St Valentine…..did you get a card or gift?

Never seen the point of Valentine's day once you are married.

We have both a wedding anniversary and the anniversary of the day we became engaged if we feel like celebrating US, plus a birthday each and Christmas for giving presents.

Not a fan of Valentine's Day or any other over-commercialised celebratory days. That said, DH and I exchange cards and it's become a jokey test of our compatibility. We shop at our local book/card shop and often end up buying the same card for each other. We draw the line at flowers at inflated prices and enjoy the rhyme: "Roses are red, violets are nice and today I can buy them half price!"

sharonarnott

Nope it's just one big money making scam. My partner and I have always been of the opinion that we choose how and when we show how much we love each other. Not wait for a pre-set date on the calendar every year!

Who said that the rest of us 'wait for a pre-set date'. It's a reason for a little extra fun.

Four year-old grandson burst through the door with his handmade card for me, featuring a photo of himself blowing a kiss- very sweet.
Few minutes later he gave me a pretty posy of spring flowers; I was charmed especially as I'd forgotten it was Valentine's Day.
Even more charmed when I realised 'Granda' had organised the flowers 💐

I miss my valentine very much, but can look back at many wonderful and romantic days we shared. Taking a trip to visit where we first met, a winter picnic on the moor, messages in the Guardian Memories are a help but still a hard day. Thinking of all who are in the same situation

For the past few years we've exchanged the same Valentine, birthday and anniversary cards. DH now has Alzheimer's disease so needs prompting or I wouldn't get one, but it's nice to have a card to display on these occasions.

Nope it's just one big money making scam. My partner and I have always been of the opinion that we choose how and when we show how much we love each other. Not wait for a pre-set date on the calendar every year!

Had the usual unsigned cards when very young - order of the day! but never had a card from my late husband as he didn't believe in it. However did get taken out for a nice meal. Until his recent death I did get a card and flowers from my best friend's widower husband. He liked to think he was making up for my loss and his. Must admit it was always a lovely surprise when the local Florist delivered his gift.

I get a card and also give one, but I cook the meal but no romantic gestures, he doesn't know what they are and after being married for nearly 53 years it's a bit late for him to learn now!

Cards and gifts exchanged, as we have done for over 40 years! I received a box of 10 x fortune cookies, each of which had been carefully opened and resealed with a new and romantic message in them, one to be eaten each day. Today's message: "Love does not consist of gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction".

I never get a present or card on Valentine's Day, though once he took me to see Cats as a late birthday present. The date was pure coincidence. He doesn't do Mothers' Day either, though some of my children remember.

Married 63 years , never once had a Valentines card!

No cards or pressies for me. No one to get them for me. I was never one for Valentine's though either. It's ok when you're younger and at school. The anticipation of secret admirers. When you're in a relationship what's the point. You're together day in day out. Little tokens or gestures mean more when they're not expected.

We gave it a miss this year. We both agreed to do that as we were so busy we didn't need the extra pressure.

All our accounts are joint too my DH hopes I will spend it on me but I don't want for anything.
I never do spend money on myself it gets spent on our GDs.

Redhead56

A card with money in flowers bought a few days ago and a cook at home meal from Sainsbury's.
My DH didn't get married until he was in his forties and has always been romantic.

I would find it very strange if my husband gave me money. All our accounts are in joint names so we can take out what we like . Many many years ago DH gave me a cheque for a hundred pound for Christmas and I just thought it was daft .

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Aveline

My Gran always used to give me a Valentine's card. Signed 'Love Gran.' No mystery!
Found a card and box of chocs had been left for me by a secret admirer. DH looking smug

I send Valentine's cards to our three DGC every year. I don't sign them though, I write the old verse,
If our names you wish to know
Count the kisses down below..
Xxxx and Xxxx

For Gran and Papa. I also write SWALK on the envelopes, and put love heart confetti inside the cards.

Sentimental, 💕💕💕, I know...

I received a lovely bunch of spring flowers, my DH always buys me some and I’m very lucky. We had a special meal cooked by me. My DDs also had flowers from their other halves and meals cooked for them. We all count ourselves lucky and appreciate our menfolk,

My husband and I exchanged cards. He said he wasn't going to spend £27 on a bunch of roses (he's off work and not being paid, so fair enough)

I bought a card for DH a couple of weeks ago, when I bought the February birthday cards, but forgot all about it.
We said nothing this morning but came to walk me home from my volunteering with a single rose and a bar of chocolate. We've just had a Chinese takeaway.
He then told me that he was going fishing for the next few days, I knew he was buttering me up for something!

This is a smiley and happy day for me. My husband said he would buy me roses any day I liked except St Valentine's (a piece of American nonsense apparently!) That was when we were engaged and still I married him. No regrets whatsoever but it was an on going joke with us every year.

I bought myself some daffodils though!

tanith

Sadly I have no one to buy me a gift/card today. But no matter.

Ditto - town was in-your-face valentines stuff when I went in earlier.

Aldom so touching and tender.
I may tune into the folk club on zoom tonight. We've been promised some tearful tunes.
I've lit the fire, poured the wine and have bought myself my favourite chocs.

Happy Valentines Day everyone.

Secretly I never enjoyed those expensive dinners for 2 at the restaurants. It was strangely awkward . So many equally awkward couples.