When things break down...

We alllll have blips in life.... hold your head high, tell yourself I can do this, I CAN AND I WILL

Like I say there are times in our lives when we feel absolutely overwhelmed with the simplest of things, but you are STRONGER THAN YOU THINK .... YOU CAN DO THIS......

IF I lived near you I would take you where you needed to go.... NOTHING IS UNACHIEVABLE... ( unless you want to fly !!!! 😕)

Head up, sleeves rolled up x

Does the car have to go to the dealership? Perhaps a trusted local garage would have space earlier, if the AA can’t fix it.

I completely understand. I’m very lucky to still have Mr GSM but I can now feel (even be) quite tearful now about things I used to take in my stride. When we rely on something its potential removal, even when not actually needed, makes us feel vulnerable and I’m sure it worsens with age. It will be fixed Maw, and you’ll cope just fine. In the meantime, have a 🍷

For myself maw greater maturity has bright all sorts of anxieties that were never part of my makeup. I used to drive anywhere without a concern. I’m currently trying not to look as if I’m worried about driving on Saturday very early to a city I hate to take Mr C to a hospital on a steep hill with no car park. If I have to park at the top of the hill I know at the least I’ll struggle to retrieve the car. Inside I’m already in a flap. I’m cross with myself for being a wimp, but that’s my reality.

Car brakes are not something you or I have the expertise to fix or perhaps to properly understand. We usually have an idea why a washing machine has stopped or is kindly washing the kitchen floor for us. Dishwashers too. Even a roof is understandable. Car brakes? I’m certainly less familiar with the way they work than I am with the basics of my washing machine. I do know they are essential for my safety and the safety of others. They have to be right.

There’s also an issue I think about not feeling trapped, being without a car certainly gives me that feeling and I hate it. I also hate being the helpless woman who ‘can’t’. I’ve no idea if any of this resonates with you, just an attempt to say you aren’t alone. Tomorrow it will all seem better, or maybe it is by now if the AA man has sorted it and explained the problem.

When I feel the way you do I have to think of a friend who has my back.. because for me, just talking about the problem is usually enough to get me back to the reality that I can cope and that I am resilient and resourceful...

as I'm sure you are Maw.. it's in the mind that we make problems (until and if they actually happen)

One of the most stressful things that ever happened to me was when my car broke down in the nearby town a few years ago. There was something about it not starting and then having to get towed home that made me feel very vulnerable. I think that, not having a car that works makes you feel that you couldn’t flee if you needed to? Or ( this is the important bit) get the dog to the vets in an emergency! Our cars are like an extension of ourselves.

I can’t comfort you but can say I know exactly what you mean.
I go into total stress mode at the slightest thing.
My G D is recovering from surgery , she had it last Wednesday.
She is quite incapacitated and at 85 I feel run ragged and tired out.
I should say I am the only one to do it, she doesn’t have a relationship with her parents.
Long story almost unbelievable.
Then on Sunday she went into the bathroom to a flood,water everywhere.
She couldn’t help and I just panicked.
Her friend was here and she helped me, we turned the water off and long story short she has arranged for a plumber to come first thing tomorrow.
It could only be the weekend of course.
I feel so alone without my H’s guidance or just his physical and calming presence.
Good luck with the car .
Another thing I’ve just remembered I am so scared of being ripped off, very elderly lady all alone.

Sometimes things going wrong can seem overwhelming at any stage in life especially when we have to deal with things alone but we can,and do,get through the bad times.
Cry,scream if you want to and you find it helps let the tension out.
Good luck with getting your car fixed.x

When I am at my last nerve, feel wobbly - I walk. And then I walk some more. Come inside, have a wine, sit snuggling dogs.

I remember I'm God's child, He loves me just as I am, putting trials in my path to grow me. Remember, always, you're perfect, just as you are!

I have no words of wisdom. All I can say, is, if you lived closer Mr Streep would fix your brakes.
That doesn’t help though, does it. Sorry 😟

If you've got no car for a couple of weeks - is it really a big deal? Get cabs instead, I do (never did drive). You could delegate. My single friend gets her brother to arrange all repairs etc. - as she's convinced that garages and tradespeople will overcharge a woman. I suspect that she's right in a lot of cases.