My DD can't go on holiday

Beware of becoming her crutch and enabling her

Isn’t that what we do as parents? Help out in a crisis?
In the past I told our children that the bank of mum and dad offered loans only so that, once replaced, funds would be available for the next one in need.
That has covered Gap Year travel, house deposits, building works and other things.
I would much rather they came to me than paid extortionate interest rates elsewhere and frankly, if you can’t go to your family who can you go to?
It has never been abused and I have been equally honest when I was not in a position to help.
GN seems very inflexible and negative these days.

A crutch is what we offer our children when they need us.

It's what parents do.

Hithere

When is this vacation taking place?

Beware of becoming her crutch and enabling her

God give me strength 😱 Do you ever have any pleasant thoughts/ opinions of people.
I feel very sorry for you in your miserable little world.

I know I had huge support - moral and occasionally financial - from my father when I was in a similar situation, though, by that time, I had two teenagers to support too. I never took my dad for granted and certainly didn't feel 'enabled'. I had my own feet to stand on but yes - those feet did sometimes need a crutch. Parenting doesn't end at 18.

Give her the money for a double room if it makes her feel better tell her it is a loan. If parents can't help out their children who can? I'd rather see where my money is going than leave an amount when we have gone that middle-aged children often don't need.
My late father helped with furniture, mortgages and school fees.
Both my DD's know they can ask for help if and when needed.

Wise words from Foxy and Yammy. The OP’s daughter needs a crutch? So what? That’s what parents are for surely - to extend a hand and do whatever we can to help out? I hope things work out and the holiday can go ahead.

Hope she had a lovely break Lizbeth

I hope your daughter has a lovely holiday, divorce is dreadful as is struggling through IVF especially when it is unsuccessful. If you can help her out with the cost, then that's what I would do. As far as I am concerned it's not a crutch it's just a simple act of kindness.

Can she contact hotel direct …. Then book a flight

Thank you everyone.

Hithere, I am and will be my DDs crutch ( and also her siblings) whenever they need me to be. And if that " enables" her to go on a well deserved holiday, then that will be marvellous.

Foxygloves

^Beware of becoming her crutch and enabling her^

Isn’t that what we do as parents? Help out in a crisis?
In the past I told our children that the bank of mum and dad offered loans only so that, once replaced, funds would be available for the next one in need.
That has covered Gap Year travel, house deposits, building works and other things.
I would much rather they came to me than paid extortionate interest rates elsewhere and frankly, if you can’t go to your family who can you go to?
It has never been abused and I have been equally honest when I was not in a position to help.
GN seems very inflexible and negative these days.

Quite. We have done, short term loans, longer loans or offered a home and/or emotional support.

I hope we are a crutch for all our children, in lots of ways, whenever they break a leg - actually or figuratively.

I’m bl88dy glad I was given a crutch - two in fact- when I broke my leg. If I hadn’t had them I’d have been bed/chair bound for several months. I very much doubt that would have enhanced my recovery.

I'm a widow, so when I go on holiday with my daughter and son in law I book a room through the hotel. Its more than half, usually two thirds of the price for two sharing.

I hope your daughter has a lovely holiday Lizbethann55. She has had a dreadful time and must be at rock bottom. The only way is up from here on

Search for the name of the hotel on the internet and it will bring up all the holiday companies that use that hotel and probably a website for the hotel. Check the deals on the other companies to see what they have to offer.

Or contact the hotel and ask them what they can offer. They will be happy to help. I did this so I could holiday with friends and it worked out vey well.

If none of the suggestions work then could you pay some of it. She needs her parents and friends during this tough time.

I am glad that I have been able to help my children!

Im sure something can be sorted out as others say.

Unfortunately it's not down to TUI it really depends on the hotel. Hotels generally have a very limited number of single rooms, they tend to be booked up very early too. It's a common problem but the travel agent cannot be blamed in this instance. It's possible that direct contact with the hotel may bring up a single room availability and always worth a try.

Feel for her, awful time. I really hope she gets to go away with her friends and puts the smile back on her face and things improve, lovely she has thoughtful friends..

Why not try Airbnb

To be honest, single rooms are barely cheaper than double ones - I book a double when I stay in hotels, even though I am now sadly on my own. I cannot believe that it is much more expensive than a single.