Fake profiles and accounts

I think this woman has real mental health issues, which is sad. . It’s not rational, I couldn’t bring myself to go to a solicitor about my own mother. I would not respond, however many times she tries. She sounds very lonely and desperate but if you have tried everything to help in the past and nothing changes what else can you do?

GrammyGrammy I can think of not one good reason why grandparents should have any right to see grandchildren.

Being a grandparent does not automarically make you a kind and loving person who is safe around young children and by limiting your definition of abuse to physical and sexual at a time like now when coercive control of another person is recognise as a crime is bizarre in the extreme.

It also shows little understanding of the complications of what happens in toxic relationships. The one thing the coercer in a coercive or toxic relationship will always say is how much they love the person who they are trying to destroy.

It's a bit sinister as well when they want the person they are stalking to know, its not even quietly looking and hoping for a glimpse into someone life...

Very controlling and aggressive

they set them up faceless/anonymous and tell lies about where they live and its usually about something they don;t even live near to anymore

I know of people who set up groups on facebook in order to attack people because they are 'passionate' about something and I don;t understand why this is tolerated in law

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That's an interesting perspective Grammy, thanks for sharing

Morally? I think it worse than physical murder to deprive a loving grandmother of her grandchildren. Unless there is sexual or physical abuse then to absolutely deprive the children of having a grandma is evil beyond belief. I sympathise with any grandparent desperate to have a peek of their family to know they are safe and doing ok.

Wow. I am really sorry you had to experience that, VioletSky. I’m glad you’ve at least managed to gain physical distance. Few things feel worse than being made to feel uncomfortable or unsafe in your own personal space. The internet is an entirely different ball game, unfortunately. As much as it can bring you happily closer to others, the anonymity can make it easier for those with ill intent to get within some reach of us. I wish there were more lasting resolutions to the issue of cyber-bullying. It’s definitely a complex issue.

The devil makes work for idle hands. These folk need to find something more useful to do.

i use facebook to keep in touch with family and a couple of friends, i am always asked if i want to accept a friend before they can post anything and unless it is someone i know then the answer is always no thanks. if i see adverts i just block them, i don't know what it is like on other sites,

Thankfully we live far apart now

At the beginning we actually had to leave my husbands old car on the drive way so she wouldn't think I was alone at home

I think that when this happens with someone you know, all legal options should be explored as it can turn into a dangerous situation.

It happens with strangers as well, but this is why it is important to keep your personally identifying information off of sites like gransnet. If you use more traditional social media (FB, IG etc), educate yourself on the app’s privacy settings and adjust your profile accordingly. You can always report suspicious behavior to the app/site’s administrators, but results will be hit or miss. Unfortunately you’ll likely end up having to block the person each time. I’d still report each time.

When a person feels the need to create multiple accounts in order to harass a someone online, that individual has serious mental health issues. There is no telling what else they are capable of.

I have both personal and business accounts on Facebook and there is no connection between them. I am also very careful on discussion forums not to give out information which would enable anyone to identify my business name or shops. I have very strong views on some subjects and prefer to keep business and personal life separate. People can be very vindictive.

Many years ago I was on an eBay discussion forum with a member who was posting with his selling ID. He did not say anthing contentious but was unwise enough to admit that he ran a debt collection agency. His auctions were bombed by others and it caused him no end of hassle. and money If you have an unpopular occupation or views its not wise to reveal your ID on a public forum.

My personal profile is very private and I don't accept random friendship requests from people I don't know. I don't do FB but that's what Mr. S. does Blossoming.

Cyber stalking is illegal and people have been prosecuted.

Google says

'Online harassment and stalking is illegal in England and Wales. Stalking is different from harassment as it involves fixation and includes repeated attempts to contact a person without permission in a way that could be expected to cause distress or fear.'

Only close friends and family have access to my FB. Even if I fell out with one of them I don't think any of them would allow someone to use their account to harass me. Most social media sites have tightened up on privacy these days - if settings are correct it doesn't matter how many accounts someone sets up they won't have access.

The situation you describe sounds like stalking or bullying to me. I think it’s morally wrong but I don’t know if you’d get the SM companies to do anything about it. I have multiple accounts on Facebook as I run a page and a group for a charity. My personal profile is very private and I don’t accept random friend requests from people I don’t know.