33 Tue 14-Feb-23 05:54:58

We bough a beautifully bound historic newspaper book for an aunt on her 90th. A page from the Times for each of her birthdays. She thought it marvellous.

Chardy Tue 14-Feb-23 07:22:36

A photo book of memories?

Wyllow3 Tue 14-Feb-23 07:32:39

MrsKen33

We bough a beautifully bound historic newspaper book for an aunt on her 90th. A page from the Times for each of her birthdays. She thought it marvellous.

That's quite something, how do you get hold of one? - even better than the newspaper of birthdate.

dogsmother Tue 14-Feb-23 08:12:09

Agree need to know a little more about him?
If he’s outgoing then take him out on a date always a favourite for me. Or if he’s more anti social some kind of indoor treat as someone has already said above a hairdo ( assuming he has any) a chiropodist visit.
Strange sounding however…….

Fleurpepper Tue 14-Feb-23 09:36:00

An 'experience' with the people he loves best. At 90 (and even now at 72) last thing he needs is more 'things'.

annodomini Tue 14-Feb-23 09:43:26

It's difficult to advise because you don't give us any indication of his lifestyle, his state of health or his mobility. A hale andhearty nonagenarian would probably appreciate a bottle of fine malt whisky.

hollysteers Tue 14-Feb-23 10:15:27

MrsKen33

We bough a beautifully bound historic newspaper book for an aunt on her 90th. A page from the Times for each of her birthdays. She thought it marvellous.

I like this idea and thank you for all your suggestions.
He lives in the south and I am in the north, so I wouldn’t be taking him anywhere.

GrandmasueUK Tue 14-Feb-23 12:30:33

We bought jelly drops for my DFIL for his 95th birthday. They are fruit flavoured pods and he absolutely loves them. He's in a care home, so is tricky to buy for . You can get them as a one off gift or a subscription. I tried them myself and they are delicious. They are sugar free but don't have the unwanted side effect that some sugar free snacks have!
They were originally designed for alzheimer patients to keep them hydrated.

nadateturbe Tue 14-Feb-23 12:35:20

My brothers children had a lovely dinner and dessert delivered from a local hotel/restaurant.