do you ever get days like these?

Thank you all for your best wishes, and all the best to you *travelsafar and all who are feeling down xx

I have days like this. The cure for me is to play some really upbeat and cheerful music. It always does the trick and makes me feel happier and more energetic.

I didn’t feel that I’d had enough sleep last night but had to get up because we had an early Tescos delivery. So then decided to give the dog a quick walk and, realising our deliver didn’t include eggs went to the next village to buy some. I felt that I needed to have a bit more sleep before we went but then thought I’d get it out the way. Ended up buying some bread rolls from the bakers, got home and realised I’d walked out of the shop without them. DH has got to go back and pick them up ( I don’t like driving his car) so I’m in the dog house. This is what happens when I’m tired. I’ve also realised that, because we’ve isolated ourselves so much over the past three years I get really flustered when I do actually go anywhere. I feel really stupid now . Having said that I don’t understand why the shop assistant didn’t notice that I hadn’t picked them up.
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I have PVF so have to pace myself and if I have a busy day I invariably need to stay in bed the next day, but I just try to enjoy it reading or watching iplayer.. til the energy rises again..
I only make plans for social contacts every other day if I can

I think our bodies are simply resisting too speedy a change from Winter to Spring. Strange for me as I would normally be running as fast as I could from the miserable season. Anyway.....that's my reason for lie ins.

I have a form of long term fatigue, because I do not respond like most people who take thyroxine for an underactive thyroid. I’m seeing a consultant, but to be honest I think he has run out of ideas to help.

As well as sleeping in the early afternoon for half an hour (don’t let yourself sleep longer as you go into a really deep sleep and feel groggy for the rest of the day).

If I had felt like you this morning I would switch on my Smart phone app of CALM where I would select a 10 min meditation and just let myself drift away then get up. It then seems to make me feel somewhat better. I let myself have 10 minute boosters whenever I want. Try it. Best of luck.

PS if you don’t have a smartphone just go onto YouTube using earphones and select a free 10 minute meditation from there.

I usually go back to bed and do a couple of hours of sleep meditation (Jason Stephenson….I switched to him from Paul McKenna when one of his videos popped up on my iPad…it sends me to sleep straight away). I know as soon as I wake up if I’ve had enough sleep. A cup of strong coffee would help but if there’s any chance of getting that extra couple of hours I daren’t drink any! I know throughout my life I’ve suffered from motivational tiredness because quite often something stimulating happens ( eg DH goes out and I put some of my favourite music on full blast) and my brain fog clears straight away. And sometimes, if I feel overwhelmed by what I have to do I feel as if I want to just curl up in a ball and go to sleep. I’ve always said I could sleep for England. Before I retired I worked mornings only and always had a nap in the afternoon and my body clock never readjusted. As my kids taxi service I could get very little sleep at night because of pick ups and go into work as long as I knew I could get that afternoon nap. And then, when I had grandchildren I’d sometimes have to go and babysit late at night ( one of my grandchildren used to get croup very badly and they’d have to take him to A&E….I didn’t touch alcohol for years because I never knew when the phone was going to ring!). I’d love to have 8 hours straight sleep one night to see how I feel afterwards but the bladder ( or sometimes the dogs bladder! )won’t let me do that these days.

I woke up with a migraine and have done very little all day. It's poured down for hours so haven't had my usual walk.
I feel bad when I've wasted a day but I really can't be bothered doing anything today. Motivation is in very short supply.

Having M.E./CFS I regularly feel like that. Low blood pressure makes me feel like that too. Sometimes a shower "kick starts" my body.
I keep jigsaws handy to fill the no energy/motivation times.
MadeinYorkshire and Ann 💐 💐

I am so relieved to find this thread.
I struggle with tiredness and low motivation. I am trying hard to lose weight and do strength workouts a few times a week but often that's all I feel like doing. The weather depressed me but so does knowing others have active friendship circles ( I'm better one on one as an introvert). I am grateful for what I have, for my OH and DDs, who have their own child each now. I have much to be thankful for but I still often feel tearful and lost. I used to enjoy textile art and have hoarded so much from.my past life, but lost the desire to create when a toxic friendship finally ended years ago, devastating my life. I've really tried to be positive; I garden when I'm energetic enough, I enjoy outings with DH and love learning, but there are far too many days frittered away feeling low, tired and demotivated. I lost my beloved father last summer, a friend has been diagnosed with dementia and another has died suddenly...all part of the cycle ofife and death,but it makes me feel how fragile life is. I completely understand the posts here and can relate to so many of them. I think we all need some warm spring sun to lift the spirits. It's not the whole story but it would certainly help a little!

Same here. Know there are things in the house to do but only do the essentials. I get up late and wish I hadn’t missed so much of the morning. My feeling is it is something to do with the time of the year and hope my energy will return with the warmer weather.

nadateturbe

Having M.E./CFS I regularly feel like that. Low blood pressure makes me feel like that too. Sometimes a shower "kick starts" my body.
I keep jigsaws handy to fill the no energy/motivation times.
MadeinYorkshire and Ann 💐 💐

*nadateturbe (please explain your name?)

Thank you ... I will send you a message.

MadeinYorkshire
Nada te turbe Let nothing disturb you.
The music used for my favourite circle dance.
I have it in a lovely album..Laudate Omnes Gentes.

Rowantree like you I hope some sunny warmer weather helps. I know exactly how you feel. Getting older is not fun.
I too envy those with circles of friends although I have neither the desire or energy to develop them..

I am ready for bed about 6pm and have been for ages. But I force myself to stay up till 8-ish to not be too much of a fogey! I haven't had a decent night's sleep for years. It wears you out really. But we plough on, don't we?

In some ways I feel like we're still in lockdown. We have enough money to live OK if we don't have holidays or posh meals out. Hardly ever see anyone but that's up to us I suppose!

nadateturbe

MadeinYorkshire
Nada te turbe Let nothing disturb you.
The music used for my favourite circle dance.
I have it in a lovely album..Laudate Omnes Gentes.

Rowantree like you I hope some sunny warmer weather helps. I know exactly how you feel. Getting older is not fun.
I too envy those with circles of friends although I have neither the desire or energy to develop them..

*nadateturbe

How lovely! Thanks for explaining ...

I’m another one who gets days like this and have learnt that I really need to rest when it hits. However I try to do as I did during chemo and rest for 50 mins and potter for 10 throughout the day. It’s surprising how much gets done and stops me feeling guilty about a day entirely wasted.

MayBee70

I didn’t feel that I’d had enough sleep last night but had to get up because we had an early Tescos delivery. So then decided to give the dog a quick walk and, realising our deliver didn’t include eggs went to the next village to buy some. I felt that I needed to have a bit more sleep before we went but then thought I’d get it out the way. Ended up buying some bread rolls from the bakers, got home and realised I’d walked out of the shop without them. DH has got to go back and pick them up ( I don’t like driving his car) so I’m in the dog house. This is what happens when I’m tired. I’ve also realised that, because we’ve isolated ourselves so much over the past three years I get really flustered when I do actually go anywhere. I feel really stupid now . Having said that I don’t understand why the shop assistant didn’t notice that I hadn’t picked them up.
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Just how I feel! Going almost anywhere seems a big deal.

Yes I'm like that from Christmas through to April. I feel I'm making the LEAST not the most of my life. I think with me it's poor sleep so I'm still tired, short daylight hours and little sunshine and, I'm afraid, a certain amount of "tired of life" which means nothing really excites me any more - done it all before or it's too much effort. I berate myself every day for this attitude. Life is precious, use it, celebrate it etc. I think it's a low grade winter depression for me.

The strange thing is even though I didn’t have a nap later on by early evening I was feeling more awake. When the children were young I often found myself doing housework @ 9pm because I’d have more energy. I’ve never been a morning person though. Mind you, I now fall asleep on the sofa most evenings if I watch tv. When I read about the retirement age going up and up I know that, if I was working in my mid to late sixties I would literally be working and sleeping: I would have no energy for anything else. I’m fine chatting to fellow dog walkers etc it’s just in situations where I go into a shop etc where I feel all flustered and disorientated. My son is staying with us for the week with his two young children and I don’t know how I’m going to get enough sleep in as they’re very early risers.

11.45 am and I am still in pjs desperately wanting to go back to bed. Happens usually at weekends for some reason. You are not alone it seems.

Planned to do very little this morning to save my energy for rehearsal this afternoon and concert tonight, but DH is not too good. In all truth, he is probably anxious that I am going to be out all day, so I have decided to skip the rehearsal( not ideal) and just do the concert. Now I have an afternoon to fill, doing not a lot. Jigsaw occupies me for a while, but it makes my neck ache.

Cabbie I have my jigsaw on a cork board and have it tilted up at an angle which helps my neck.

Maybe for some grans who feel like this it would be good to get a dog? Then you have to get up to take it out for a walk andit provides company and love.

I’m semi retired - work two full days - and care for an elderly parent and find that I generally have one “down” day every week. Little or no energy or enthusiasm for anything. But I think that’s ok. I’m allowed to have down time (recovery time?) and I just take it easy… read, crochet and nap. Invariably the next day my energy levels are replenished.

I'm perpetually exhausted, working ft looking after 87 year old dad and supporting 2 adult children with ASD. I set my alarm for 10:30 this morning after a very late night shopping for dad on my way home from work at 6:30, food then taking shopping down to dad and putting it all away and getting rid of our of date food, because he won't throw it away himself, I didn't get even get home until after 9:30pm I think I ate about 10pm so was then late to bed. Anyway the next thing I knew it was noon. So I am really behind now, I really would like to work out at over 60 but simply can't afford it, as a single parent and breadwinner. But I could get into bed on Friday night and happily sleep until Monday morning given the opportunity.