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Mum's fallen. Just need some words of comfort.

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Jellybaby71011 Sun 26-Feb-23 23:40:27

First time posting. My 95 year old mum lives with us. I am her carer. She fell at 10.30. Hurt her hip and knee and shoulder. Ambulance will be 4 to 8 hours at least. She’s on a hard wooden floor. We can’t move her. She’s in so much pain. And she’s so lovely.
Never complains and I can’t bear to see her laying there. And there’s nothing I can do.
She’s blind. Deaf. Very limited mobility. But so stoical and cheerful. And I’m so sad and frightened.
Thanks for reading.

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:40:21

Pelvis fracture apparently. My phone is running out of charge now. So I’ll catch up with all your comments later. I’m escaping a bedpan trauma at present!
Shewee didn’t cut the mustard!
My usual thread is the good morning one. Thank you again.

Patsy70 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:22:10

I do hope your Mum is feeling more comfortable now, Jellybaby, and that there are no broken bones. Get some rest soon and do let us know how things are. 💐xx

dragonfly46 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:20:22

I hope your Mum is okay now and they can get her a bed.
I have spent many a night with my parents in the same situation so really feel for you.
Let us know how she is.

Whitewavemark2 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:14:29

Just seen this. I so hope you are now able to catch up on your rest now that mum is being cared for.

Sar53 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:09:42

Dear Jellybaby I hope your mum is more comfortable now and that you have had some rest.
Please let us know how she and you are doing.
Love to you all xx

GrannyGravy13 Mon 27-Feb-23 07:08:58

Just seen this, sending (((hugs))) to you both 🌸

Chocolatelovinggran Mon 27-Feb-23 07:02:03

Sending you and Mum love and best wishes and hope that you will have a good outcome today.

Sparklefizz Mon 27-Feb-23 06:56:43

Just seen your posts jellybaby and so sorry that you and your lovely Mum are going through this. Sending you love and hugs and hope your Mum will soon be comfortable and you can both get some rest.

Palmtree Mon 27-Feb-23 06:54:22

Oh so very sorry to hear you have been going through this all night. I do hope your lovely mum is safe now and getting all the help she deserves to get better and you will be able to get some rest.

cornergran Mon 27-Feb-23 06:52:16

Just seen your posts jellybaby. Our goddaughter has recently been through the same with her mum. It’s a heart wrenching time. I hope you’ve both been well cared for.

CocoPops Mon 27-Feb-23 06:25:39

Hang on in there Jellybaby. Fingers crossed nothing is broken and Mum will be OK.

Mizuna Mon 27-Feb-23 06:18:24

This is Gransnet at its best, isn't it Jellybaby? Hope the day gets better and better for you and mum.

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 05:53:31

I don’t have any brothers or sisters so all her care is down to me and my lovely husband.
We are very tired at present and were looking forward to our weeks respite.
We are in our mid/late sixties.
Fit and healthy. But so tired.
Next to be seen. A nurse has gone to make me a cup of tea.

CocoPops Mon 27-Feb-23 05:30:23

Yes as stated above, do take care of yourself and have some rest when you can. You did very well getting help and looking after your Mum as best you could. Let us know how she progresses and how you are too.

Ginny42 Mon 27-Feb-23 04:58:18

Thinking of you and your poor mother. What a relief that she's being cared for so well. It's a story I've heard a lot recently of a long wait for help to arrive, but when it does the professionals are amazing. Take care of yourself too. flowers

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 04:43:20

We’ve had excellent service so far. She’s had an x ray. Really lovely nurses. But don’t think there’s any beds . Lots of people in chairs in the waiting area looking very poorly.
Came in by a wheelchair friendly taxi contracted to the NHS.
Feeling less stressed now. Thank you all.

FannyCornforth Mon 27-Feb-23 04:32:51

Hello Jellybaby I hope that you and your mum are doing okay.
Thinking of you thanks

Cs783 Mon 27-Feb-23 02:30:09

Pain is awful but as you say the support you have now is reassuring. Hope you all feel more comfortable very soon. Best wishes brew

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 02:17:29

It’s gas and air she’s having while he moved her. He’s getting her on something called a camel now to get her off the floor.
He’ll give her liquid paracetamol when she’s a bit more upright. It’s very reassuring having him here.
She’s groaning so very much. It’s horrible.

CocoPops Mon 27-Feb-23 01:49:22

I am in Canada and wide awake because my Province is 8 hours behind UK time. Has the pain relief for your Mum worked?

welbeck Mon 27-Feb-23 01:22:52

that's good, Jelly.
and there's always someone reading and ready to respond on here, 24/7, as it's read all over the world. as well as us late-nighters.
all the best to you and mother.

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 01:19:17

A St Johns ambulance man has just arrived. And he’s getting her pain relief. All our family and friends are asleep so you wonderful lot are my substitute family tonight. Thank you.
And in future I’ll be much more proactive in responding on here. It’s reassuring isn’t it?

ElaineI Mon 27-Feb-23 01:17:53

So sorry Jellybaby. Just had similar with my Mum (87 - also blind). She was unwell, could hardly walk and confused. Paramedics came quickly though but said she would have to wait in ambulance for 1 ½ hours before getting into AE. They were happy to leave her at home if I stayed and asked GP to come in morning. Upshot was GP came and organised ambulance as oxygen levels were low. She was admitted to AE - was there for several hours - horrendously busy. Took it in turns with DS and his partner to sit with her. Trolleys with patients everywhere! Eventually was admitted to a ward then I got a call to say she had fallen out of bed and fractured her hip! She's had an op and eventually sent for rehab but it's not going well and she just wants to die - had her time etc. Very difficult. I do hope your poor Mum is seen soon. It's awful to see and hear your parent in agony.

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 01:02:31

She was laying on the floor in agony and her first words were
“ oh no I’ve ruined your weeks holiday now haven’t I? I’m so sorry! She’s so lovely.

Jellybaby71011 Mon 27-Feb-23 00:59:39

I’ve phoned 111 in the probably vain hope that just maybe a GP could come out and give her a painkilling injection while we wait for an ambulance.
I’m waiting for a callback.
Thank you for all your replies. I feel less alone.