When things break down...

My very efficient lady plumber has been and gone, my problem is solved.
New tap and waste pipe both of which were leaking .
She is going to send me an estimate for a new over the bath electric shower, going to cost more than I had thought but it needs it so will probably go ahead.

I no longer have a car myself and since my H was ill no access to one but fortunately taxis are very good here so for the number of times I go out I am sorted thank goodness.

Very helpful thread. You people understand.
And modern technology brings us all to our knees at times.

Oh for the days when there was just BBC and ITV….my brain hurts with it all.

We told virgin to do one over the last price increase.
Had an aerial fitted and free view box fitted. That deals with the terrestrial tv. One off payment, £120.
Got a 2 year contract with 3. First 6 months £10 per month then £20 per month thereafter.
That supplies all the internet we need and my Prime, Amazon, Disney +

What confuses me is that I thought the tv box was Wi-Fi. Every night my ipad stops working and I have to ‘turn everything off and turn it back on again’. Which seems to work! I think, basically, my whole house needs rewiring ! Which is a bit extreme! At least the engineer got the tv in the kitchen working again; haven’t had an tv there for years.And I have one solitary aerial cable that can now go into recycling as it’s definitely shot it!

DS set it up in the first place, it disconnected the other day for some reason but I managed to connect back through settings on the Humax remote control.

MayBee70

Callistemon21

Whitewavemark2

My Virgin box isn’t working, but I’m being told by Virgin that it is the tv, I’m 90% certain that it is the box and not tv - need our son to have a look as we simply don’t have enough technical knowledge - grrr!

Have you gone into settings on both TV and the box (ours is Humax) and reconnected to the Wifi by putting in the pin number?

It didn't work when I just did it on the TV, I had to re-set both, although I've no idea why it had disconnected itself.

The tv guy told me that if TalkTalk can’t provide a wi fi tv box I need to get a Humax. But I need to change my email log in number. It’s so long since I joined Talk Talk I’ve no idea what the old number is. They say that everything should work with the router they’re sending. If I have a Humax does that mean I don’t have to pay TalkTalk for catchup tv? It all seemed quite straight forward when he was telling me what to do but now I’m confused again. I know that I can change my iPad to the new router but do I have to do anything with the computer ( which I still don’t know how to work properly!).

Sorry, * Maybee*, I'm confused now. 😁

If I have a Humax does that mean I don’t have to pay TalkTalk for catchup tv?
But yes, you buy it, a one-off payment, price varies but it's about £200. You can record and watch catch up.

I think 🙂

I get really angry if anything goes wrong with my downstairs computer as I am running a business. Fortunately I have another identical one upstairs which is networked so I have to troll upstairs. My nephew built my two desktops so he is usually able to sort them out unless one "needs a part".

I have a problem with the TV box and the moment (although there are ways to work around it) so Im waiting for him to come and have a look at it.

Riverwalk

Maw you need to ditch the car, sell up, and get yerself back to London!

Great public transport and everything on your doorstep, including lots of green space for the hound

Having seen what the daughters got for their respective houses (2 up, 2 down Victorian terraces) - and then spent on their moves to doer-uppers, I couldn’t buy a rabbit hutch and Rosie would not fit into one!
You’ve got a point though, I do know people who managed to achieve enough selling up in the Home Counties to buy eg a flat somewhere like the Barbican. Public transport, lots to do in the way of exhibitions, museums etc but I fear that ship has sailed!

I sometimes think I’m a bit OCD or ADHD because if something in my life isn’t working ( eg my catchup tv not working at the moment) I seem to focus on that one thing to the exclusion of everything else. It just takes over my whole mind even though there’s nothing I can do about it. It’s usually technical stuff that’s a problem as I get so frustrated that I don’t know how to fix it.

I am a coper and go to person for everyone elses problems,form filling,ringing people,sorting budgets etc,but I get tired.

I had to give my car up last,it was old and failing,and not able to get another as couldnt afford it.

Awaiting a hip replacement I am virually housebound as pain is increasing.

Taxis are almost non existant in our rural town,or doing school contracts.

I hobbled into town,it took me 40minutes to do a 10 minute walk,I then had to get back,and found I coudnt,I just stood there in tears overwhelmed and in pain,it took even longer to drag my self home.

I have just turned 70 and sometimes just dont have the energy to sort my problems out,other peoples are easier

Maw…cyberhug. Much more comfortable than a real one from a stranger.
You know you are a strong woman, so you know that this is one of life’s troughs. Ups and downs all the way. It’s miserable but you can do it. Perhaps instead of get over it, reward yourself for managing alone….

Sometimes it's just the stress of one more thing going wrong that unnerves.

I sympathise. Things do loom larger, make one feel more helpless, etc etc. All I will say is that life HAS got more complicated and things ARE harder to sort with long awaits on phone lines and much more done digitally and less contact with real people to sort: backlogs on a lot of official things, often having to join the dots on medical matters when before one didnt, etc.

But it is easier living at the edge of a big city with resources easily to hand.

My car dilemmas are easily sorted as the garage I use now comes and collect the car and drops it off afterwards and will lend cars.

WhiteWave
What make tv do you have? If it’s an LG their support line is brilliant. It’s not done by messaging online like some but a human speaking you through the problem.

Serendipity22

I live in Yorkshire !

Us tykes have grit 🤣. Though sometimes these days I can forget that for a moment.

Maw you need to ditch the car, sell up, and get yerself back to London!

Great public transport and everything on your doorstep, including lots of green space for the hound

So pleased to hear it is being sorted out Maw.

Callistemon21

Whitewavemark2

My Virgin box isn’t working, but I’m being told by Virgin that it is the tv, I’m 90% certain that it is the box and not tv - need our son to have a look as we simply don’t have enough technical knowledge - grrr!

Have you gone into settings on both TV and the box (ours is Humax) and reconnected to the Wifi by putting in the pin number?

It didn't work when I just did it on the TV, I had to re-set both, although I've no idea why it had disconnected itself.

The tv guy told me that if TalkTalk can’t provide a wi fi tv box I need to get a Humax. But I need to change my email log in number. It’s so long since I joined Talk Talk I’ve no idea what the old number is. They say that everything should work with the router they’re sending. If I have a Humax does that mean I don’t have to pay TalkTalk for catchup tv? It all seemed quite straight forward when he was telling me what to do but now I’m confused again. I know that I can change my iPad to the new router but do I have to do anything with the computer ( which I still don’t know how to work properly!).

Callistemon21

Whitewavemark2

My Virgin box isn’t working, but I’m being told by Virgin that it is the tv, I’m 90% certain that it is the box and not tv - need our son to have a look as we simply don’t have enough technical knowledge - grrr!

Have you gone into settings on both TV and the box (ours is Humax) and reconnected to the Wifi by putting in the pin number?

It didn't work when I just did it on the TV, I had to re-set both, although I've no idea why it had disconnected itself.

Thank you for - what appears to be advice - but I’m sorry I don’t speak that language😄😄😄

I will show it to my son when he eventually turns up

Thanks MawtheMerrier for your thread.
Recently, I too have noticed the same lack of confidence and dread when something goes wrong! I'm not long retired and my car recently carked it due to heavy rain. Luckily my son came over and got it started for me.

I was reflecting on the emotions I go through, the stress and anxiety over what is seemingly something straightforward and how now it causes all sorts of angst. I think part of the problem is because I've been on my own for so long I'm actually tired of having to step up and get whatever sorted.

Anyway I'm so glad I'm not alone, perhaps it is an age related thing?

Hang in there, in a few weeks what you're feeling now will be over. I guess its a matter of trying to learn that these stressors will pass. If we learn that, we will come out the other side and perhaps not find things so discombobulating next time. Fingers crossed.

Most people do t like night driving. I actually hate driving on a very bright sunny day. On one such day, the sun blinded me as I was turning round a roundabout and drove into the centre of it causing £1500 worth of damage and a £150 pound increase in my insurance. It has made me a nervous driver. But I have to get on with it. No other choice

When it comes to the car I am lucky and have a brilliant man who I can trust to only do the work that is necessary and charges very reasonable rates. The only worry is what happens when he retires. I'm actually finding things like repairs easier with out DH. He would always insist on doing things himself and "saving money" Of course that often meant waiting weeks until he felt like doing it! Now I just replace things or get someone to fix them. So much quicker and less stressful.

I know how you feel. Not necessarily the car though that's a pest but just that feeling that you wish you weren't having to face these things on your own.
Ofcourse you can cope but why do you need to. I'm sure you'd rather do something nice.

It's sometimes just small things that send me into a tearful state.
A woman I know was rather abrupt to me in a shop today. It made me feel sorry for myself.

Annsixty what a time you are having. Sending hugs.

Try to remember the saying 'This too will pass' .
You will cope and it will get sorted. I do understand though and hope you get things fixed soon. It does feel hard being an 'Adult' sometimes and having to deal with all the various problems big and small that come our way and even harder when dealing with them on your own.