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LizIlkeston Tue 21-Feb-23 11:43:24

Hi Beckett
www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/feelings-and-symptoms/feeling-lonely/

Some good suggestions here. Many people are feeling the same and I've certainly struggled to manage my loneliness. I joined Meetup to make friends locally, and a choir which is great fun but I call my friend when I'm down as she's a good listener( very few are!). Talking is the key.
Best wishes

nanna8 Tue 21-Feb-23 11:15:57

Beckett here is a big hug for you ( ๐Ÿ˜€ ). Can you ring someone you know who is likely to be a good listener? Anyone in your family perhaps ?

Angeluser Tue 21-Feb-23 11:07:32

Hope you are feeling better soon. Is there a university of the third age or something in your area

Palmtree Mon 20-Feb-23 19:32:15

I am so sorry you are going through this sad time. I often wonder how I would get on in the same situation as you as I am not really even self sufficient. I do know that there are some good people out there though and the only way to find them is to get out, even for a walk initially, and be open to smiling and chatting to neighbours etc. It is often the least expected person that helps in times of trouble. Maybe also have a think about your particular bad news, is there any organisation that might be able to help, perhaps you could Google the problem to see if there is a charity etc. I hope talking on here too helps you at least feel less alone and don't forget there is always someone available at Samaritans to listen if you call them. Wishing you all the best for the future.

LRavenscroft Mon 20-Feb-23 18:41:01

I am so sorry to hear you are feeling like this. It is a very difficult situation to find yourself in. I felt really down today and went for a walk in the grey, dull afternoon and thought of all the people who were dear to me who had passed away in the last ten years and I felt terribly alone. I went last year for counselling and they told me to do lots of activities and get out and meet people. I did for a year but with little improvement. Now I feel I want to seek more solace in knitting, crochet and my garden. I look forward to the spring because of the new flowers and the sunshine and what did occur to me was how the sun lifts ones spirits. Are there walks, places, creative hobbies that may help you and at the same time you could meet like minded people? Not sure if you are a churchy lady but I went to a craft group at my parish church and met the most delightful ladies and, over tea, cake and crochet we share our lives. I hope you find solace and meet some like minded people this coming spring.

Redhead56 Mon 20-Feb-23 15:07:58

Sorry you are sad and alone and needing comfort from someone. Seek the company of friends or a neighbour who you trust. Don't be on your own in tears please share your worries ๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒท

AGAA4 Mon 20-Feb-23 14:49:14

I have been widowed for 24 years and I do understand that when bad news comes along it is worse without the person who would have comforted you.
When I was diagnosed with cancer I felt my aloneness keenly even though I am a very independent person.
I found it did help to talk to someone about it. In my case it was a lovely nurse. I don't know what your bad news is but try to find someone who you can give you some comfort.
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Dempie55 Mon 20-Feb-23 12:57:43

Hello, Beckett. I am widowed too, and have got used to being alone, though sometimes I do feel very lonely and vulnerable. I'm not sure what your bad news is, but if it's something medical, I suggest you join an online forum for those with a similar condition. I think sharing problems online (like here!) is great for people who live on their own. Also, if you have any family or close friends, maybe just send them a text saying something like "feeling a bit low right now, fancy a chat?"

pascal30 Mon 20-Feb-23 12:51:55

I'm so sorry to hear this is such a lonely time for you Beckett. If you don't have any friends you can call have you considered googling to see if there are any helplines that you can call just to talk to someone.. maybe the Samaritans or age UK. Perhaps you could talk to a local vicar or if you can afford it find a counsellor.. Also GP's can prescribe 10 counselling sessions. I know it's very hard to reach out if you are feeling so alone but most people are kind, and you've already taken the first step by asking for help on this site.. I do think that talking will help.. I wish you well

Beckett Mon 20-Feb-23 12:33:55

I have been widowed for around 15 years and am used to being alone and have become very self sufficient.

However, I have recently had some bad news and suddenly find myself feeling very lonely and wishing I had someone special to just give me a hug and tell me everything will be OK. I am spending my time watching TV, comfort eating junk food and bursting into tears.

Anyone else been through this and any advice on how to deal with it?