Typical Gransnetter

Caleo this a joke right? I hope so because you have just got as as far wrong as its possible to be.

Maggiemaybe

It’s depressing to see posts on here criticising members who we know have died. Whatever their perceived faults, they’re not here to defend themselves, are they?

I do hope you didn’t read my post as a criticism of Jings. I should have explained the one time she tried to put me in my place concluded in good humour. We enjoyed the banter.

I joined when Greatnan was active, I remember the period when she was missing and found to have died with great sadness. I feel she contributed so much to gransnet. She was a people person.

Maggiemaybe

It’s depressing to see posts on here criticising members who we know have died. Whatever their perceived faults, they’re not here to defend themselves, are they?

Quite, well said Maggiemaybe

Typical Gransnetter? Think 1960s. Tea cosy, perm, Daily Express, knitting, net curtains, a good neighbour, a loving Nana.

Well said Maggiemaybe.
I liked Jings, she had a quirky sense of humour as did Phoenix , I loved her poems and anecdotes.

My impression is that a typical Gransnetter is European, fluent English speaker, literate to at least O level but not higher than A level or equivalents, has a roof over her head and enough to eat, and is affluent enough to run a computer or phone, and even to go away on holidays.

The median Gransnetter (impressionistically) has much practical life experience and well- developed talents and is generous at sharing it all when asked to do so.

Also impressionistically, the median Gransnetter is politically right wing . She disdains objective discussion preferring subjective anecdotes.

There will always be people who are more informed and intelligent than one's self - doesn't make your contribution any the less valid though.
Such a good point, and anyway intelligence shouldn't always be measured by academic achievement. I dislike seeing posters got at when chatting typically as in a café without the faff of looking up facts and figures. Some of the more spontaneous, unrehearsed comments are the most interesting and meaningful.

It’s depressing to see posts on here criticising members who we know have died. Whatever their perceived faults, they’re not here to defend themselves, are they?

I never understand why anyone feels the need to tear another poster to shreds - though one exception might be if that poster has already been nasty or offensive to someone else.

TBH they put me in mind of the particularly nasty little bullies at my senior school.

Sara1954

Bluebelle
I also left completely, never intending to return.
But I missed chatting to people on the book threads, so I gave it another go. I’m fully aware that some of you are much better informed and far more intelligent than me, so I tend to avoid threads where I might get torn to bits.
I just dip in and out, I find it interesting and informative, but sometimes, still unnecessarily unkind.

When a poster is being unnecessarily unkind, just ponder why they seem to feel the need - it will say more about them than it does about you.

There will always be people who are more informed and intelligent than one's self - doesn't make your contribution any the less valid though.

kittylester

I like Jings a lot. I also grew to like Greatnan but she was one of the people who lambasted me about the tablecloth.

And, who could forget our Phoenix.

None of them typical gransnetters but noteworthy all the same.

I too liked Jings although she once tried to put me in my place, I think her bark was worse than her bite.
The sadness of losing Greatnan and our dear Phoenix, two posters I admired stays with me.

Bluebelle
I also left completely, never intending to return.
But I missed chatting to people on the book threads, so I gave it another go. I’m fully aware that some of you are much better informed and far more intelligent than me, so I tend to avoid threads where I might get torn to bits.
I just dip in and out, I find it interesting and informative, but sometimes, still unnecessarily unkind.

Doodledog - are you able to say why a group of "same sort" of people were brought together?
This sounds both quite weird and intriguing!

I suspect those of us, who are sensitive, are unable to shrug off pounces, where others are thicker skinned and more robust.
My childhood, never being good enough-, plays a part in my pschye.

No matter how hard we try, there will always be posters, who take a dislike to us. I have to admit, that after getting my fingers burned and my self confidence knocked, I am no longer a prolific poster. No forum is worth all that angst.

Thank you NotSpaggetti I appreciate your answer.
I guess I m tough but not very confident and always put myself on the back foot, always thinking I was the wrong one never the other person, so I should have shrugged it all off and carried on posting whatever I wanted to, however I came back much more of a dipper for a good while then started growing a bit more of a protective shell I suppose.
I guess we are all products of childhood not necessarily our parents or home upbringing but all that happens in the formative years around us and a bit of DNA too my dad was a gentle man who never believed in himself however he was an intelligent chap although had no schooling after 14 so not ‘university type clever’ Mum much more confident or seemed outwardly to be I ve often thought maybe it was all a bit of a bluff with her
Interesting to study …folks and all the many guises they come in

BlueBelle (and others)
So glad you came back. It's horrible to think people are having to leave in order to protect themselves.
💐

Sad to see reference to some of you who have been pounced on, simply for expressing your opinion. I guess most of us have experienced that from time to time, as there are a very few out there who seem incapable of mature debate without resorting to condescension, sarcasm, or even in extreme cases, outright personal abuse. Fortunately GN seems pretty quick to pick this up, and deletes the odd post, even brandishing the welcome red card on occasion. I see those occasional unpleasant outbursts as just slightly irritating background noise, and remind myself that ignorance is the mother of intolerance.

Speaking of GN’ers who have lost children (which selfishly I pray is never me).

When I first joined GN, one of the first posts I read was from one who had just lost her adult child.

Not naming her, she still posts, but her brave and honest posts about her loss has always stayed with me.

To me, someone like her is the essence of GN.

I m another who was pounced on when I dipped my toe in to offer an opinion I can’t remember what it was about and that was after a lovely first greeting had drawn me in
It really knocked me and there was some ripe posting by Jinglebells who I never did know the nice side of
I wasnt very confident when I started out using this forum I had only been on a small local one before and I reverted to my ‘lack of confidence’ days after reading some others harsh comments and being made fun of because of something I said (and not in a pleasant way) … so I disappeared for a year I didn’t lurk I made a definite decision to not to look and to forget GN
I don’t know why I decided to try again I just did and kind of grew my second skin

Nanna
I agree, I guess it’s best not to take it seriously, if you don’t like it, turn it off, job done.
I left for about a year once, not really because of anything directed at me, but because I found it all a bit unnecessarily rude and unpleasant.
I came back deciding to just look at the book threads, gradually I’m drawn back in, but the atmosphere is much nicer now.

I hope she is OK, too. I was thinking about the new posters and how when I first started I started off a lot of threads and most were very welcoming to me. There was a group of 3 or 4 who weren’t. The coven. However, they all left in high dudgeon over some trivial issue a couple of months later and since then it has been great. Some I don’t agree with, of course, but that is what gives the site interest and it is good to hear different points of view. I would say my views are totally different sometimes but, as they say, it’s not worth getting your knickers in a knot over !

I hope Lucca is OK.

Marydol sadly, my thoughts too.

It is the worst thing and my heart goes out to the Gransnetters who have had this happen. Not me personally but my brother died aged 9 months in the 1950s. My lovely nephew aged 16 in the 1980s.