I've lost my cleaning mojo

Life has been a lot lately, there is just a lot happened or happening. Bereavements and struggling friends and family members and some times things are taken on me because I'm just stoic.

I am always the strong one, I'm always the one who never cries, always good in a crisis, always the one who just gets whatever it is done. I'm always the one who forgives until I get pushed too far, always the one who bounces back.

I think maybe I just need to fall apart a bit sometimes and I dont know how to do that and maybe my body is trying to tell me so

But I can't just exist, I'm always doing something with my brain or my body

I don't know, I don't talk to people close to me because there alway seems to be something others are already dealing with

Yes, your body and mind is saying you can't take on the weight that you were carrying.

And maybe that if you are not "useful" or "helping" then you have less worth or won't be liked.

It can be scary to let go and if you have spent a lifetime being the strong one then its hard to talk to people who know you in that persona.

But there are people out there with whom its OK to be vulnerable with, but it doesn't come quickly or easily. Nothing wrong with a period of withdrawal and getting help instead of being the giver.

could you concentrate entirely on yourself and give yourself lots of healing treats.. massage, yoga, country walks, manicure, facial, meditation, painting, drawing etc anything that you enjoy and just ignore the house for as long as it takes for you to start feeling some joy in life again... housework really isn't important in the scheme of things but you are...

My mother used to say that the dust would be there long after she had gone. Housework is a boring task and after a lot of effort can need redoing the next day... and on and on!

Maybe your 'inner housewife' has finally gone on strike! Don't be tyrannised by needing things to be a specific way. Why not find things that you really enjoy doing and bring you satisfaction, to use your time. Join Spotify and explore music, look at art galleries online, get an Audible sub etc.
Guilt is such a waste of time. It only makes one feel bad and nothing changes.
Did you consider getting a cleaner occasionally. I have one who comes for a few hours in a month. Money very well spent.

Thinking about this again- if I have to lose the Mojo for anything- cleaning would be the best one to let go

Comments are definitely making me smile lol

I set myself the target of the downstairs hallway today and now have a sparkling entrance, it did feel good...

I was thinking 1 room deep clean every 2 weeks but after the comments, flexible lol

If I get it done straight away, I'll have 2 weeks to relax and enjoy

People who are constantly cleaning and tidying because of an excess of restless energy do not create a relaxed environment.

I also , used to be a domestic goddess !

The house would be immaculate - cleaned from top bottom everyday with flower arrangements too .

Now at 70 , I struggle with every day chores

This decline really started about four years ago with a knee injury .
It stopped me walking at pace and getting up the stairs easily .
My asthma worsened .
This year , I've had a kidney infection followed by a nasty fall now I have a virus which might be the new Covid variant .

My New Year resolution was to blitz the house .
I'm trying hard .

Yesterday was an example of how I'm slowly achieving it .
I promised myself a nice programme if I did a couple of hours of tidying .
Admittedly , after an hour I was struggling but I did it !
And it will be the sane today .
Promise yourself little treats .
Baby steps ... little by little .

VioletSky are you running a hotel? I "Deep clean" very rarely, usually it's enough to vacuum and dust the rooms we are using on a weekly basis and I have a dog. Windows get cleaned every couple of months or less and paintwork gets cleaned when I notice the fly sh!t. I have removeable covers on the sofas in the "dog" room, covered by matching throws. Throws get washed quite regularly as they get covered in dog hair and the covers get washed once a year. Give yourself a break and just do some things you enjoy and make you smile!

VioletSky

Doodledog

Have you had your B12 levels tested? I also had Graves, and one autoimmune condition makes having others more likely-I also have Pernicious Anaemia. When my jabs are due for that it feels like someone has taken my batteries out. It’s way beyond tired. Maybe ask for yours to be checked (it’s just a blood test) as the injections make a huge difference.

My iron is always low no matter what I do

I'll ask about both, thank you

PA is not about iron levels though. It is an inability to absorb B12 because your body doesn't produce something called Intrinsic Factor. If you have it, the symptoms are many and varied, and people get different combinations of them. The most common are fatigue and insomnia although there are all sorts of other ones. It is quite common, and more likely in those with pre-existing auto-immune conditions.

Callistemon
It was a while before realised not everyone did and I didn't have to do the same.

One of the things I like about GN, discovering it's OK not to do things.

nadateturbe

Callistemon
It was a while before realised not everyone did and I didn't have to do the same.

One of the things I like about GN, discovering it's OK not to do things.

I think I realised about 50 years ago nadateturbe 😂
My nephew's joke was "Here comes Nana with her magnifying glass and her duster!"

doodledog I read anaemia and though iron, I will ask for an appointment and have it all checked

I have just rang for my latest bloods

She said iron 26 and low calcium

My thyroid levels are good 🙂

There's an advert on tv for a vacuum which even finds the invisible dust. That's the kind of dust I have.

Mine is very visible, unfortunately.

The best way of not seeing dust is to have dirty glasses, the only problem with that though is the world becomes rather foggy. It's always a complete shock to clean my glasses and arrive in a brighter but dirtier world!

Not wearing your glasses until you know visitors are due is highly recommended!

Violetsky
Your iron levels are what my Dr would call outside the safe levels
I’m just inside the safe high level at 45.

I've been trying for years, they just don't behave.

Maybe there is a better solution, I'll ask, I'm tired of thin hair and brittle nails

I try and do an hour or half hour cleaning upstairs ie bedrooms and bathroom then next day the same downstairs
Often skip days and the hour doesn't include washing ironing cooking or loading the dishwasher.
Not doing anything atm as we have had DD DS and 3 DGC here for the week. Just did most of their washing while OH did cooking. Hectic week lol

VioletSky

I've been trying for years, they just don't behave.

Maybe there is a better solution, I'll ask, I'm tired of thin hair and brittle nails

Violetsky have you tried taking high dose good quality fish oils for your hair and nails?

I can try

I have some Centrum Silver so I'm going to give that a solid try

If I get it done straight away, I'll have 2 weeks to relax and enjoy

That's the spirit VioletSky - I find that if I can just get started on a job, the doing of it is not the problem. I spend some time thinking exactly how I'm going to approach it; I find this makes it easier once you summon up the energy to actually start, too.