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Mum's fallen. Just need some words of comfort.

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Jellybaby71011 Sun 26-Feb-23 23:40:27

First time posting. My 95 year old mum lives with us. I am her carer. She fell at 10.30. Hurt her hip and knee and shoulder. Ambulance will be 4 to 8 hours at least. She’s on a hard wooden floor. We can’t move her. She’s in so much pain. And she’s so lovely.
Never complains and I can’t bear to see her laying there. And there’s nothing I can do.
She’s blind. Deaf. Very limited mobility. But so stoical and cheerful. And I’m so sad and frightened.
Thanks for reading.

Georgesgran Wed 03-May-23 08:49:38

Sincere condolences. 💐

spottybook Wed 03-May-23 08:45:59

So sorry to hear about your Mum. A sad time for you and the family.

Primrose53 Wed 03-May-23 08:40:13

So sorry Jellybaby. I know exactly how you feel as my Mum passed away at Christmas 2020 aged 96 and a half. It is a grand age but it’s still your Mum. I am sure, like myself, you did everything for her and my only regret is that due to the pandemic there was a long period when we were not allowed to visit her. Imagine going from seeing me almost every day to not seeing me at all. She was heartbroken and my husband is convinced she gave up due to this.

May your dear Mum rest in peace and I hope you have lovely memories and know you could have done no more. Xxx

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 03-May-23 08:38:16

Condolences to you and you family, no matter how old we are losing our Mum is never easy.
💐

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 03-May-23 08:36:46

I’m so very sorry. You have been a wonderful, loving, caring daughter and could not have done more for your dear Mum. Try to take some comfort from that, and from the knowledge that she is no longer suffering. 💐

Susan56 Wed 03-May-23 08:31:59

So sorry 💐

Aveline Wed 03-May-23 08:28:48

Oh Jellybaby. Such a sad time for you. At least your mother is at peace and you know that you could not have done more for her. thanks

Witzend Wed 03-May-23 08:22:11

💐 jellybaby

AskAlice Wed 03-May-23 08:18:05

My condolences Jellybaby on your sad loss.

Caramme Wed 03-May-23 08:05:08

I have just seen this. My heart goes out to you and your Mum. Much the same happened to my late mum and the whole thing is so very stressful and exhausting. Hopefully your mum is getting good care now and her pain is under control. Hospitals are confusing places at the best of times; for an elderly person who is deaf and blind it must be very frightening experience. I hope you and your DH are now able to get some rest.

harrigran Wed 03-May-23 08:04:23

My sincere condolences Jellybaby flowers

Nanatoone Wed 03-May-23 08:01:11

I didn’t see this thread originally Jellybaby, my sincere condolences especially having read through it. Your poor mum is at peace at last.

BlueBelle Wed 03-May-23 07:59:44

My elderly bestfriend who recently broke her hip has had the most wonderful treatment at our local hospital she gave the Occupational therapist her house key and they went and measured all her furniture and got items ready for her to go home after two weeks in hospital including a commode by her bed
As she lives alone they have arranged 6 weeks of three times a day carers paid for by NHS she has done so well and is now completing her first week back home she can’t praise the treatment enough It is so dependant on individual hospitals
Good luck to you and your mum x

GrannyGravy13 Wed 03-May-23 07:59:21

Sending (((hugs))) and my condolences Jellybaby71011 💐

dogsmother Wed 03-May-23 07:57:04

Sincere condolences to you and may your dear mother now rest easy 💐

ginny Wed 03-May-23 07:56:45

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Sparklefizz Wed 03-May-23 07:54:55

So very sorry for the sad loss of your Mum Jellybaby flowers

Katyj Wed 03-May-23 07:46:29

So sorry Jellybaby flowers

Aldom Wed 03-May-23 07:14:14

Sending you my sincere condolences, and a gentle hug. It's hard to lose a mum, no matter how old they are.
May your dear mum rest in peace. flowers

silverlining48 Wed 03-May-23 06:58:07

Have just read your post and was sorry about your mums fall and touched by how much you obviously loved her.
I am so sorry that she has died, you will be in shock and am sending you a gentle hug.

Cabbie21 Wed 03-May-23 06:46:18

So sorry for your loss, Jellybaby. You must feel so sad, yet relieved that your Mum’s suffering is over.
I did not see your post back in February as I was busy caring for DH, at home in recovery after a heart attack and three weeks in hospital. Sadly he took a turn for the worse and died just a few days ago.
The support on Gransnet is wonderful, especially when it is the middle of the night and your family are asleep.
I hope you will have help to cope with the busy days ahead. I have been held up with official matters because of the long Bank Holiday weekend, and another one to come: the backlog will worsen. Do stay online for more support. It is a wonderful community here.

multicolourswapshop Wed 03-May-23 05:34:16

So very sorry for your loss Jellybaby sending you lots of hugs flowers

FannyCornforth Wed 03-May-23 04:03:03

I’m so very sorry for your sad loss of your mum Jellybaby thanks♥️

Doodle Wed 03-May-23 03:05:24

jellybaby so sorry. Have just seen this thread. Sincere condolences on the loss of your lovely mum.
If it’s any consolation my mum had delirium due to dehydration and she was unaware that I was with her. It was a distressing time as I was so worried she couldn’t understand what was going on. When she recovered she couldn’t remember anything about the whole episode. Please don’t think your mum was feeling like that at the end. I’m sure if anything was in her mind it would have been your loving care for all these years. flowers

Hithere Wed 03-May-23 01:33:19

Very sorry for your loss, JB